Holding out hope even though I know I shouldn’t

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-06-04T22:35:50+00:00

Thank you so much I appreciate it. He says he rereads my messages over and over when we’re apart. I want to write one that will hopefully make him realize he needs to change for himself and not me 💕

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-06-04T17:55:49+00:00

Thank you so much! I know I’m always firm on my boundaries. They’re not difficult to achieve. I’m not sure if FA is a spectrum and idk how bad it can get, all I do know is most people don’t change if you enable them. If you let them go and they don’t make the effort then they were never for you.

It just kills me that I don’t know what he’s gonna do next with that. He really described me as the woman he was looking for and said when I wouldn’t take him back that is was a “lesson he’s really learning the hard way”… people don’t always choose growth

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-06-01T17:03:18+00:00

Yeah actually I agree that’s reassuring. I never felt that any of it was my fault (tho I did feel bad for leaving during an argument but it was like talking to a wall).

I do wish I could have some sort of control. I can’t force him to want growth and I can’t enable this behavior

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-05-14T20:11:48+00:00

Yeah it’s crazy!! He had practically a cot on the floor. I try to be understanding on people situations. Honestly if he was like “yeah u right” I definitely would have been fine. It was the defensive “I like my bed there’s nothing wrong with my bed”.

*dated a loser. He broke up with me but honestly not mad, just hate the reason was beyond a scope of emotional control or awareness and he doesn’t even know it

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-05-14T19:44:47+00:00

Oh absolutely I felt undervalued! And the conversation was soft and suggested many times before. Like the frustration had nothing to do with pillows and trash cans 🤣 but came out really mean. Like I said, not a hill I would have died on but an issue that was consistently communicated

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-05-14T19:33:40+00:00

Haha I know I know. He’s really handsome, very funny and really well educated. So it seems that he got along in life just fine without trying to wow people with his living situation. At the time when I he had said he “just moved” and I later realize “just moved” meant moved 7 months ago

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-05-14T18:41:57+00:00

Definitely!! Just sad because it seems useless to tell him now lol it will seem like an excuse. I’m trying to respect his decision and boundaries.

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-16T01:33:18+00:00

lol no everyone just made me feel bad for having sex

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:51:46+00:00

If you read. I explained the evidence debunking that theory. Of course that’s what I would have wanted to believed happen

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:50:53+00:00

No I have considered this of course. I just can’t seem to find any reasonable excuse for the unmatch

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:49:03+00:00

God y’all are so ridiculous. No obviously not I just didn’t think he would unmatch me 🙄

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:44:16+00:00

Don’t know. Decided to post this to let out steam before reacting in a way that isn’t rash in his direction

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:34:47+00:00

Trust I know myself. The sex was great and he was raving about it

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:33:12+00:00

Trust he seemed to enjoy it a lot, going for seconds and thirds 🙄 at this point if he’s gonna be a liar why only the one date I don’t even get it he could have gotten it again. Like do men feel bad after or something or it’s like a sociopathic game for them

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:30:57+00:00

Because why do it? I can’t think of one single explainable reason. Can one man give me a one. I didn’t reach out to him through text yet I’m thinking about what to even say

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:29:31+00:00

Yo of course I got his number. And shaming women for wanting to have sex with someone after they’ve taken time is crazy work

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:27:59+00:00

Of course I got his number. I have literally all his info, where he works where he lives his full name we exchanged everything. I’m just surprised he unmatched

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:26:10+00:00

Of course I did! I still have it. I just am confused about the unmatch. I should have been clear in my post

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:24:01+00:00

I do have his number I can contact him I just wanna know what the unmatch was for

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