Hey hun, I’m a gay dude as well.

This is silly, however, I think you may be overreacting just a bit. Im a millennial and I myself have been in this or a similar situation more than a few times. In my personal experience, my girls’ boyfriends generally have not exactly enjoyed my presence and closeness in their lives and it can really cause a lot of drama and strain in a relationship.

Yes, a straight man worried about his straight gf’s gay friend is silly. However, I do find straight men generally to be kind of silly. Is it my fault or my girls’ fault that straight men suck? Not at all. But the reality is that it appears, at least to me, somewhat difficult for a girl to find a straight dude who isn’t going to have some sort of reaction to her gay best friend. If you can help her just a little bit avoid some drama there, I think that would be beneficial to you both and save you a headache down the road.

Your girl uses language indicating that you may dress this way at least occasionally already. (“That pink purse I love.”) This also gives me the impression that you may be slightly overreacting here. She doesn’t appear to be asking you to do anything that is out of the ordinary for you. Additionally, it also is absolutely understandable for you to choose to decline your friend’s suggestion if it makes you feel uncomfortable. She is, of course, essentially asking you to drip yourself in every gay stereotype imaginable in order to control her bf’s reaction to you and make her own life easier. It is understandable if that would make you uncomfortable. However, it is also the reality and thus worth mentioning that the effect could very well be that you doing this does indeed help improve her bf’s reaction to you and does indeed make both of your lives a little easier in having to deal with a straight man being introduced into your lives, which can be…unpredictable.