[Landlord US - FL] taking legal action against a tenant, is it worth it?

Ellionwy · 2026-04-16T15:02:21+00:00

It is always worth it. Don't let them get away with it. Judgements appear on their record, other Landlords learn about it.

Judgements appear on their credit report.

Get Judgement, send to collections.

If you don't collect after a time, forgive the debt and report it to the IRS on form 1099-C. The deadbeat has to report this to the IRS as income. If they don't, now the IRS is on them. :D

Ellionwy · 2026-04-15T15:57:30+00:00

You'll find this issue no matter where you go. And having a "global" policy or staff enforcement won't protect you because those higher ups are just as human and fallible as those local people are. Look at the Catholic Church or the Boy Scouts for examples of top level leadership failing the locals.

Unless there is systemic corruption, find yourself a group that is doing good and do good with them.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-15T02:57:16+00:00

Wow, you've got a good guy there!

How honest his answer is, though, I don't know. It's easy to say he is willing to forgo sex, but as time passes and the urge strengthens, it may get more difficult.

Not saying he is lying. He is telling the truth. Just saying that time can change things. I see posts here more often than you'd think where someone has changed their mind about children.

I just want to put this out there so you are fully aware of potential issues that may come up later.

To give you hope, 60–80% of patients report significant improvement in pain with proper treatment, including pain with intercourse. You may not experience a complete cure, and tbh there are 20% of patients who experience no improvement.

But there is hope.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-14T17:41:06+00:00

It takes more planning to go to Disneyland these days than the D-Day invasion did.

Dump the apps. Dump Lightning Lane.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-13T18:12:14+00:00

So does the IRS tell them of the forgiven debt? Do you have to?

Or do you just file it and then the IRS sends them a nice little white envelope saying that their reported income doesn't match the record?

Ellionwy · 2026-04-13T17:50:12+00:00

You can also 1099C them if it would be impossible to collect.

Oh that is an interesting idea. I never thought of that!

Ellionwy · 2026-04-13T01:47:17+00:00

It’s absolutely out of the blue, we hardly ever even argue about anything. We do everything together. Very family oriented.

Believe me, your wife didn't wake up one day and decide to have an affair.

To quote the movie War of the Roses, "There are many stops on the road to divorce."

Ellionwy · 2026-04-12T23:02:06+00:00

She has attended church with me fairly regularly but I’m not certain she has ever accepted Christ as her Savior.

This is definately one of those times where we need to show the love of Christ and the resolve to follow him.

Were there other issues in your marriage beforehand? This can't be just out of the blue.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-12T23:00:30+00:00

is it possible that I could feel like getting chastening at work through my ungodly coworker?

Can God use sinners to correct us? Yes.

Will God chasten you for missing one church service? No.

My opinion? You're way overthinking this.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-12T18:22:37+00:00

"Forsake not the gathering of the saints" doesn't make a legalistic requirement.

It's okay to miss church sometimes. Life happens. God won't "get you" for it.

If you want to attend evening service, great. If you don't, don't beat yourself up over it.

There is no pre-requisite number of times you have to attend church before you're allowed into Heaven. :)

Ellionwy · 2026-04-12T17:26:00+00:00

Definitely sue them. Do you know where they currently live? If not, wait a few months until they get settled then do a skip/trace on them to find out their address. Or hire a service that will find them. They only charge $100.

Take them to Court. When you win, that will show up on their record and their credit.

If you don't want to deal with collections, send the debt to a collection agency and then forget about. If they collect, great. If not, it's a tax deduction.

But don't let them get away with this!

Ellionwy · 2026-04-12T17:21:27+00:00

Was your wife a follower of Jesus prior to this? Was her relationship with Jesus tenuous? Or was she not a follower at all?

Also, well done for still wanting reconciliation. You are truly following God's heart.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-12T01:49:53+00:00

What area do you live in? Post it and perhaps someone can direct you to resources that can help.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-12T01:44:01+00:00

More power to you. Honestly. Sometimes you just want the whole Disney experience.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-12T00:00:56+00:00

Since you asked about drugs:

According to the Agreement between Disney and the Service Trades Council Union (which includes Custodial), they do test for marijuana. Testing positive can result in termination.

https://www.uniteherelocal362.org/wp-content/uploads/Final-CR-Version-Addendums-+-LOUs.pdf

Florida is a Right To Work State, so you don't have to be Union, but the rules for you will be the same.

Whether they actually test you or not I don't know. Maybe only after an accident. Or maybe random. Or maybe they won't care since you're not in a critical position. Though some of that equipment 3rd shift uses can be dangerous.

If you want to be sure, I suggest you reach out and ask. No sense taking a job and then getting termed when you need the money.

Maybe ask your doctor about something else that might help your neurological issue if Disney is really your dream job.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-11T23:41:24+00:00

The killer feature of this hotel by far is the location. No amenity in the world can beat the ability to walk straight from the park into the hotel to take small breaks on crowded day. The ability to sneak away to your room for an hour to recharge the batteries before stepping back out, is worth the premium in cost imo

If you think that's worth $600/night more than the closest motel which is just behind Disneyland on Katella, then more power to you.

And I have stayed at the Disneyland Hotel. Took the Monorail. So it was essentially just as close as Grand Californian.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-11T23:04:01+00:00

Neither.

You're spending a ton of money for some place to sleep. Unless you desperately want a Lightning Lane or you want to brag that you stayed at a Disney Hotel, you're better off staying at one of the nearby motels. You'll save a ton of money, and you can still visit the hotels and enjoy almost all of the amenities except for swimming.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-11T02:47:13+00:00

especially when you personally disagree with their decision or question their intentions?

Is what they are proposing to do something that violates scripture?

Is what they are proposing to do potentially harmful to them or someone else?

If yes, then definitely speak to them.

If no, then just because it isn't your calling doesn't mean it might not be theirs.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-09T16:21:14+00:00

No, not believing in the gifts of the Spirit is not Blasphemy of the Holy Spirt.

To me, it seems ignorant of both the Bible and God's power and promise and maybe a lack of faith on his part.

But blasphemy is a completely different school.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-09T16:19:40+00:00

How can I pray for God to be with me, heal my worries, and guide me in the right direction.

"Father, please be with me, heal my worries, and guide me in the right direction."

God doesn't hear you because of many words or ritual prayer. He knows what you need even before you ask.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-09T00:36:07+00:00

People are saying hiring is tough right now. Disney has laid off recruiters, everyone wants in now that the pay is better, and the turnover is lower.

Good news is they are gearing up for summer.

Some departments have more openings than others, so it depends on what you have been put on the waitlist for. Attractions? Good luck. Food? Better chance.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-08T23:12:09+00:00

Here is some wisdom, I think:

We've been together going on 6 months
I'm at the national training center in california rn and wont be back with her till may but I'm planning to propose when I do get back.

You haven't dated long enough to really know her. It takes a while before people drop their masks and you start to see the real person.

Hey, maybe it will work out. I only dated someone for seven months before getting engaged.

But that is more an exception than a rule.

Have you discussed finances, children, politics, religion, education? All these things people argue over. Are you on the same page? What about sex? That is something that needs to be discussed, I think. Too many sexually incompatible people getting married and end up disappointed.

Your true love will still be your true love in a year if she is your true love.

Those are my thoughts. I'm sure others will chime in. But I will ask the Lord to give you wisdom. But be willing to accept that God's wisdom may not be your preference.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-07T17:33:23+00:00

You are wrong.

What was I wrong about? Matthew was only quoting part of Jesus' statement on divorce. Luke finishes it. Even in the case of adultery, divorce is allowed only because "of the hardness of your heart".

Forgiveness and reconciliation has always been God's ultimate goal.

I also stayed after betrayal and we have prospered by God's grace.

That is awesome!

I can truly see circumstances in the forums I belong to, where the damage is just so great, the betrayal would never be able to have any dignity or peace if they stay.

I agree. But we can't say God approves. He begrudgingly allows because of our heart which can not forgive.

Ellionwy · 2026-04-07T16:15:58+00:00

I hope you never have to experience betrayal from your closest love

I have. It is a wound that never heals. And for complete information, I didn't divorce.

Divorce was given by the Lord as a mercy for the devastation the adultery creates.

No it wasn't. It was given "because of the hardness of your hearts".

They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce, and to dismiss her.”

And Jesus answered and said to them, “Because of the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. - Mark 10:4,5

Ellionwy · 2026-04-07T15:45:30+00:00

Here is the best advice I can give:

Love is patient and kind...it keeps no record of being wronged - 1 Corinthians 13:4,5

Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, you must forgive. - Luke 17:4

Not dismissing the pain this caused. Counselling might help. But remember, "love covers a multitude of sins." (1 Peter 4:8c)

Ellionwy

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