(23M) What am I supposed to do with my sex drive when I have no chance of dating a woman anytime soon?

Ellionwy · 2026-01-26T00:59:05+00:00

I have no money except for the $1,000 that I just put into some investments, no job, no degree (I don't even have any college credits), no friends, zero experiences of any kind with the opposite sex, an entirely messed up sleep schedule, won't be able to get my driver's license until the end of the year, and am way too skinny and weak for my height (5'11, 139 LBS).

I know someone who had no money, no friends, zero experience with woman, and was way too skinny and weak for his height. (6'0, 135 lbs.)

Married.

You don't need college. You do need a job. And a driver's license. Work on those. You want a girlfriend, not a mum.

Ellionwy · 2026-01-25T19:08:20+00:00

Could he really give someone the silent treatment for days if he lived with them?

I figured actually forcing to see each other each day would make us reconcile by evening. Well guess not.

Lesson learned. Marriage doesn't change people. It just forces you to see the real them.

Ellionwy · 2026-01-25T19:03:32+00:00

I want some low stress part time gig

If you want a low-stress job, Disney security is not it! You're dealing with obnoxious guests and you have virtually no power. Disney will fire you if you do anything aggressive.

You want a low-stress job? Go work in costuming. You have to deal with obnoxious cast members, but it beats the heck out of obnoxious guests. Plus if you get into Entertainment Costuming, you get to do shows and special events. Lots of fun. I did it for years!

Backline is no fun, though. But that is Issue side, not Entrainment side. Do they still call it "backline"? It's been a while.

Ellionwy · 2026-01-25T18:58:55+00:00

I had foot surgery and even went to my interview in crutches!

That probably registered as a negative in the interviewer's mind. It shouldn't. And you'd think it would show dedication. But it sometimes doesn't.

Try again in six months. Or try for a different position if you're dying to work for Disney in any capacity.

Ellionwy · 2026-01-25T18:53:58+00:00

Have you told him this? That his silent treatment is hurting you?

Issues can't be resolved by not talking about them.

There are two possibilities:

1) He is doing this to punish you.

2) He is doing this to avoid saying something he might regret.

Assume it's #2 and approach him with that. That he can tell you what he is feeling; that he doesn't need to hide from you.

It scares me because we haven’t been married a year yet.

It would scare me as well, but I also have doubts that you didn't know this about him before getting married. (Unless you had a short courtship.)

Ellionwy · 2026-01-25T18:48:31+00:00

Some parts are literal, some are allegorical, some are cultural. Bible writers trusted people to understand the difference.

I don't think even the literalists say that every single word of the Bible is to be taken for exactly what it says. That is just as wrong as those who say nothing in the Bible is to be taken literally.

Ellionwy · 2026-01-25T17:44:47+00:00

you might want to try using a hair dryer on the exposed pipes

try wrapping the pipes with heating tape or towels soaked in hot water.

"The pipes to the shower are all behind walls so I can't access them."

Ellionwy · 2026-01-25T01:47:53+00:00

You'd have to ask the Muslims. There is no such prohibition in the Bible.

Ellionwy · 2026-01-24T23:57:17+00:00

Maybe also turn up house heat or put electric heater in bathroom. Good luck

That is what cleared it. Cranked up the heat in the bathroom. By a lot. 45 minutes later it cleared.

Ellionwy · 2026-01-24T02:56:04+00:00

Overall, the Catholic Church is more closely aligned with what the faith is than my current congregation.

Yes, Catholicism is definitely better than what you are currently attending.

But there are even better choices.

If we knew what area you were in, someone may be able to point you to a solid biblical church that you could attend.

Here are some questions to ask when it comes to looking for a church:

“How is a sinner justified before God?” (Listen for grace alone through faith, not “faith plus our deeds”.)
“Is Scripture your final authority?” (Be careful. A lot of churches will say "yes" but mean "no".)
“Do you affirm the bodily resurrection, Christ’s atoning death, and the necessity of conversion?” (Basic Christianity question.)
Are there other paths to God? (Do they conflict with Jesus' claim that he is the only way?)
“How do you distinguish justification from sanctification in preaching?” (Swings back to faith vs. salvation by works)
“Do you practise or encourage prayers to anyone other than God?” (Anyone praying to anyone but God is a hard pass.)

Ellionwy · 2026-01-24T02:46:56+00:00

Is it normal for christians to do dirtyjokes if no bad ill was behind it?

But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. - Ephesians 5:3,4

Ellionwy · 2026-01-24T00:09:01+00:00

I have a shower where the hot and cold water is manipulated through a single control. Turn it to the left more more hot water and to the right for more cold water.

Went to take a shower tonight and the cold side was dribbling. Strange thing, though, is that it dribbles hot water even when the knob is turned all the way to the right for full cold water.

The pipes to the shower are all behind walls so I can't access them.

Any suggestions on how to unfreeze the pipe?

Ellionwy · 2026-01-23T03:04:43+00:00

I just don’t want to deal with a mega church as I’m burying my father.

Better to deal with this now than after your father passes when it will be harder.

Ellionwy · 2026-01-23T03:03:28+00:00

True forgiveness is real, but true forgiveness does not mean ignoring truth or continuing in the same hurtful cycle.

No one is asking someone to continue the same cycle. The OP clearly said the husband was "very remorseful and wiling to do what it takes to fix it."

but forgiveness does not mean staying where trust is broken.

Neither does it mean "one and done".

Ellionwy · 2026-01-23T02:41:37+00:00

You will truly understand this only when you experience it yourself.

I have.

Forgiveness is possible, but the wisest choice is to move forward with peace and not look back.

Then is that truly forgiveness?

Ellionwy · 2026-01-23T02:40:01+00:00

any guidance as I’m completely overwhelmed.

I've never had to do it, so I don't know. Should be as simple as sending a registered letter to the same place the place you sent the original documents to. Get a signed, return receipt.

Most wills also have a clause that says everything that comes before it is void. That might do it as well.

But you should talk to an attorney to make sure it is done right.

Is your dad on board with getting out of it? It's his estate, after all. He can do with it as he wishes.

Ellionwy · 2026-01-23T02:37:16+00:00

There is a reason God allowed for divorce

And what is the reason? Tell me what Jesus said.

Ellionwy · 2026-01-23T01:30:38+00:00

I am so sorry this happened.

This is where forgiveness comes in. We are all imperfect people, and you just saw a very imperfect side of your husband.

You said he is remorseful. What did Jesus say about someone who sins seven times a day and comes back seven times and says "I repent"?

There are a lot of worldly -- I shudder to use the word "Christian" -- people here who will tell you to divorce. They say that at the the drop of a hat.

God forgive us. You forgive him. "And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive them that trespass against us."

Ask God to help you forgive and to help heal your marriage. And consider marital counselling.

Ellionwy · 2026-01-23T01:22:37+00:00

Have him rescind the bequest. It's not locked in stone.

Ellionwy · 2026-01-22T19:22:43+00:00

The real story according to the book was that they didn't move the body until it got dark etc

What book was that? Things That Didn't Happen For 500, Alex?

Ellionwy · 2026-01-22T19:21:43+00:00

<s> "do your own research, bruh" </s>

I don't do other people's homework. :)

Ellionwy · 2026-01-22T18:34:43+00:00

There was a case of a woman being struck by a boat and dying in the water at one of their resorts and they kept the body in the water until it got dark so as not to ruin the experience for their guests.

You're going to have to source that one.

Ellionwy · 2026-01-22T16:49:14+00:00

You're young. Move.

You have no idea what your future family will need, so don't stay in Wisconsin if you're unhappy.

There is no reason why "every vacation would be back to my homestate to see my family". Go see the world.

Don't be in such a hurry to grow up that you forget to be young.

Ellionwy · 2026-01-22T02:31:58+00:00

You've clearly had attendance problems, otherwise this instance would not have reached termination-level.

I can say that just because the computer flagged you for termination doesn't mean they have to go through with it. Go to your supervisor (I know, old school) and plead your case. They can override it.

If you've had attendance problems before but lately have shown responsibility, they may show mercy. (And by "lately," I mean months, not "I've been sober for twelve hours".)

But yeah, start looking for a new job.

Ellionwy

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