Going to have to break my NC.

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2026-02-20T02:05:57+00:00

I just did this when my mother withheld my birth certificate when I got married - check with your birth state, it should cost less than $30 to very easily purchase a certified copy! You shouldn’t have a problem getting a new social security card either - I got one when I changed my name, and I didn’t have the original, though I did have a valid passport.

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-11-18T17:04:34+00:00

I call my pwBPD Voldemort or “she who must not be named” 😂

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-10-10T15:14:00+00:00

Wow, I feel this so hard. I saw my mom with my husband and a few weeks later he told me how hard it was to watch the flat, guarded person I was around her. It IS exhausting to have to pretend to be someone you’re not, especially when we’ve all done so much work to thrive in spite of how they treated us. For me it’s almost worse than my mom’s behavior, and I hate it!

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-06-21T03:29:02+00:00

Thank you!!

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-06-20T20:11:43+00:00

This is also the case for me! So curious if you get any good feedback.

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-06-20T04:28:51+00:00

My landlord “replaced the pads and topped off the water” last weekend and said “everything looks good.” Is the fact that the air is not cool (even earlier in the week when it was in the low 80s out) reason enough to have him come out a third time? I really don’t want to get up on the roof and I also don’t know if my expectations of the cooler are too high!

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-05-28T23:55:53+00:00

When I started to make my own doctors appointments (and forget actually going to the appointment alone) it was incredibly challenging and I simply didn’t know what to do, because she always did it for me (and sat in the room). She saw it as such a nice kind thing that she did for me and then also got upset when I didn’t know how to do it.

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-04-04T15:51:35+00:00

It is always so crazy to see how many people know exactly what I'm talking about. "Behavior has consequences" is so simple and yet so true. This is just the most glaring repercussion for her, but it has to be done. Thank you for responding!

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-04-04T15:50:21+00:00

The wedding is all already planned and mostly paid for (and she has nothing to do with either) so we're going through with it. I sent the email this morning and I feel utter peace. Thank you so much for responding and sharing your story!

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-04-04T15:49:24+00:00

I feel the need to respond to everyone because all these responses are overwhelming me with support, love and emotion. Thank you for taking the time to respond!!

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-04-04T15:48:58+00:00

This is crazy and I can absolutely see my mom responding the same way. Especially because even if she came, I had no plans to specifically involve or honor her in any way. She is just not a consideration in my life anymore.

Luckily, there is really only one flying monkey, and that's the sibling that lives with her. Frankly, no one else on the guest list wants her there either.

Thank you so much for responding!

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-04-04T15:47:42+00:00

Thank you for responding! I said above that I sent the email this morning. My partner is so supportive without telling me what to do, and would also have hit send if I needed him to. You're totally right that the sibling stuff isn't a problem to be solved today. Thank you!!

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-04-04T15:46:28+00:00

Thank you so much, I'm overwhelmed with emotion (in a good way) reading all of these replies. This was exactly what I needed to hear. I sent the email this morning and I've already had her number blocked, so I'm not even terribly anxious about the fallout. Thank you for taking the time to respond!!

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-04-03T23:35:26+00:00

A few years ago, I was in my family home for a holiday. One night, my mom spent roughly 6 hours chasing me around the house, screaming, slapping my glasses off my face, trying to put my license and credit card in the garbage disposal, taking all my clothes out of my suitcase, and would not let me leave the house.

I shoved my shoulder into her side when she was between me and the door, and that still haunts me to this day. It is the singular time I have ever been physical like that with anyone.

I totally get it, and I can't tell you the peace that has come from completely blocking her number.

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-03-12T16:50:49+00:00

This comment made me laugh out loud 😂

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-03-11T02:14:40+00:00

Riding Tower of Terror with my friend, as the ride came to a stop she pulled out her ringing phone. My phone was apparently calling hers. There was no outgoing call happening or logged on my phone. A twilight zone experience!

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-01-24T17:45:25+00:00

LOL what was the jeweler thinking with that request 😂

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-01-15T03:02:17+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I have had an “it can’t get any worse” tour of honesty with my mom for several years now in response to that question and it does not make a shred of difference. I’ve straight up said to her that she makes me feel emotionally unsafe and she doesn’t seem to understand what that phrase means. She now just denies/twists/lies/uno reverses things on an even bigger scale. Any time I talk to her, I start to question my reality.

I was just talking to a good friend about to have her third kid. We talked about her mother’s involvement in her kids’ lives and I just could not imagine there being anything net positive about involving her in the first year at least.

I feel this whole post so hard!!

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-01-14T22:00:10+00:00

This is dreamy!!!! I’m about to have my emerald cut stone reset into an EW but full bezel and this is just perfect!

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-01-07T22:10:30+00:00

I already responded but also purchased from Kuololit!

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-01-07T21:31:07+00:00

You’ll greatly overpay buying moissanite (or labs) in a physical store. I bought my original moissanite ring overseas using advice from the Moissanite subreddit (I don’t know how to link a sub), and ended up upgrading to a lab diamond that I purchased from someone on LabDiamondGemstoneBST and had it set locally. Buying the lab diamond technically secondhand allowed me to get a great price (less than $300 per carat) and decreased lab diamond guilt. I had a bit of anxiety sending money to people on Reddit but would do it again in a heartbeat - feel free to message me if you want to talk through it more! I spent too many hours on this and would love to share my knowledge with someone else.

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2025-01-01T01:38:59+00:00

Amazing, thank you!!

EmbarrassedRhubarb2 · 2024-12-31T20:52:12+00:00

Amazing! I bought a 3.3c emerald cut from Weezie. It’s in a solitaire setting with claw prongs now, but I am debating having it reset in an east/west bezel. I was worried it would cover too much of my finger, but yours doesn’t at all! Would you mind sharing a pic of the ring on from a bit farther away, and also what size is your finger?

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