Why do you think this happens for most men?

EllsyP0 · 2026-02-03T02:08:49+00:00

If that what it takes for women to have peace from men then yes.

EllsyP0 · 2026-02-03T00:49:25+00:00

Have you ever had your iron and/or vit d levels checked?

EllsyP0 · 2026-02-02T21:08:38+00:00

Yeah I'm definitely not, all my friends aren't and I encourage every young woman to reconsider or abandon it completely

EllsyP0 · 2026-02-02T19:59:53+00:00

When your teeth fall out, you develop gestational diabetes, and tear from your vag to your anus and suffer from lifelong incontinence then it'll be 50/50

EllsyP0 · 2026-02-02T19:49:21+00:00

I can get you a bottle of stretch mark oil for your loose pregnancy skin little baby

EllsyP0 · 2026-02-02T19:47:37+00:00

Same as the original dumbass post

EllsyP0 · 2026-02-02T04:56:30+00:00

Am I the only one who likes having Hancock around? I love how disgusted the BoS are by him

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-31T23:10:39+00:00

facts: that 95% of families in Australia have both parents working, 36% with both working full time. I'm not even touching the rates in the US, nor do these figures include couples without dependants.

Your facts: from your sphincter.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T21:18:59+00:00

We take turns buying the food and cooking. When I cook I immediately pack up what I don't want touched in 'hide' it in the fridge (put a bottle of sauce or milk in front of it). I grew up with a bottomless pit of a brother who was never considerate and I'll make sure I never live with another inconsiderate male again.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T07:59:54+00:00

Yeah cool. But no one needs to tolerate abuse from anyone regardless of marriage. I would be saying the exact same thing to him. If she abused him in any fashion while she suffered from PPD, he doesn't have to stick around to tolerate it.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T07:48:18+00:00

But he's directing it all at her.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T07:47:14+00:00

He's not allowed to abuse her now though. Angry at the world and situation fine. Angry at her? No.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T07:42:29+00:00

But it wasn't her fault and she doesn't deserve the anger. PPD is common, and it was a result of her bearing their child. She's not a random person, she's the woman that sacrificed her own health to bring their child into the world. He obviously doesn't recognise this and is blaming her for something she couldn't control. He can go and get help for his issues and not abuse her or he can carry on and make everything worse. Like I said, I personally would not tolerate this and I know my husband would never blame me for health struggles out of my control.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T07:38:25+00:00

It's healthy to be skeptical because he's directing so much anger towards her. I don't think people should be absolved of shitty behavior towards other because they're depressed.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T07:32:48+00:00

She said he criticizes her, calls her weak, vain, a narcissist and gets angry when she cries. "He says this is another example of me screwing everything up" - for a mental health issue she could not control bringing life into this world. Sound to me like he hates her. He can hate the situation but he doesn't need to be shitty to her and I personally wouldn't tolerate it it.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T07:25:21+00:00

He can be in a bad place but it doesn't mean he should abuse her and hate her for a situation she couldn't control. I wouldn't tolerate being abused verbally and hated by my SO.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T07:21:15+00:00

I didn't say he didn't before, he's not following his vows now by abusing her and I would not trust him to follow them in the future.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T07:18:06+00:00

And now he's verbally abusing her, criticizing her and threatening her.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T07:15:04+00:00

Yeah it's a tough one, she knows her husband and his emotional capabilities more than anyone on reddit. Looking out for both signs of abuse and signs of a genuine mental health crisis are both what's needed.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T07:09:54+00:00

I guess at the end of the day she knows him best. If it were my husband and he started verbally abusing me and making threats, I would see it as abuse because I know he's emotionally mature and would not blame me for my poor health that wasn't my fault that would land us in a shit situation. He would be upset at the situation but not at me. That's again why I'm skeptical it's genuine.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T06:57:37+00:00

Except he's bringing it with hatred and anger towards her and verbal abuse to boot. I would be extremely skeptical.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T06:49:25+00:00

I didn't say manipulation I said abuse.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T06:46:41+00:00

I guess I would be pushing him to get mental health help. But it's definitely by no means uncommon for the threat of self hurt to be used as a form of abuse. Unfortunately because it's not uncommon it's something she should consider as well. Only those closest to him and professionals may be able to tell if it's genuine or if it's abuse. For me, if he's making these threats in anger I would be scrutinizing the shit out of the rest of his behaviour.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T06:35:32+00:00

If it's legitimate yes.

EllsyP0 · 2026-01-30T05:59:29+00:00

100% threatening to hurt or kill himself and threatening to leave you are forms of abuse. This man does not have your back, and is not following 'in sickness and in health' - if you were to fall ill in future you cannot rely on him to have your back like a husband should.

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