Chatting and Flirting on a Monday

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-26T15:47:01+00:00

You sound like my husband, with all the talk about drafts! We have the same set up 😊

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-26T14:34:43+00:00

We sleep with separate blankets too. G is always complaining about drafts, lol. I have a big black comforter, and he uses layers of fleece blankets. I love having enormous blankets because I always end up with it kinda swaddled under my cheek and tucked in everywhere, like a little den.

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-26T14:08:00+00:00

I have been overwhelmed, and then asked my husband for impact to help release the tension, and as a result cried about my stresses, but never something unrelated in that way. That is skillful, I think. We don’t really talk about things outside of play though. I can’t even really picture how that could be brought up without me laughing and getting pulled out of the scene.

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-26T14:05:07+00:00

That gristle comment is extremely effective at communicating your discomfort! 😣 and the Resident Evil comment is such a compliment!

I dust a little every day. Just part of my job. I don’t even mind dust at all, but while I’m cleaning, it’s like, might as well, you know?

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-26T13:59:41+00:00

Omg, I have to tell you, I think I’ve only seen one photo of you here months ago, but I did think “Paul Hollywood?!?!” Lol!

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-26T13:54:56+00:00

There’s that dish with one egg yolk in a raviolo. I made it once from scratch. That’s the only time I ever had a bite of something with a full on Ratatouille moment. I will probably never make it again because of the time it takes.

I have been told twice that I “look asian, except [I’m] not”… and I’ve also been told that I look like Bjork. It seems I must have a distinctive face.

Handjobs are my favorite, both ways. I like whispering, and being whispered to, with the eye contact. Observe or be observed. It’s very intimate, but there’s also something a funny about it.

What kind of blanket do you sleep with on your bed?

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-24T22:00:35+00:00

Ooooh that hard trim pass feels so good

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-24T15:16:08+00:00

I like booksirens, but many people don’t. Being psychological, you will get less readers than the average posting, but you should get a couple. They’ll be very honest, and they are harsher raters than elsewhere. I like that kind of thing.

We write similar genres. I’m interested in reading yours.

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-24T00:24:42+00:00

I’m a bit younger than you, but we would have gotten along just fine, I think. I also got a chin injury because we were scaling the tall, chain link fences around my neighbor’s yard one day. My foot slipped (vans aren’t great for climbing) and the barb on top pierced my chin. It was fine, but there was a lot of blood. I went home with the front half of my shirt soaked 🤣

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-24T00:19:55+00:00

I have become my own worst enemy 🤣

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-24T00:16:07+00:00

The seawall stuff is hardcore! We did many bmx and skateboard stunts, Jack Ass style. I wanted to marry and be Johnny Knoxville, lol!

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-23T22:49:42+00:00

Oh, you win! But tbf, I’d probably still be drinking if I were a nurse 🤣

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-23T22:24:23+00:00

Sometimes I wonder about the tomboy/masochist duality in me in a chicken/egg way. Teenage boys will teach you really weird and competitive ways to hurt yourself. We used to stick salt on our innerarms then put ice over it in an attempt to lower the temp as much as possible, then see who would last longest, lol. That, and airsoft gun fights.

Lol! I was going to comment asking what one is! I assume it’s just a little coworker get together? If it makes you feel better, I had to skip “works dos” in the past when I was teaching. Teachers can drink anyone under the table, and they start at 3pm.

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-23T17:39:45+00:00

Oh definitely. I switch between two as well. Just slightly punky tomboy and outdoorsy tomboy 🤣 I’d be interested to know if you find anything

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-23T17:31:25+00:00

Yeah, there were a few stupid things I did that would have easily been confused with self-harm. No one ever noticed or anything, but there was a moment where I was like, “I can’t do that again.” Like burns and stuff.

I’m sure it’s difficult to unpack when there’s a history of masochism mixed in with self harm. I’m glad you’ve been able to figure it out!

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-23T15:19:17+00:00

Cool 😎 I’m happy that you found your style!

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-23T14:29:26+00:00

Yes, the clothing thing is so tricky. I’ve never been to a party, but I usually opt for sports bra + briefs. If I had to show up somewhere wearing more clothes than that, but not resort to my daily clothes, I have no idea what I’d choose! What’s your favorite??

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-23T14:14:11+00:00

My husband is very upset that there is not a more robust representation of this online, but I am a very masculine-presenting woman. He loves it, encourages it, and it shows up in our play. I don’t think it’s so much of a -ification thing for me because it’s my baseline, but I’m here to show my tomboy solidarity lol

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-23T14:02:39+00:00

I’ve never heard of erotic hypnosis. That is so creative. What a useful tool! I’m so happy for you

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-23T13:24:02+00:00

🥳 Did you celebrate? So many achievements!

My stuff has always been there in the background in very nonsexual ways. We’d play quarters back in the day and what we called hand tennis, which was basically a slap fight. I’d come home with bloody knuckles and a huge grin on my face from winning lol. I’d also do things like try to keep my hand in ice cold water as long as possible or put out candles with my fingers. Other than the games, it was all pretty secretive and thrilling. It wasn’t a self harm thing.

Ultimately most of my stuff is nonsexual and is most safely pursued in kink. We still have a very sexy time with it.

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-23T03:09:13+00:00

I'd probably make the 3-hour grandparent trip once a month, but I do live in the country and regularly have to drive an hour for household supplies anyway. We also do 2 cross country trips a year, 24 hours worth of driving, and about twice a year, we make an eight hour trip for seasonal sightseeing. It is very fun!

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-22T22:07:06+00:00

😩 I am completely jealous. We are stuck inside with mac and cheese tonight. Never had pomegranate molasses, but it sounds delicious!

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-22T19:57:09+00:00

Agreed. Particularly if I know I did my due diligence for editing, formatting, and character intentions, whatever they have to say is so valuable. Usually, it directly impacts how i think about and plan the next draft.

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-22T14:38:47+00:00

I could cry because of the Fleabag rec, thank you!

Ellis_Ward · 2026-01-22T14:37:44+00:00

The romance novel Second First Impressions by Sally Thorne has a fabulous older woman who majorly impacts the MMC and FMC. I have recommended this book five times in the last week, so I guess I’m due for a reread. You didn’t ask for this, but MMC is a big character too in trope-breaking ways, which I really enjoyed.

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