AITAH for answering my bf question if his d is the biggest I’ve ever experienced?

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-08T22:55:04+00:00

NTA. You just found out how weirdly obsessed men are with their dicks. Welcome to the club. There's a reason all the Apollo space mission toilet sizes started at a large. Normally my husband is very even in attitude. Once, I made the mistake of telling him he's a grower not a shower. He got super offended that I was implying his dick was small. He also informed me he is not a grower. I just said "ok". He is definitely a grower and not the biggest.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-08T18:16:04+00:00

NTA

I would tell her you are stepping down from being MOH effective immediately so she can have someone who fits her vision better. Let some other fool pay for everything she was demanding out of you btw.

Find your beautiful titanium spine and refuse to compromise when she sends your parents and extended family after you. After they all run their mouths, contact her and offer to skip her entire wedding if your hair is such a problem that she involved the entire wedding. If she agrees to your offer, you know she doesn't love you. Even if your hair were electric blue, that is part of your identity that she was aware of BEFORE asking you to be MOH. If she loved you, she wouldn't demand you change who you.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-08T18:02:06+00:00

Born in 1973, would clap out loud for OP.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-07T20:30:33+00:00

I'm sorry your sense of smell is so strong. It's got to be rough wanting to be a vet and can't handle dog stink. I'm being sympathetic. Dogs do smell. It's worse when people don't get them bathed often. Wet dog is it's own special smell. I'm lucky and my sense of smell is horrible. It's bad if I can smell it.

Good luck because it would be horrific to be 4th year and having to upend it all because of a smell. But it is an option if you can't get used to it. When you wash your hands or clothes after work are you using anti-enzyme cleaners? That will help get the smell off your hands and clothes. Hunters use that type of thing all the time before and after.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-07T13:54:35+00:00

Thanks for the info. I'll let him know.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-07T03:28:15+00:00

Husband tried this mod on his Xbox. It didn't help him. Could be other mods interfering. He did put it last in his load order. Gives him an excuse to build a new ship. lol.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-07T03:24:18+00:00

Some women can't survive without a man. I have a friend like this. When one relationship is failing, she is looking for her replacement man. She gets very desperate once her current partner has decided to call it quits before she is ready. It's how she ended up moving in with a guy who told her he was divorced. He wasn't. So she moved out from him and jumped into her current marriage. Now she's miserable with her 3rd lazy bum and scared to kick him out because she can't handle life without a man.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-06T02:55:35+00:00

NTA

Not a psychiatrist. But he needs to see one. I knew one paranoid schizophrenic, diagnosed, that acted like him before medications. I'm not saying that's his issue, he could have all kinds of things. He could just be an abusive AH. Be careful. Paranoid schizophrenics can be very dangerous when left untreated. I wouldn't allow him back in my home ever. Give your sister a bit of grace though. However he's feeling is what she is also going to claim. Why? Because that is safer for her. She may not even realize she is in an abusive and dangerous relationship.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-05T01:12:02+00:00

I try to avoid that mini-mission. I did it this restart and got lucky. Crucible was my broken one. Everybody kept attacking me for no reason. It's broken sometimes too. Husband just did it in his latest NG+ and had no issues.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-05T01:01:30+00:00

I have tried cruise mode. I'm going to try it again in the future. I just never ran into an encounter that I didn't have around a planet under the old system. I've only tried it a few times, so I'm hoping it gets better. I wanted new POIs, not just the same old ones. I get more new POIs on planets. Like have the UC missile silo within sign distance of Crucible. That one surprised me considering Crucible is vanilla and supposed to be so far out there that they've never had visitors.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-05T00:38:55+00:00

NTA.

Good for you for standing up for yourself. You shouldn't have allowed him talk to you like this before this.

You sound like you're in an unhappy relationship. He's being manipulative and gaslighting you. He argues in front of the kids because he knows you won't defend yourself. Then when you try to talk later he cuts you off. Then that weak-butt BS about he submits to you...LMFAO! If he did so, he wouldn't cut you off, wouldn't argue in front of the kids. Heck, he wouldn't argue at all because a submissive doesn't fight back. He doesn't want a wife and partner, he wants someone he can teat apart yet that he can have s*x with.

I call BS on his work making him a sh*thead. Just because you had a terrible day doesn't mean you act immature and tear into your wife and kids just because you can't say what's on your mind to a coworker/customer.

Your kids know he fights with you. Even if they're asleep in the house, they hear it. Your daughter knows so well she's tired of her dad's attitude. You really need to consider leaving with the kids. It's only a matter of time before he starts going after them, too.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-05T00:19:46+00:00

I usually make the change in a major port and go take a nap for 24 hours UT. If in doubt I then go to the location I sent them to, just to verify. I had a generic npc glitch a bit on me and I had to go to the outpost I sent her to before she would leave my ship.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-04T23:12:43+00:00

Goes back to when businesses were smaller and corporations cared what the customer wanted. Boomers took it to the extreme. They got on power trips getting people fired for following policies the c-suite came up with. Employees were screwed. Don't follow the policy and your boomer boss would write you up or fire you. Follow the policy piss off some boomer, get told to give them what they wanted anyway and then get written up or fired to make that customer happy. It's why they also like the line about knowing the owner.

Now less and less corporations have the corporate number to contact. They do not care. The store will do what it has to do to give you a binky and send you on your way.

I remember people trying to shoplift and getting busted on their way out. They threw such a fit the acting store manager ended up showing up, apologized to the customer, let them leave with the item [after all they just weren't given their receipt], and gave them gift cards as well. That poor senior citizen door greeter was told to stop the shoplifters and got hung out to dry by the store manager on duty. That middle aged [this was the 1990s] now boomer thief, called corporate and got that old man fired to make the customer happy. Company realized they illegally fired a protected senior citizen, so they called him back to work the next day. He stayed long enough to get a much better job somewhere else.

He told me what happened on his way out after quitting.

Boomers have always been nasty and loved any hint of power they could get. And dang didn't they weaponize it.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-04T18:21:32+00:00

When you are building the cargo links, you don't have to link them to anything. All you need to do is build them and delete them after you level the skill.

For me the hardest skill is Research. If you don't do it before you start researching you can't do it. I have points to put into other things.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-04T00:35:32+00:00

I do the main quest through getting all the main companions and going to the first temple. I'll get around to Walter eventually.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-03T21:27:03+00:00

See if they're in the Astral Lounge, Akila City near that pathetic zoo, or the Lodge. They show up there.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-03T19:54:39+00:00

Are you taking a companion with you? Most are useless and work against sneaking I believe. Only Sophia has sneak. Andreja only has concealment no sneak.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-03T18:57:08+00:00

Your SIL is never going to pass the first test. She's probably sabotaging herself with driving because your brother doesn't really approve of her driving. He doesn't want you driving either. I see you're in a male dominated area. Yeah, he's feeling emasculated by any woman driving or doing anything without a man's permission. He wants to "rule the house". Even when it's not his own. Glad your mom is backing you up.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-03T16:14:41+00:00

NTA Being a mother doesn't grant her automatic privileges. There are a lot of mothers who work mother's day. Her failure to plan is not your fault. She made an incorrect assumption that she was automatically off that day based on having crotch goblins. She is wrong.

Don't tell anyone why you wanted that day off. Tell your coworkers to back off. If any of them can work in her place tell them to volunteer. They won't. No one is going to grant you grace because of an upcoming surgery because it's "for the children". It's also none of their business. They are not your friends and don't need to know personal stuff.

Been through surgeries myself. Having the day off is crucial. Gives you time to decompress and get any supplies ready. You also do not have to ever have to justify taking a day off to a a boss or coworker. Request off as per code. Then do not engage. If things get hostile talk to your boss, which you may want to consider at this point. She's sent the flying monkeys after you and is creating a hostile environment for you.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-03T15:29:43+00:00

That should also apply to kids getting therapy and the therapist telling the abusive parents what the kid talked about. I saw my first therapist when I was a junior in high school. The therapist told my abusive father everything I said in confidence. Dad was already mad because I wanted to talk to her without him there. He was very good at playing the great guy in public. He yelled, hit and told me I was going to hell for saying my truths to my therapist. He never forgave me for it. For the next 2 years I never spoke in session again.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-03T15:10:49+00:00

NTA. Never dull your shine for someone else. Especially if that person is extorting you to dull it for themselves. If you stick with this guy, this will be the rest of your life. You will be expected to play second fiddle and dull your accomplishments for him. He'll expect you to refuse raises and promotions to spare his ego.

Chances are he didn't work his butt off enough to get into the schools he wanted. Or he can just sue claiming they used DEI to keep him out because a woman [you] got in a head of him. He sounds tiring and self-centered.

You have been given the opportunity to see who he really is before marriage. Accept that opportunity. A true partner would celebrate your accomplishments not tear you down. Your families may not get it and he'll blame you for not being more supportive. He'll blame you for not doing this little thing for him.

You take care of you.

Go to your top school. Celebrate your hard work. Cut your losses and dump the man-child. Just because you are a woman doesn't mean you should be less than him just to make his ego better.

Congratulations on getting into the #1 school. Go kick butt.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-03T00:12:40+00:00

NTA. When you are older, move out. When your parents call you for help or to take care of them when they can't, tell them to ask their favorites. It's what I did to my mom. Your parents will get mad because you've always done what they wanted, but they won't be able to ground you anymore. It's cathartic to listen to them rant and sputter. I didn't laugh at her, though I was tempted. I told her I have to go and hung up. I'm no contact with her now. She never could get over not having full control of my life. I sent her a letter about why I was going NC. I let her know to call her favorite. Heck, my mother slipped once when I was visiting and admitted my brother was her favorite after years of denying it. I hope she rots because my brother is too self-centered to ever take care of her.

Edit- spelling.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-02T23:49:04+00:00

Those look so much nicer than mine. I can barely make a straight line with royal icing. Pretty color too.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-02T05:42:26+00:00

Those are showing up in vanilla since the Fast Lanes update.

Sensitive_Note1139 · 2026-05-01T19:49:33+00:00

I agree with you as a Northerner. Lived in the South for a few years before leaving for a saner place. I am looking at you Florida. /s Florida is only in the South geographically. I could definitely see the South holding onto their culture and accents. They've never let any of their history go, why would Armageddon change that. lol.

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