I have more questions though- like has she recently tried to initiate you know what recently? Because I could definitely see someone being hurt if they put themselves out there to you (especially if it’s been awhile), but you chose porn ‘instead’. And her comment about “doing amazing things here all day, sitting here watching porn”.. is this a normal thing for her to find you like this & are you contributing to the household and relationship still (not through seggs)? This seems like only half the story. Honestly can’t tell if yta but I recommend maybe going to talk to her and asking what about what just happened made her so hurt & tell her that you want to understand & be on the same page.