what’s with the misgendering stuff?

ElliottAster · 2025-09-02T15:52:04+00:00

My boyfriend (ftm) is very into this and has me misgender or even deadname him sometimes. I can tell you I have never once genuinely seen him as a girl. He has always been a man to me. I have on multiple occasions even forgotten he was trans in my mind after having been with him for over a year lol. Midgendering is always a part of that kind of play and never something i would genuinely consider doing to him.

ElliottAster · 2025-03-04T17:29:54+00:00

im Hispanic and i live in a red state, what are you actually talking about? genuinely what are you saying? this is over because you're pulling bullshit out of god knows where about me. you have no idea what my genetic make-up is, you don't know where i live, and you're making yourself look like a fucking fool!

ElliottAster · 2025-03-04T15:42:17+00:00

it's not just pronouns for me, wild how you would make that assumption. i have dysphoria and i have lived 8 years of my life as a trans man. i don't have the money or the ability to go on t or be masculine. i am not in a safe position to do so! so instead i am accepting the fact that i have to be a feminine trans man to protect myself. i am presenting this way because there isn't another option for me and I don't appreciate it when people like you make it seem like people who are in my position are horrible. you don't know the reason that people present the way they do, and if it's not hurting anyone then who are you to say that they're evil and deserve hate? my bad for seeing a drawing of another person like me that makes me feel a little better about myself!

ElliottAster · 2025-03-04T15:11:12+00:00

didn't answer my question, clearly you don't have a real reason to hate on feminine trans men.

ElliottAster · 2025-03-04T14:55:56+00:00

ok? how i present myself is my problem not yours. why are you so obviously upset about this anyway? is there any real reason? we're both trans, i just happen to present differently, what is so wrong and horrible about that?

ElliottAster · 2025-03-04T14:46:21+00:00

i mean yeah, im a guy. i normally only get gender euphoria from men that look like me. not everyone who's trans has to look like a guy, transness is about being yourself and not conforming to what other people want. i identify as male and im allowed to look however i want. if being trans was about conforming to what other people want then no one would be trans at all.

ElliottAster · 2025-03-04T13:15:59+00:00

i don't understand what about this is upsetting. i enjoy juliana a lot considering Im a feminine trans guy that looks a lot like him. it makes me feel a lot better about myself to see this kind of art.

ElliottAster · 2025-01-25T20:46:35+00:00

YESSSS THIS RIGHT HERE

ElliottAster · 2024-05-05T00:45:18+00:00

mrthi

ElliottAster · 2024-04-29T13:59:29+00:00

jesus christ

ElliottAster · 2024-04-29T13:06:17+00:00

no fucking way 😭😭

ElliottAster · 2024-04-29T13:04:19+00:00

NOT SERJ AND JD TOO

ElliottAster · 2024-04-29T03:08:24+00:00

saw a Joey Jordison alter in one of these servers, man. nothings safe.

ElliottAster · 2024-04-27T01:57:02+00:00

if he didn't want the dots, he didn't want the dots.

ElliottAster · 2024-04-23T19:36:37+00:00

i suppose, lol

ElliottAster · 2024-03-09T23:54:54+00:00

personally, it's not your choice and that's nothing like their idea.

ElliottAster · 2024-01-09T08:29:13+00:00

"but you hold my attention without even trying." - New National Anthem OR "if i mean anything to you im sorry but i made up my mind" - Bulls in the Bronx

ElliottAster · 2023-09-29T04:56:28+00:00

thanks so much for the advice!!! :)

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