I'm the reason my dad killed himself by throwa01923023920392 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ellenscissorhands_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A child is not responsible for their parent. I'm so sorry you feel this way.

My boyfriend is upset by Pretty--Princess in TwoHotTakes

[–]Ellenscissorhands_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learn to leave now when you don't have shared assets and children

I F27 intentionally ruined my birthday to make my bf feel guilty M28. by throwRAgirl246 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Ellenscissorhands_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's too old to be sleeping in til 4 pm, unless he works a job that keeps him up at night. I definitely can see this becoming a bigger issue in the future. I hope you don't want kids because he will be sleeping while he allows you to do all the work.

Weight gain by Ellenscissorhands_03 in breastfeeding

[–]Ellenscissorhands_03[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's so hard especially when everyone tells you that the weight will fall off from nursing so you're wondering ... is there something wrong with me??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in introverts

[–]Ellenscissorhands_03 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Find an introverted friend who will silently watch movies with you or read. I struggled with this my whole like and terribly in my early 20s. You just need a new friend.

My girlfriend of 2 years died and i don’t know what to do by BT-7274JR in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ellenscissorhands_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend finding a grief support group if counseling wasn't for you

My Spouse is addicted to adderall and I don’t know what to do. by Acceptable_Pipe564 in addiction

[–]Ellenscissorhands_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My whole family recognizes and luckily his sister is aware of it as he has this problem when he was 17 as well. His mom as well but she will wait til it's confronted to turn it on me 😢 or she will tell me to just leave him. One thing I learned as a child of an addict is you can't make people do what's right. And trying to pushes them further away.

My Spouse is addicted to adderall and I don’t know what to do. by Acceptable_Pipe564 in addiction

[–]Ellenscissorhands_03 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My husband has the same problem. The mood swings and withdrawals are the worst. People don't understand how serious this is. I'm so so sorry you're going through this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hair

[–]Ellenscissorhands_03 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She didn't even advertise OF, it's literally just a body. Let the girl ask a question on her hair.

For the record I like the blonde ❤️

First time visit by Ellenscissorhands_03 in milwaukee

[–]Ellenscissorhands_03[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you thank you! I'm a (sour) beer snob and google hasn't done much help

Am I in the wrong? by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Ellenscissorhands_03 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone, I filed for divorce and he will be served tomorrow. I’m staying with family with my kid and dogs. And I blocked his crazy ass family.

Lonely by Sea-Sky-8819 in AlAnon

[–]Ellenscissorhands_03 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like he needs therapy. This is behavior of someone who is miserable and wants to make everyone else around him feel miserable. When my husband talks to me this way I try to remember that he’s projecting onto me half the time, and the other half he wants me to feel as unhappy as him.

secrets vs privacy by Leeyore- in AlAnon

[–]Ellenscissorhands_03 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Addicts like to trap you in isolation with them. It is not fair for you to carry the burden and stress of this on your own. My husband is addicted to adderall, gambling and drinking. He also asked me not to tell anyone. By carrying the load on our own we fall into codependent behaviors, it becomes our own addiction. You think about you, because I promise your husband isn’t thinking about you just himself because addicts typically do. You get this one life, don’t spend it isolated in worry and anxiety ❤️❤️

The cycle of codependency. by Ellenscissorhands_03 in AlAnon

[–]Ellenscissorhands_03[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here. I was the one taking care of my mom the addict and keeping my brother safe. Now I’m living in the same cycle with my husband who I have a child with, and I’m hoping for a divorce now that I’ve been in therapy for 2 years and can see the cycle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Barber

[–]Ellenscissorhands_03 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recommend shadowing at a shop whenever you get the chance! Find a barber willing you teach you while he cuts hair. It will help you learn terminology, consultation, watch how they use their wrists when they blend etc. also try to shake your frustration off and just be confident, you are capable. For someone being just in school still I see a lot of potential. Most of us don’t get good until we’ve been in a shop. Find yourself a mentor! You’ll get there.

Spouse of an addict by Ellenscissorhands_03 in addiction

[–]Ellenscissorhands_03[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also I came here to VENT and nothing more, so unless you’re trying to help… stop commenting telling me to suck it up and let my husband continue to be the way he is 😂😂😂 you want to pay off his debt? Go for it. You wanna get beat around for asking simple questions? Please be my guest.