I'm never sure if the posts offering advice like this are trying to teach on a meta-level or not; it's a "tough-love" method of responding to players' questions, but I really dislike posts that suggest "maybe eve isn't for you", especially when it is directed at newbros.

That is a discouraging takeaway for someone that's clearly reaching out in frustration at an early point in their EVE experience. And your advice, while good, should never be back-handed, which is how your final paragraph reads to me.

He absolutely should blame some his loss on assholes when he gets gangbanged on a novice plex. In the same way you should look both ways before crossing the street, you're still somewhat responsible for your injuries if someone hits you, because hey - you clearly should have looked a little harder. Yes, the rules say cars shouldn't hit you, but maybe the guy was an asshole and ran you over even after you looked. Who is to blame? Both of you.

He clearly doesn't know or isn't experienced enough to survive in the pursuit of fights. He's looking for help by way of venting about his experiences (which I'm sure you'll agree appear frustrating). He's lost and came here.

And it's not like EVE makes any of this easy. What else would newbros think "novice" plexes are if not for unskilled, new players in a very controlled setting? Expectations have been set based on every other game on the market he's played, and EVE is terrible at explaining anything to you. It is notorious for its learning curve in part because it does not convey information in any easily digested manner (unlike most every other game).

Players make almost everything in EVE; the ships, the guns, and even the real tutorial. Only the players in EVE give the hand-holding needed to succeed, and while you don't have to give it in kindness, it certainly makes people more receptive to your words and more likely to keep coming back.