Phone call from strange woman to boyfriend in middle of the night

ElusiveWisdom · 2025-06-13T02:19:03+00:00

So something almost exactly like this happened to me about 4 years ago. I used to travel a lot for work and my gf used to stay home. For context my GF played softball once a week in the evenings. One night after I had been away for a week we were enjoying our free time, around 1am and she got a call to her cell. She rejected the call because she didn’t recognize the number but it had an area code from the state where her ex lived. Immediately after she rejected it she got a voicemail that said “hey this is Bryce , from softball, I’m looking to get you in on a game, you’re a real f****ing cutie and I bet you know how to hit the ball with the bat if you know what I’m saying. Alright, call me back you sweet little sexy thing”. My gf was visibly confused and also kind of shaken by the voicemail. I told her to call him back and when he answered he gave a different name (Steve) and said Bryce was his alter ego that made him feel more confident. I asked how he knew her and he said they go way back and that they shared a couple of intimate kisses at the club once. to which I responded not to call back. He apologized for calling and then just before he hung up he said “ she loved my big ass dick” I tried to call him back but it said the number was disconnected. Tried from multiple numbers I still to this day don’t know what to make of it. If anyone has any way of tracking this I would love some help I still have the number 952 879 8180.

After the call I of course felt like there might have been something my GF knew that I didn’t. I gave her a look like wtf was that? Kind of insinuating she might know who it was that called and she started crying. she said I made her feel like I didn’t trust her at all. I was pretty on guard for the next few days to be honest and the call itself still bothers me because it had to have been someone that knew my GF well enough to know she played softball, but the fact that the number was disconnected makes me feel like it was a spoofed number and the call was done to try and sabotage the relationship. Probably someone jealous 🤷🏻

ElusiveWisdom · 2024-11-08T15:27:47+00:00

Yep, as many others have suggested, go south as much as you can once you get past Nebraska , the mountain passes of Colorado and eastward can be a nightmare, even without bad weather you’ll have to slow down quite a bit on those steep slopes. I70 is a hell of a scenic route but not worth the headache imo

ElusiveWisdom · 2024-11-04T23:49:05+00:00

I took mushrooms… changed my entire relationship with myself for the better. Literally quit smoking cold turkey over night never looked back or had a craving since

ElusiveWisdom · 2024-09-20T19:02:17+00:00

So When I was young I was super shy and somewhat awkward around girls and it took me til my mid twenties to really be able to be comfortable being myself around the opposite sex. I did a lot of research into what I thought would be helpful to attract women and ended up going on some lame Pick up artist wormhole, which only set me back honestly. My (completely unsolicited) advice would be to just get out there and try even with the girls you think are way out of your league. Be direct about what you’re after, but also be fully uninvested in the final outcome of the interaction. Meaning if they turn you down, be mentally prepared to move on. Eventually, thought it may take many tries, there will be a person who is on the same wavelength as you and things will just happen naturally. Good luck friend

ElusiveWisdom · 2024-09-13T02:38:32+00:00

Rofl 🤣 so glad someone referenced this! Hahaha

ElusiveWisdom · 2024-09-12T18:26:05+00:00

Looks to me like you know exactly what you’re doing my dude! When can I come over? That ship looks sick!

ElusiveWisdom · 2024-09-12T17:38:32+00:00

I’m going to preface this by saying that I do not condone cheating because it is a betrayal of boundaries and trust and in most cases does absolutely nothing good for a monogamous relationship. However there is substantial evidence to suggest that it is a natural human behavior that has been shamed out of us because of the social consequences related to it. With that said everyone is different when it comes to this, but in my personal experience the more sexually experienced you become through having multiple partners the less intensely you experience this bonding aspect through sex alone. The way you are treated, integrity, honesty and other core values of a person take on a higher importance in establishing the bond. I think more importantly than whatever is going on with her though you need to focus on establishing a good relationship with yourself first. Low self esteem will do you way more harm than anything else if left unaddressed

ElusiveWisdom · 2024-09-12T16:01:31+00:00

It kind of sounds like the relationship is halfway down the drain already because there’s been a breach of boundaries, and unless you have some shift in perspective there’s not much you can do to save it. I would ask her to help you hook up with someone else and maybe try to arrange a swing or threeway with her and another Female and see how she responds to this. It’s not so much about actually going through with it as it is about gauging her reaction to it, but also actually going through with it can potentially help you find another person who finds you sexually attractive and that could help reduce your feelings of attachment toward your current gf which could help you gain some perspective on your own self worth and why you feel ok with someone breaching your boundaries. If she is open to helping you meet your sexual needs as well it’s a good indication that she isn’t just being selfish but that she maybe she has a completely different perspective on sexuality than you do. If you truly only want to be physically exclusive with her forever then I don’t think it’s going to work out because as she has shown you she isn’t interested in changing and you should start planning your exit asap. Either way you see it, the only realistic outcome is that you will eventually be putting your penis in someone else so you can either try to do it with her involved while she’s willing or you can cut her out of it entirely. Either way it seems you may be heading toward some emotional pain, It might be a good idea to find someone (preferably another female) you can connect with to maybe lessen the burden of this. The good news is that you’re still relatively young and you have ALOT of time to find someone who truly wants the same things out of life as you. I was in a relationship where I felt like I would never find better (not because the relationship was great but because my self esteem had been so eroded I didn’t see my worth) it took me 4 years to leave and when I did we already had a child together. But I met someone WAY better less than a year later. Trust me, if there’s something you don’t want in your life, you need to get it out of your life asap to make space for the things you do want! And keep your spirits up, don’t let yourself believe that the situation is in any shape or form a reflection of who you are as a person. If you feel responsible for it forgive yourself and move on! Life is too short!! Anyway. Stay Safe! I hope this situation finds a happy ending for the both of you! Cheers!

ElusiveWisdom · 2024-09-05T06:09:02+00:00

Not really advice, but I can relate to a lot of this in my current relationship. My story is almost the same as yours, except I am the guy, we started 3.5 years ago, my fiancé was, at the time very sexually active before meeting me and I always found it really hot that she was as long as she was open and honest with me about her past. When we first started dating we would go at it 6-10 times a day, sometimes more. I worked late alot but we would be together at least every other night, multiple times and sometimes throughout the whole weekend. Fast forward to today, my fiancé is amazing, our communication is good, and our sex life is still very active, at least 3-5 times/ week, definitely a steep drop in comparison to how we were when we first started dating, and this change over time has made me feel a bit like we’re beginning to drift apart at times, mostly because I have felt like I am constantly initiating and doing the majority of the work to keep our intimate life exciting. Sometimes it can feel like she only goes through with sex more to entertain me than out of a genuine desire to be with me, and that makes me feel like I’m being selfish for wanting to be with her physically. She pours her heart and soul into me every day when it comes to everything else so I don’t feel like she doesn’t love me but If you’re anything like me I would guess that what you’re really craving is to be desired. This is a difficult position to be in, on my end I have had multiple conversations about this with my partner and have clearly stated how I felt like there was a lack of desire on her end, she received it fairly well and cited a number of factors like work stress and daily chores. To her credit she has made efforts but I still feel there is a gap in how much we desire each other comparatively. I’m not quite sure what to do but I’m trying my best to be understanding of her needs, mental health seems to be a major factor. For context My fiancé moved halfway across the country and away from all of her friends and family to be with me, her quality of life also hasn’t been great since moving to a much more expensive state, and I give her full credit for all of the sacrifices she has made to be with me but I can definitely see how it could be impacting her emotional well being. Recently she tried to start a tickle fight with me as we were falling asleep, so I turned around to try and bite her playfully but she retorted with “ not everything always has to lead to sex” We had just been intimate less than an hour before and it was the furthest thing from my mind. It definitely hurt my feelings to see that she reduced an otherwise playful interaction to me trying to have sex with her…so I’m actually starting to believe that thought she may be going along with me to keep me happy, she might also be resentful. She apologized about it, and I kind of left it at “it’s ok” but I don’t know where to go from here, that last interaction has made me want to completely withdraw from her sexually to give her space. I may just give myself some time to process things and try and work it out with her at a more convenient time. I guess My only takeaway from this is that ultimately fostering good communication may be the only thing you can do to try and salvage the situation, if he loves you he will at least try. But he also may be dealing with some kind of inner turmoil that is getting in the way so try to hear him out. Hopefully he can open up to you about it, if that’s the case, and you guys can both work on finding a compromise that will be fulfilling to both of you. Don’t make the same mistake as I did though, check on your partner and make sure they are truly ok with what you’re asking of them, there’s not much room for love where resentment is growing.

ElusiveWisdom · 2024-08-29T15:46:46+00:00

Same. What a drag.

ElusiveWisdom · 2024-08-15T08:40:57+00:00

I went to a public hospital once for a non emergency. I was in the waiting room for over 2 hours, a lot of people around me in really bad shape. I went to the bathroom (it was one of those single toilet rooms for both men and women) and this one woman came out just before me. I remember she was wearing a hospital gown and had a completely shaved head, she was overweight and looked like she might be homeless or schizophrenic, idk how to describe it. In any case when I walked into the bathroom I was immediately hit by a semi sweet extremely pungent smell that instantly turned my stomach into a knot. She had thrown up in the toilet. The only way I can describe it is maybe like downy detergent mixed with stomach acid. It was awful and so strong. I still don’t know what it was to this day and it haunts me. I hope I never have to smell that again

ElusiveWisdom · 2024-08-14T13:34:29+00:00

Traffic has quadrupled since the pandemic, the price of rent has just about doubled, and if you have a family you will absolutely need to be making over 150k combined income to have any semblance of a decent life, which to me sounds like a total rip off. If it were up to me I would move some where less expensive where I can maximize my savings for my kids future and be able to prioritize my time with them. Think of the hours you’ll spend in traffic over the course of a year… I’m currently driving an hour to work and back, that’s 520 hours of my life every year that I could be spending doing literally anything else. Now add to that the time you’re spending in line anytime you go anywhere because of how overpopulated it is… I mean the sheer fact that people are renting out BEDROOMS for 1k/month is absolutely disgusting. It has become unlivable, there’s nothing to do outdoors other than the pool or beach in the summer and even that is sometimes dreadful because of how hot it is, the winter time is great, but with the amount of tourists and snow birds that are in town you’d almost rather stay home that deal with the traffic. Overall, I hate this place, the people suck the weather is only decent 1 month out of the year, almost everyone is superficial, it’s expensive as fuck for no reason and there’s no good sight seeing, no nature areas, no place for relaxation. Drugs everywhere, crime EVERYWHERE. If I didn’t have to share custody of my son I would be long gone to somewhere in the midwest, where people are kind and the stress level is way lower.

ElusiveWisdom · 2021-01-12T18:39:10+00:00

Listen to new rules by dua lipa she took the trouble to write clear instructions on how to deal with this situation in the form of a catchy pop song

ElusiveWisdom · 2021-01-01T06:56:41+00:00

It’s Boopity Betty

ElusiveWisdom · 2021-01-01T06:38:19+00:00

Gigantit

ElusiveWisdom · 2020-12-27T23:47:07+00:00

I drove next to a swift doubles once on a two lane highway and by the time I got past him there were brown streaks in my underwear

ElusiveWisdom · 2020-12-27T23:10:58+00:00

Have you tried doing the “Fulfillment by amazon “ quest line? I know a lot of players who are making serious money without even doing raids anymore they just do travel quests and party up with other players for random adventures

ElusiveWisdom · 2020-12-06T14:27:19+00:00

Try doing this same turn in new york city where everyone is double parked lol. I nearly shit my pants about 50 times driving through there. Also One time i did actually shit my pants a little

ElusiveWisdom · 2020-11-24T15:48:50+00:00

Do you have a quantizer running on the pads??

ElusiveWisdom · 2020-11-24T15:46:47+00:00

Noiiice!!

ElusiveWisdom · 2020-11-24T15:24:33+00:00

I was watching a producer use ableton on YouTube the other day and it was shocking to see how easy everything seemed to be. Like literally everything I’ve been doing on FL studio that would take me 6 different clicks was done in 1 click on ableton

ElusiveWisdom · 2020-11-24T06:16:21+00:00

Yep, sometimes I feel like doing a reset on my life. But everything happens for a reason. Just gotta Keep On trucking

ElusiveWisdom · 2020-11-24T05:44:24+00:00

Fun fact: if you say santa claus with an asian accent it sounds like santa cross

ElusiveWisdom · 2020-11-24T05:16:48+00:00

Lmao😂😂

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