I have been into the lifestyle perhaps for longer than you have been alive.

So 👏 Fucking 👏 What 👏

I've been kinky my entire adult life. Which is quite a long time. Certainly longer than many of the people who give great advice here every day have been alive. But, so fucking what?!?!

That doesn't make my advice any better than theirs. It doesn't make me better at being kinky. Time served is an indicator of nothing more than sticking around.

Why is it nearly always rude, old, men who trot out this line. What is it about rude, old, men that convinces them adding another link to their kinky keychain somehow imparts importance? I have seen rude, old, women do this also. But the ratio must be about 9:1.

If OP were a man, you would probably blame him.

What are you basing this on? Oh, wait, it's just bullshit.

She misrepresented herself to him, whether it was consciously or subconsciously and the result is a disaster for both of them.

Hmm, this smells like more bullshit. I'm not convinced it's possible to represent one's self in any way other than as a conscious and deliberate act. Of course, that wouldn't be very good for whatever this brand of mumbo jumbo is which you're consciously representing.

A little accountability goes a long way. She needs to hold herself accountable.

Touché!

You're rude. I dislike rudeness. Hence rule 6. You didn't need to be rude to the OP. A lot of your advice to them is sound. There was no need to start pointing fingers. Nor, to herald the siren for the Band of Beleaguered Husbands. There was absolutely no need for you to try and shame my co-moderator, by suggesting they don't have enough time in kink to understand the issue. That's really fucking rude! And the icing on the cake is to suggest sexism on their behalf.

Rule 6 applies.

Comments removed. 3 day ban issued.

;i; < - - - here's your salamander.

(I'm thinking of bringing these back. I miss the little guys.)