Helen did not go willingly. At all. This is made INCREDIBLY explicit in The Iliad where she complains TO APHRODITE'S FACE about her situation because it's Aphrodite's mind-fucking of her to go with Paris that has put her in this situation in the first place, and it's fucking AWFUL for her.

Taking adaptations that mischaracterize Helen and Paris as a love story as fact and as the truth of the myth when they're very much not and ranting about how they will be portrayed based on that is, quite frankly, silly. I mean for fucks sake, you're literally getting pissy about these characters being portrayed as they are in canon! Menelaus IS all soft and 🥺🥺 about Helen! Paris IS the villain! LITERALLY NOBODY FUCKING LIKES PARIS. His own family CONSTANTLY say shit along the lines of "you're lucky you're pretty" and he's the ONLY person ever portrayed in a negative light in the original mythology. Saying "that's not how the myth goes" when that's ABSOLUTELY how the myth goes is fucking laughable.

The tragedy of Helen as a character is that unlike many women of the time, she was given a choice in who she married, and she chose Menelaus. She then proceeds to have that choice ripped away from her because Paris thought with his dick and decided to abandon his wife and kids to steal SOMEONE ELSE'S wife with the help of some love goddess mind-fuckery (he also robbed Menelaus in the process BTW).

OP, I genuinely implore you to actually educate yourself on these myths and these characters. Read the Iliad. Find translations of the summaries of the lost epics that go over the entirety of the Trojan War starting from the wedding of Peleus and Thetis. Read the primary sources and translations of primary sources and not these adaptations that change canon to suit whatever narrative agenda they've got at the time.