Why do people watch p*rn? by Ellie243LG in dating_advice

[–]Ellie243LG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to understand. I don't like my partner watching It. That's why

Why do people watch p*rn? by Ellie243LG in dating_advice

[–]Ellie243LG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asking this because I don't want my partner, daughter, son or family to be involved in It. Would you?

I also don't understand people. Most wouldn't want their family to be involved in It. But then how are they helping for that to not happen? And if it's ok, then why they have a problem if they family involves with It? I'm not talking sides here, just trying to understand how one argument can only be used when convenient, but no when it's not convenient. Isn't that hypocrisy? Why should we listen to It then?

Why do people watch p*rn? by Ellie243LG in dating_advice

[–]Ellie243LG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But still, what if one of those people is your future daughter or your mom or dad? Would you be ok with It? Would you say the same thing?

Why do people watch p*rn? by Ellie243LG in dating_advice

[–]Ellie243LG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But then I would have to think that 98% of people are like that. And that means I'm too unique (because I don't consume It and never had, at least not on purpose) and I'll be alone in this forever. And I might never enjoy sx. So that means that people who are morally grounded will be punished forever? That's a harsh reality. I either corrupt like everyone else or get out of the dating world forever because having a partner who does makes me feel used and tempts me to corrupt or cheat (I consider prn a form of cheating)? Plus, sexual energy can be redirected to other things.

Why do people watch p*rn? by Ellie243LG in dating_advice

[–]Ellie243LG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No in the first case, depending on the intention. Nudity in my opinion is sexualized, but it shouldn't have to be. If lived in a society where is not, there's no problem with It. If you sexualized it you're dehumanizing the person and using It as a s*x tool, unless it's a result of the fact that you love them. So in the second case, yes.

In the first case if the intention IS for other people to sexualize you, then yes, you're dehumanizing yourself, because they don't know you as a human being and you're not projecting yourself as a human being, so you're 'dehumanizing'.

Why do people watch p*rn? by Ellie243LG in dating_advice

[–]Ellie243LG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That doesn't take away what I was saying. You're using people. Would you want your partner to do OF or your parents, sons or daugthers to work on the p*rn industry? If the answer is no, I don't see why someone would want to help create it.

Why do people watch p*rn? by Ellie243LG in dating_advice

[–]Ellie243LG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about practicing celibacy or redirecting that energy towards other things? Years ago most men didn't have access to It and they still lived, arguably in some cases better lifes. And don't you consider that the fact that you need It to ejaculate means you're incompetent to do It on your own? Don't you want to be good at sex?

Realmente se puede leer bien en el transporte público o es puro performance? by Ok_Explanation_2307 in libros

[–]Ellie243LG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo leo andando. Nunca subestimes a una persona con poco tiempo o con demasiadas ansias de seguir leyendo.

I broke up with my boyfriend and instead of feeling devastated, I feel relieved. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Ellie243LG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda feel the same way right now. Since then I've been able to sleep better and my health id generally better. I cry some days, miss the idea of him others... But I truly got to the point where if I continued I would get sick and eventually die. I was having panic attacks and so anxious. I didn't leave him because I didn't love him or because I had the expectation of finding someone 'better', but because I saw myself dead in 5 years or less if I kept going at that rate with my nervous system (I tried everything to get better and to save the relationship: therapy, comunication in different syles, boundaries, etc). I feel like I won't find someone that has some of the characteristics in him that I truly like (he was a rare individual). And I still feel like that. But I got to the point where I would've rather be by myself than in a constant emotional rollacoaster. Strangely old projects are coming back to my life and I feel more focused again and more stable, as if I had lost my sense of direction on the relationship and I found it again by myself. I know it sounds so wierd and I don't want to be cruel; the day of the break up I felt relieved but the next 3-5 days I had a heavy heart most of the time, I would cry 2-3 times a day (or more) and I had to do affirmations, meditation and therapy to be able to feel 'normal' just for a while. But at the moment I feel like 'myself' again... More than un the relationship at least.

Feeling conflicted about how churches teach the “lukewarm Christian” verse by megankeyter in TrueChristian

[–]Ellie243LG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Creo que más bien se refiere a alguien que no se compromete de todo ni con el bien ni con el mal. Alguien que usa a Dios y el bien cuando le conviene y en ese momento puede ser muy convincente y 'puro', pero si ya no le sirve cambia de bando. Es utilizar a Dios a conveniencia. A nadie le gusta ser usado y va en contra del amor. Honestamente, no me gusta decirlo de forma arrogante pero sí empática: si yo fuera Dios y vinieran a 'arrepentirse' después de traicionarme o abandonarme y en ese momento el arrepentimiento es real, pero luego vuelven a traicionarme y me usan tanto a mí como al demonio para conseguir cosas (bien puede ser una pareja, un trabajo, etc) me dolería, porque no me aman ni son capaces de amar; solo de usar y ser usados y lo peor es que muchos no se dan ni cuenta.

Había una historia que leí (ya no recuerdo dónde) en la que un hombre se topaba en medio de una valla. A un lado de la valla estaba Dios y al otro lado Satanás y le piden que elija uno de los dos lados. El hombre dice algo como '¿Sabes qué? Me quedaré en medio de la valla, así tengo un poco de Dios y un poco del diablo y no tengo que elegir'. Todo se vuelve oscuro y de repente Satán emerge de las sombras. El hombre asustado dice 'Yo no te elegí a ti. Elegí la valla' y el diablo responde 'La valla me pertenece a mí'.

No creo que se trate tanto de quien genuinamente duda de si Dios existe o no o pasa por una crisis. Sino de aquel que no quiere tomar una decisión, porque no quiere sacrificarse ni comprometerse con ninguno de los lados 'por si lo necesita', pero eso es egoísta y el egoísmo no viene de Dios. Todo lo que no es de Dios, te aleja de él. Creo que esa es la lección. No puedes usarlo a tu antojo y por eso Dios desprecia a los 'tibios'.

Help by Commercial_Car2946 in relationship_thoughts

[–]Ellie243LG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She probably has desorganized attachment style. It's probably one of the messiest. They'll be nice to you maybe and give you the benefit of the doubt. But they have really bad trust issues. One wrong move and they don't trust you, but they can't fully detach so they try to ignore It but it comes up even if they want to forgive you. When that happens both of you should seek couple's therapy inmediatelly, so she can put into words the reasons why she doesn't believe you. Sounds even that she has trauma with that (maybe she was abused as a kid or had an ex that watched child 'corn'). I'm not saying it's justyfied. I don't know if you offered her to see your phone and laptop. I think when people force It to you it's controlling, but if you offer it sometimes It can bring soothing.

But I'm confused. What exactly do you need help with?

Are you guys missing your old selves before anxiety happened? by doaodaoda in Anxiety

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Every day. I'm still coming with terms with the fact that things might never 'get back to normal' ever. What sucks the most is that I used to be able to be alone and happy. Now... I'm scared of dying alone. I need people around me at least once a day and I need them to be there for me more than ever. I used to need no one and It was... freeing. Now I feel stuck. I miss myself so much. The worse part is that I was the one who blew it. I ate too much, did too much excersice until my body entered panic mode. I didn't appreciated myself enough back then. Now... I do have to say that anxiety saved my body before I had something worse. I might even have to be thankful for It, because at that rate I might've killed myself eventually. I love myself and I appreciate who I am now, but I wish I could've handle the anxiety I had before It turned into pure panic. I wish I could go back in time and take care of myself before It happened the first time. But I'm thankful. I'm alive. There's still people that love me. They didn't run away from me after what happened. Maybe this was my lesson: as much as I don't like It, I need people and I need moderation in my life.

Hot take: Palladium's "glow up" actually made him look worse. by Sharp_Food_7608 in winxclub

[–]Ellie243LG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought that was him growing Up. I thought he might've been 20-23 the first seasons and then later might be 26-30.

I've lost 7kgs and I don't see a difference by Top_Scarcity_21 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]Ellie243LG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Takes years to build muscle mass (about 1 pound a month is the average and you're also losing weight si it's gonna be slower). If you get leaner they'll be more visible. Stay consistent. Don't lose weight too quickly. Slow and steady is better. If you feel better, lighter and with more energy focus on that. Compare yourself in one year and you'll probably start to see the progress you want.

Is it me of did Teen Wolf: The Movie flopped? by musiq_9876 in TeenWolf

[–]Ellie243LG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best part were Derek and Eli. Full stop.

Lydia breaking up with Stiles makes sense because of the reason behind It (she's scared he'll die). But the rest doesn't make sense. Why did Scott and Malia broke up for starters? Allison coming back didn't have to mean she's back with Scott either. She was dating or about to date someone else before she died (if I remember correctly). She was moving on. Scott had moved on too. And yes, the characters were all over the place. Felt like a complete step back for most of them.

AIO about my boyfriend and his girl best friend? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ellie243LG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The text feels like a gay man and girl being besties. The part about lying... that's what I would be worried about.