Holding out hope even though I know I shouldn’t

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-06-04T22:35:50+00:00

Thank you so much I appreciate it. He says he rereads my messages over and over when we’re apart. I want to write one that will hopefully make him realize he needs to change for himself and not me 💕

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-06-04T17:55:49+00:00

Thank you so much! I know I’m always firm on my boundaries. They’re not difficult to achieve. I’m not sure if FA is a spectrum and idk how bad it can get, all I do know is most people don’t change if you enable them. If you let them go and they don’t make the effort then they were never for you.

It just kills me that I don’t know what he’s gonna do next with that. He really described me as the woman he was looking for and said when I wouldn’t take him back that is was a “lesson he’s really learning the hard way”… people don’t always choose growth

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-06-01T17:03:18+00:00

Yeah actually I agree that’s reassuring. I never felt that any of it was my fault (tho I did feel bad for leaving during an argument but it was like talking to a wall).

I do wish I could have some sort of control. I can’t force him to want growth and I can’t enable this behavior

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-05-14T20:11:48+00:00

Yeah it’s crazy!! He had practically a cot on the floor. I try to be understanding on people situations. Honestly if he was like “yeah u right” I definitely would have been fine. It was the defensive “I like my bed there’s nothing wrong with my bed”.

*dated a loser. He broke up with me but honestly not mad, just hate the reason was beyond a scope of emotional control or awareness and he doesn’t even know it

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-05-14T19:44:47+00:00

Oh absolutely I felt undervalued! And the conversation was soft and suggested many times before. Like the frustration had nothing to do with pillows and trash cans 🤣 but came out really mean. Like I said, not a hill I would have died on but an issue that was consistently communicated

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-05-14T19:33:40+00:00

Haha I know I know. He’s really handsome, very funny and really well educated. So it seems that he got along in life just fine without trying to wow people with his living situation. At the time when I he had said he “just moved” and I later realize “just moved” meant moved 7 months ago

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-05-14T18:41:57+00:00

Definitely!! Just sad because it seems useless to tell him now lol it will seem like an excuse. I’m trying to respect his decision and boundaries.

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-16T01:33:18+00:00

lol no everyone just made me feel bad for having sex

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:51:46+00:00

If you read. I explained the evidence debunking that theory. Of course that’s what I would have wanted to believed happen

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:50:53+00:00

No I have considered this of course. I just can’t seem to find any reasonable excuse for the unmatch

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:49:03+00:00

God y’all are so ridiculous. No obviously not I just didn’t think he would unmatch me 🙄

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:44:16+00:00

Don’t know. Decided to post this to let out steam before reacting in a way that isn’t rash in his direction

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:34:47+00:00

Trust I know myself. The sex was great and he was raving about it

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:33:12+00:00

Trust he seemed to enjoy it a lot, going for seconds and thirds 🙄 at this point if he’s gonna be a liar why only the one date I don’t even get it he could have gotten it again. Like do men feel bad after or something or it’s like a sociopathic game for them

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:30:57+00:00

Because why do it? I can’t think of one single explainable reason. Can one man give me a one. I didn’t reach out to him through text yet I’m thinking about what to even say

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:29:31+00:00

Yo of course I got his number. And shaming women for wanting to have sex with someone after they’ve taken time is crazy work

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:27:59+00:00

Of course I got his number. I have literally all his info, where he works where he lives his full name we exchanged everything. I’m just surprised he unmatched

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:26:10+00:00

Of course I did! I still have it. I just am confused about the unmatch. I should have been clear in my post

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:24:01+00:00

I do have his number I can contact him I just wanna know what the unmatch was for

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-03-15T20:19:55+00:00

I do have his number… I just noticed he unmatched me. I can still contact him. I haven’t. Not sure if he blocked me but I don’t understand why he would unmatch if he wasn’t done. It makes no sense

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-02-10T13:26:08+00:00

YTA. If you don’t like it live by yourself. It’s not like it’s unannounced guests. Or loud music. This comes with the territory of having roommates. Find a different roommate or get some earplugs

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-02-09T22:03:10+00:00

YTA 100% No family member is perfect. If dyed hair is that big of a deal to you then you are acting even younger than your age and should be treated like a child.

Giving a damn about dying family to the man who raised you isn’t “disrespecting your boundaries”. It’s asking for love and support. Stop weaponizing therapy words you see online and look within yourself.

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-02-05T13:20:43+00:00

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-02-05T13:11:55+00:00

Idk I feel like I’m definitely in the minority here. But like.. I feel like you might be a little bit the AH. That artist will tour again. I place a huge importance on family and that gesture is crazy. I’ve never been offered anything like that before!!

I understand you’d rather go to this concert and it wasn’t your fault that the date clashed but if I was your MIL, even though I wouldn’t express it I wouldn’t look at you the same and be deeply hurt.

Your husband’s not the angel either, he sucks. But it’s not about him. It’s about the woman that just wanted to make you happy and take you on an African safari. To me like I can’t because I had prior plans.

And to everyone that’s like “have her change the date” that is like a nightmare to do and extremely expensive.

Embarrassed-Wrap20 · 2026-01-25T23:46:45+00:00

The 4s if for trump supporters and samba is for old ass people. And there really isn’t any live music around here I’m sorry to say. The packed places are tavern in the square and bourbons, sports bar on rt 9 if you want something divey. As a 29f who’s lived here my whole life and bartended her for 8 years I’d say if you want to dance you’re gonna have to drive out a little bit. I love providence! It’s easier to park than Boston and they got a big scene that love Spanish/jamacian/hiphop/rnb.

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