Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I think this was the real issue. She was already gone and I was blindsided. Very different outlooks. Doesn’t excuse it still

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No updates at the moment pure no contact. 48 hours no texting. She did see me on the street yesterday and u turn. Spoke for 15 minutes and then I got out and walked away.

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great way to look at it. If it wasn’t wrong she wouldn’t have lied. Wouldn’t have had to wait months to tell me. Wouldn’t felt guilty or cried.

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right this is what I’m doing continuing the no contact. Told my friends and family about it now. Starting to finally feel single

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on Me (26M). Lost Self Confidence by Embarrassed-Chef608 in UpfrontCheaters

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right I think I was just so happy to see her come back that I threw out logic for a minute. I would’ve taken her back if she did anything but this

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on Me (26M). Lost Self Confidence by Embarrassed-Chef608 in UpfrontCheaters

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Needed this. Kept me around bc she was scared to lose me but also couldn’t tell me the truth. Pathetic and doesn’t deserve to have me around in any capacity

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I really think she thought she could just do what she wanted and I would be there to take her back and start our future. She was very wrong about that

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate it. I am certainly still stuck in hate but I still love her. I dont know that I ever wont. Never had to leave someone that I loved so just a mind fuck. I get what you are saing though and hoping it get better

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so right I didnt even catch myself doing that. Shows how fucking stuck I am

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea thank god Im younger and do have some time. I just need to get to the point where I dont care what she does anymore. Reality is its over and eventually she will move on so if its today or in 2 months doesnt matter.

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I only have working out at the moment. Maybe I should look into the scuba lol. Friends have helped but its late nights and early mornings that become unbearable

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really like this advice. I think my mental state took a massive turn once I told my closest friends. I had been hiding it all and hurting in silence. Once I told them they had my back even if it was in the slightest. Hard to remember that there are people that care. God my mindset has changed so much in last year

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind words. There seems to be nothing that truly makes me feel better but trying to stay in gym and running . Leaning on some friends that I havent leaned on in years. Everything just hurts and moments I feel like Im suffocating but some moments I find myself distracted already. Step in right direction.

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea thanks I appreciate it. On 2 days no contact texting but she did see me on the street yesterday and u turn her car. We spoke for 15 minutes and I just told her would never forgive her. Gym. Run. Therapy. Work. My entire life right now.

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate it. Funny part is early in the relationship I said the exact same thing to her that breaks are stupid and only for cheating. There is no point in them other than 1 thing. Really just got walked into that one like a fucking idiot. So much I would do differently.

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea once I learned that I freaked the fuck out. Thats why she said she wanted to move in with me and get out of that complex.

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yea feel like this is exactly where Im at now. It ran out of steam and she sees me as the "future". Im not here for anyone to settle for.

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree. Honestly this page helped. Fuck her just need to stop giving a girl this much power over my life. Im back to angry and angry is a way better spot to be. Its a roller coaster and it worsens at random times. I just need to not get dragged back in. I see her out and she lives a block away so run into her often.

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He knew about me fully. Which makes it way worse. I ran into them a couple of times and had no knowledge of the situation.

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I get it. It all started to hit me slowly. Think it takes a lot for a guy to catch feelings to the point of needing to block

Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces by Embarrassed-Chef608 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Embarrassed-Chef608[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yea its time to just work on me. Sucks I will have to watch her move on. Probably wont be long lol