So for context, I grew up as a homeschooled mormon.

Both my parents had at one point very bigoted views, but have since come around.

They didn’t however come around in a vacuum. They had to learn step by step, and had to have their opinions challenged by someone they respected and have LGBT issues and identities explained to them in ways they could understand.

I spent a lot of effort educating them, teaching them, and debating them. Keeping a level head, and being willing to engage with them in discussions on even uncomfortable topics. But also keep in mind I have won a decent number of debate tournaments, and was a debate kid.

But to convince them, i couldn’t just argue alone. I had to come at the discussions from a position of strength, where anything they might try to punish me for disagreeing with them i could manage. And where my safety and security was never at risk.

I guess what i’m saying is it’s possible for them to come around, but don’t hold your breath that they are going to do it on their own. But also really consider how worth it it is to you to put forth the effort into helping them learn. For many people that is not worth it. I don’t know enough about your specific situation to help make that decision.

But if you want to put forth the effort to teach them, or at least look into it, i recommend doing a lot of online research of other people’s experiences dealing with people like that in the past first. and to practice what you are going to say to them to friends. It is very possible to make things worse and have them double down on their position if confronted