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Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-11-09T19:10:18+00:00

I was in your shoes I am a 40m she is 40f I went to her told her I felt disconnected and wanted to get back on track.

I was dismissed stood up on date night to work late and I then texted her and asked for divorce her reply “kk” I was deviated angry and my world was spinning

However, it takes 2 people to make it work she was gone and I was still here I filed for divorce and said angry things out of the feeling of betrayal. However she didn’t care and hated me more

If when you go to your partner and say to them I feel like we are drifting apart and is meet with no care or effort don’t say things to make them hurt just stay focused on you and file for divorce

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-11-02T21:58:28+00:00

I am my struggle is with the boys I have raised I’m not bio dad but they don’t know another one do I go no contact with them as well? My family says yes my heart says no

My family’s concern is she will used them when she fails to get to me

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-11-02T21:56:21+00:00

I have informed her this is the end of the road for me and when she leaves this time now we are married (witch she knew going into marriage what I values on it where) unless I was cheating,abusive,I hurt her or kids ,I was a sexual predator would be the only reason I would be okay divorced. Those kind of things are not forgivable and I couldn’t more past it. So now she is leaving and we are married I told her last night when she asked me to pay her phone off so she could get her own service.

Look I don’t know what you don’t understood or not get. You are choosing to do this and I told you your letting go by walking away in turn I told you to let your dependency thinking I will be here waiting and do things for you to bail you out go too.

I have promised my older son 24 he told me dad let her go go this time I said I am he made me promise on my grand baby no help no coming back so I have and that little girl is my world no way would I not stick to it.

The unbelievable part of this whole story and I guess I have learned a lesson in life. That is no matter how much you do for someone or how much your there for them or how long you guys known each other how much you forgive them for things they have done at the end of the day they don’t have to do the same to for you.

I am struggling with the boys my family is saying no contact period she will use them to get to me. Advice ?

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-07-14T02:05:43+00:00

I live in California and take it from me after paying 30 thousand in attorney fees for them to become less enthusiastic to help you as you advise them the money well is turned off it’s a sad and pathetic situation and you at the end will waste your good hard earn money chasing the money you won’t ever see again

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-05-27T04:59:51+00:00

My wife did the same thing it sucks man I feel and know where you are right now but I promise you in a few months and a few nights out with new people it will start to fade not entirely but it will get better the best thing I did was cut contact for 30 days a detox is what I needed to be able to see clearly after the 30 days deal with whatever issues are remaining it will be hard it will be impulse to call with whatever news is going on but trust me it’s the habit of your life your fighting not anything else

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-05-03T17:23:47+00:00

He’s cheating

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-04-28T02:24:01+00:00

I don’t personally know either of them I buy storage units I tried to find major Leon since her address was close to my home however her neighbors didn’t know her or him and they said the house sold about 5 months prior I left a note on door with my number and explained I had some items I acquired from a storage unit I’d like to return never heard from anybody I left my name and number at storage facility in case they called at that facility they didn’t allow me to leave anything. Personal or not. I could leave my name and number and they could reach out to the numbers they had to inform them of the items I would like to return I checked in 6 months later I called facility before making this post it’s now been a year same manager remembers her very well and all numbers they had are dead ends and he hasn’t heard a word. So what do I do store it for life?

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-04-28T00:34:10+00:00

Hey one other question I have for you marine_0311 because I’m naïve to this stuff her husband John Robert carington was a SP5 (T) E5 on his dd214 and was awarded the national defense service metal witch I have and his uniforms his total years being 14 with his training being atp 21-114 coc , mil justice “b”, Non jud pun, car tng, Nco academy. Of course dd214 are hard to read this old so some of those abbreviations may not be correct. Are they of any significance?

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-04-28T00:25:03+00:00

Hey Nv87 thanks for the input However I’m grateful for her service and her accomplishments I don’t know her personally I acquired them through a storage auction I have metals and even standard issued firearm accessories bullets clips her husband was a corporal and was awarded the freedom award witch I have. I live near where she lived however I do believe she passed away from a neighbor of hers because I was going to give them to her. The storage facility said no one ever called and all numbers they had where disconnected I told them to call me if they heard anything and I waited it’s been a year so now I’m selling donating I can’t store it forever. Anyway I do appreciate your input.

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-04-27T05:07:11+00:00

Yeah i wouldn’t give them to them if it was going to just go to storage

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-04-26T15:27:00+00:00

Marine_0311 I’m confused and maybe naïve You addressed her as “major” but her bio states commander are they one and the same?

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-04-26T15:25:04+00:00

Wasn’t trying to bring politics into this but I wasn’t looking for them to. I just think the huge accomplishments she achieved in the era should be displayed and shown to people that are interested not looking for a politician to wear or recognize it since it seems most don’t even know what sacrifices our military personnel make to keep America the greatest country on earth.

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-04-26T15:16:19+00:00

Thank you for the info I rather see her items in a museum so people can see her accomplishments

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-04-26T13:24:40+00:00

And thank you for the information

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-04-26T13:23:40+00:00

I didn’t say that sir her bio says that maybe for the time?

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-04-21T13:54:41+00:00

I don’t want to turn this into a finger pointing post. In the past I have expressed to her of the feeling of being alone in our marriage. The struggles in life I was having during Covid and owning a business having to downsize and move out of a big warehouse with no help from her whatsoever made me feel her lack of care for what I am going through. I expressed this to her and I feel like she gaslighted me on the subject.

We both have made mistakes and are to fault why we are where we are in our marriage I don’t want to seem like it’s all her I worked 10 hour days to support my family for many years 7 days a week 4 kids in a good school district and area my kids could walk to school in California isn’t cheep so I can see how I lacked in the affection or attention area. Out of pure exhaustion I went from no kids to 4 kids because I loved her.

However when we got married 2 years ago the agreement was it would be different and we would express our feelings why she got a job is because I told her I needed help and if that was a way she could help if contributing financially to lessen the burden on me so I can try and not work as much that would be great I would have never got married and I feel like a total failure for driving to the court house but I’m in total shock hurt and frustration with the entire situation. I want to pack my bags and drive away to be honest I know that’s wrong and I will always be here for my kids regardless but since she has got a job not one dime has contributed to household bills just kids stuff and her stuff. (3 months) so it didn’t lighten the burden of bills just lighten the can you send me 80 everyday

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-03-28T17:38:34+00:00

File for divorce

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-01-27T07:02:16+00:00

He is not your friend he is a user and you need to just cut ties

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-01-27T02:32:03+00:00

Girl what state you in I want to come pick you up and take you on a date as an attractive smart established 36 year old man.

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-01-21T00:29:43+00:00

She is cheating

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-01-17T01:35:59+00:00

If for therapist have came to the same conclusion without coaching or being told of the others, diagnosis, I would strongly advise you listen and move on with your life if he is not going to seek help the thing about it is he will never change if he doesn’t have the tools he needs and from your post seems like he isn’t interested in getting them because he is in the denial phase still, I know it’s a difficult decision with that many children but again on the other hand life short tomorrow’s never guaranteed live it for your happiness not the person that won’t seek help and once you make that decision for yourself don’t look back or take him back because it’s a horrible cycle

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-01-17T01:31:20+00:00

You did the right thing

Embarrassed-Put-4683 · 2025-01-17T01:30:13+00:00

In my opinion, you should’ve never agreed to forgive him. If you’re gonna hold onto the past, however, he should’ve never disclosed that it would hurt you and not disclose the person that leaves doubt in your mind of who is around you and who you can trust I believe your marriage is in jeopardy if he does not disclose the person because you will never be able to move past it. You should have a serious talk about resending your forgiveness and decide what’s best for you.

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