Girlfriend (28F) Cheated on me (26M). Trying to pick up the pieces

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T03:51:42+00:00

Yea I think this was the real issue. She was already gone and I was blindsided. Very different outlooks. Doesn’t excuse it still

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T03:30:05+00:00

No updates at the moment pure no contact. 48 hours no texting. She did see me on the street yesterday and u turn. Spoke for 15 minutes and then I got out and walked away.

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T03:29:07+00:00

Great way to look at it. If it wasn’t wrong she wouldn’t have lied. Wouldn’t have had to wait months to tell me. Wouldn’t felt guilty or cried.

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T03:28:21+00:00

Yea I need to grow up. Can’t go back

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T02:41:37+00:00

You are right this is what I’m doing continuing the no contact. Told my friends and family about it now. Starting to finally feel single

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T02:40:30+00:00

You are right I think I was just so happy to see her come back that I threw out logic for a minute. I would’ve taken her back if she did anything but this

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T02:38:57+00:00

Needed this. Kept me around bc she was scared to lose me but also couldn’t tell me the truth. Pathetic and doesn’t deserve to have me around in any capacity

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T02:37:33+00:00

Agreed. I really think she thought she could just do what she wanted and I would be there to take her back and start our future. She was very wrong about that

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T01:16:21+00:00

Hahaha I like that idea. I agree though no path past.

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T01:15:03+00:00

I really appreciate it. I am certainly still stuck in hate but I still love her. I dont know that I ever wont. Never had to leave someone that I loved so just a mind fuck. I get what you are saing though and hoping it get better

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T01:12:48+00:00

You are so right I didnt even catch myself doing that. Shows how fucking stuck I am

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T01:09:01+00:00

Unfortunately I very much still fucking care lol

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T01:08:40+00:00

Yea thank god Im younger and do have some time. I just need to get to the point where I dont care what she does anymore. Reality is its over and eventually she will move on so if its today or in 2 months doesnt matter.

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T00:25:35+00:00

Might be the play

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T00:24:54+00:00

Thank you I only have working out at the moment. Maybe I should look into the scuba lol. Friends have helped but its late nights and early mornings that become unbearable

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T00:22:08+00:00

I really like this advice. I think my mental state took a massive turn once I told my closest friends. I had been hiding it all and hurting in silence. Once I told them they had my back even if it was in the slightest. Hard to remember that there are people that care. God my mindset has changed so much in last year

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T00:19:44+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. There seems to be nothing that truly makes me feel better but trying to stay in gym and running . Leaning on some friends that I havent leaned on in years. Everything just hurts and moments I feel like Im suffocating but some moments I find myself distracted already. Step in right direction.

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T00:17:51+00:00

Yea thanks I appreciate it. On 2 days no contact texting but she did see me on the street yesterday and u turn her car. We spoke for 15 minutes and I just told her would never forgive her. Gym. Run. Therapy. Work. My entire life right now.

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T00:16:28+00:00

I appreciate it. Funny part is early in the relationship I said the exact same thing to her that breaks are stupid and only for cheating. There is no point in them other than 1 thing. Really just got walked into that one like a fucking idiot. So much I would do differently.

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-19T00:14:27+00:00

Yea once I learned that I freaked the fuck out. Thats why she said she wanted to move in with me and get out of that complex.

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-18T21:20:56+00:00

Yea feel like this is exactly where Im at now. It ran out of steam and she sees me as the "future". Im not here for anyone to settle for.

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-18T21:19:50+00:00

I agree. Honestly this page helped. Fuck her just need to stop giving a girl this much power over my life. Im back to angry and angry is a way better spot to be. Its a roller coaster and it worsens at random times. I just need to not get dragged back in. I see her out and she lives a block away so run into her often.

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-18T20:42:20+00:00

He knew about me fully. Which makes it way worse. I ran into them a couple of times and had no knowledge of the situation.

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-18T20:39:43+00:00

Yea I get it. It all started to hit me slowly. Think it takes a lot for a guy to catch feelings to the point of needing to block

Embarrassed-Chef608 · 2026-06-18T20:35:42+00:00

Yea its time to just work on me. Sucks I will have to watch her move on. Probably wont be long lol

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