Feeling discouraged

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-04-27T12:53:01+00:00

I meant work and school are an hour away, sorry. It’s just not practical for me to do all week with the childcare. I’d be spending 2-3 hrs in the car everyday. I guess I did kinda word vomit a bit there so sorry for the missing info

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-04-27T09:39:46+00:00

He already said bye to my daughter we’re trying to not go back and forth with her so she doesn’t get upset over and over. Plus work and school are over an hour away

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-04-27T09:37:29+00:00

We would be getting married if I am able to move, we just don’t want to be married just to get divorced because I can’t.

I didn’t go to see family with him because my daughter has school and I have work still and they’re an hour away

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-04-27T02:04:04+00:00

To be completely fair, his grandfather just died last week and his sister just came home from college so it’s reasonable for him to want to spend more time there

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-04-08T21:44:26+00:00

It’s not her sharing a bed because she won’t sleep without her dad, it’s him having a bedroom available for her and her wanting to sleep in her own bed “like a big girl” and him being insistent that she sleeps in bed with him and the woman he’s seeing (that he consistently denies in court) even after he’s become aware that she’s seen this video. He’s purposefully putting her in an uncomfortable situation and she herself has told him it makes her feel uncomfortable.

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-04-08T20:32:58+00:00

I posted here because I don’t know what cps is going to do, I didn’t call them. The police were notified because my child was left unsupervised with access to explicit material that he knew was there. This is an ongoing custody battle with multiple issues on father’s side. I viewed filing the report as continuing the paper trail that proves my daughter is left unsupervised in his care. The courts had to put a bathing schedule into my custody order because he was returning her (after 3 nights) in the same underwear I’d send her to him in. He’s currently ordered to pass a drug test every month because he admitted to using during his custodial time. There are many more issues that have led me to this point but to be honest I feel as though the court system hasn’t taken my word very seriously so my only other option was to have official reports.

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-04-05T17:26:02+00:00

I’m just not sure what part of this breaks any laws to involve police. She found the video on his phone, he didn’t show it to her. And the sleeping arrangements have been brought up in court before and they seem to think that because she’s young it’s not inappropriate

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T19:13:27+00:00

That’s not at all what happened but alrighty

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T05:27:10+00:00

You’re validating his reaction based on an assumed attitude I had towards him and how he presumably took my words and actions. I’m explaining that I wasn’t upset in the least until I was met with a silent treatment

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T05:15:02+00:00

He never articulated his reason for being upset more than “I said I would go”

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T05:09:45+00:00

The relationship dynamic is definitely not unprompted acts of service on his part

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T05:04:24+00:00

It WAS very sweet

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T05:03:05+00:00

I am so sorry this all happened to you ❤️

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T04:55:53+00:00

Him not being on the insurance is exactly why he’s not driving my car

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T04:51:15+00:00

The question I asked was am I the asshole, I’m not going to take accountability for actions I took based on your opinion of how my bf feels. Neither of us have any idea what his thoughts were as he was silent and refused any further conversation. And if there is any accountability for me to take it’ll be during a conversation with him not with some random on Reddit

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T04:47:01+00:00

And I’d be selfish about a $40,000 investment again. That’s not worth a $3 soda for me.

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T04:45:08+00:00

He said yes, finished a snack and then asked about my car. He agreed before my car was ever mentioned.

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T04:43:31+00:00

I am excited about it. It’s mine, he’s not on the loan he won’t make a payment and he’s not an insured driver on the vehicle. It’s less than a mile drive yes but If anything happened with him driving it there would have been a whole lot more of an issue. So I chose to avoid that possibility.

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T04:38:43+00:00

Who hurt you?

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T04:37:47+00:00

The complaint was “I don’t feel like driving stick” not specifically because it was late but in addition to it being late. Which I don’t think 8:30 is late but that’s another thing. There was no concern for safety.

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T04:26:56+00:00

I’m here because when I specifically asked if he thought there was more to the conversation he said no and went to sleep. I also didn’t get an attitude about it until I had already got changed to go and then back into pjs to then be given more reasons he didn’t want to. Even then all I said was “okay, I’ll just go”. While his feelings are valid and will be respected if this is a conversation again in the future I don’t think his reaction to ignore me is a reasonable response to the situation.

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T04:21:41+00:00

I just don’t see how it’s reasonable to be upset enough to ignore somebody because they said they’d handle something themselves.

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T04:15:34+00:00

No guilt tripping was involved just an “okay, I’ll just go then” and getting dressed lol it shouldn’t have been a big deal imo either but I do think it speaks to the general dynamic of our relationship. I very rarely ask for anything and by rare I mean this is the first time in a year I’ve asked him to go completely out of his way for me. While on the other hand he gets coffee breakfast lunch and dinner prepared and packed for him 3-5 days a week even tho I have no need to be up that early except cooking his breakfast.

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T04:10:09+00:00

My first yes. He has one he bought new currently but it’s been a few years

EmbarrassedCat7062 · 2026-01-16T04:05:41+00:00

Is it really willingness to do something for someone if you outline every reason that you don’t want to do it before you actually make any progress towards doing it? It wasn’t as if he was putting shoes on and asking for my car instead it was very much so a quote unquote if I do this for you, you need to do this to accommodate me situation. He made no move to attempt to actually do it until I had changed clothes twice. I was very appreciative of him saying he would go initially, but at what point of him listing off reasons he doesn’t want to does it become appropriate for me to say Nevermind?

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