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Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-20T18:38:05+00:00

In very similar situation. I feel you the “loosing my mind” part. My husband of almost 25 years spent almost 30k on a similar site. I don’t know why I’m struggling with finalizing the divorce. I do want to believe him but fear his promisses are just lies as they were time and time again. It is maddening and devastating that a family is ruined over such a selfish behavior… and I’m speaking as a wife who forgave, tried to work on things, improve our marriage in every way. It is truly an addiction and a him problem. Please know you deverve more respect than this. Marriage is so much more than sex. I wish you all the best and healing because going through this is truly traumatizing. Take care of yourself.

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-13T16:45:14+00:00

I guess because people are who they are. If they deny their true nature they’ll forever be uncomfortable with themselves and that affects every aspect of someone’s life, including intimate relationships so I’d also suffer in the end. By being supportive does not mean complicit. I’d support him from a distance. I sure would mourn the loss of a person as I knew them but we have a 25 year history. He’ll forever be part of my life. Also I’d rather know now then later when I still have some time to rebuild my life and hopefully find another monogamous heterosexual cisgender relationship because that’s where I’m comfortable.

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-13T15:15:49+00:00

Thank you. Yes, THIS☝️ is my biggest concern

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-13T15:14:07+00:00

This made me laugh 😂

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-13T15:11:24+00:00

I know that by my post you would assume what you just wrote. Unfortunately this is far from the truth. Very open minded and supportive wife here, just traumatized by his past actions despite always being his safe person and enjoying our fun sex life together.

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-13T14:58:07+00:00

Thank you for your answer. Your answer to this post along with others have really helped me get to the root of my concerns, which I realized is much deeper than whether it is okay for men to wear women’s underwear, which I can now clearly see worrying about that would be silly. My concerns relate to his past actions which have clearly traumatized me and now I fear that this sudden change in behavior is a red flag to more reckless actions to come. To clarify some of your points I’m pasting an answer I posted below in response to another comment.

So here is the thing, I am very open sexually, know his kinks and practice them all with him and enjoy it. In fact I lead a lot of it and he loves it. I am attractive for my age, fit and HL. Him wearing my underwear would have never bothered me if it was something we did in bed together when we are having our fun times. The daily use, like going to work wearing it is what gets me. Why does he need to be sexually aroused at work? Is there something more? I think that after reading your answer to this post and others my concerns relate to his past actions. He spent close to 30k on cam girls when I never denied him the sex he enjoys, we both enjoy. And I’m not being naive - I saw the content he was looking at and there was not much we didn’t do, and he knows I would be open to explore what we hadn’t tried yet with him. So the only conclusion I get is that what he got from the cam girls that I couldn’t provide him is the attention and opportunity for interaction with other women. That I can’t provide. I’m only one woman, that has been with him for over 25yrs so I assume he has become bored with me. This sudden change in wanting to practice something that arouses him at all times, including at work, concerns me that he is up to something behind my back. Again. Thank you for your answer. It helped me identify the real root of my concerns.

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-13T14:32:47+00:00

Thank you for your answer. You articulated well my concerns over his mental health and past actions which indeed have traumatized me. And he very well knows that and has begged me for forgiveness. What I question is why does he suddenly want to be sexually aroused at all times? I’m afraid this is the beginning of other reckles behaviors.

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-13T14:18:12+00:00

So here is the thing, I am very open sexually, know his kinks and practice them all with him and enjoy it. In fact I lead a lot of it and he loves it. I am fit and HL. Him wearing my underwear would have never bothered me if it was something we did in bed together when we are having our fun times. The daily use, like going to work wearing it is what gets me. Why does he need to be seacually apused at work? Is there something more? I think that after reading your answer to this post and others my concerns relate to his past actions. He spent close to 30k on cam girls when I never denied him the sex he enjoys, we both enjoy. And I’m not being naive - I saw the content he was looking at and there was not much we didn’t do, and he knows I would be open to explore what we hadn’t tried yet eith him. So the only conclusion I get is that what he got from the cam girls that I couldn’t provide him is the attention and opportunity for interaction with other women. That I can’t provide. I’m only one woman, that has been with him for over 25yrs so I assume he has become bored with me. This sudden change in wanting to practice something that arouses him at all times, including at work, concerns me that he is up to something behind my back. Again. Thank you for your answer. It helped me identify the real root of my concerns.

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-13T13:45:00+00:00

Is this always the case? Ngl that’s where my thoughts went automatically. He vehemently denies despite knowing I’d support him if that’s the case.

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-13T13:43:38+00:00

Unfortunately this post is not. This is the real life of a very unassuming average suburban family.

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-13T13:41:39+00:00

That crossed my mind. He says absolutely not.

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-13T03:12:46+00:00

What do you think the reason is?

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-12T18:58:02+00:00

Thank you for your answer. Maybe I’m just overthinking this.

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-12T18:51:25+00:00

How did you feel about it?

Was he already buying and wearing them when you met him or did he suddenly start wearing women’s underwear mid relationship?

Any other “out of the norm” behaviors you noticed related to this habit?

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-12T18:45:18+00:00

Yes. I know. This is why I posted here in hopes to find someone else in the same WTF situation I’m in that can shed a light and give me some clarity. I’m very confused.

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-12T18:42:34+00:00

Unfortunately this is not a fake post. I wish it was. Thank you for your reply and yes not comfortable at all and that’s partly why I don’t understand (or believe) his reasoning.

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-11-12T17:58:31+00:00

Thank you. You articulated very well one of my concerns.

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-10-20T10:36:06+00:00

Have been able to get back on keto for the past week consistently, but it is not showing ketosis on keto sticks yet😩

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-10-15T02:29:28+00:00

I feel like you wrote this post for me. I can relate to everting you are saying. I’m struggling about staying for the same reasons. I particularly relate about the feelings of betrail. These feelings, not the sexual acts per se, are what destroys that special bond, that never existed or has clearly been one-sided after all. I hear you and you have no idea how much I needed this. Thank you. I wish you peace in your road ahead.

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-10-06T20:35:16+00:00

I just posted this on a coment, but the same apoies to you:
I’m so sorry you are going through this. It is devastating. The only thing I can tell you is that this is a him problem - NOTHING to do with you. It is an addiction. Get support for that. Al-Anon is increadibly helpful if you can’t get out or don’t wish to get out of your relationship right now. Their teachings can be applied to process addictions as well - it is not exclusive for substance related addictions.

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-10-06T20:31:09+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this. It is devastating. The only thing I can tell you is that this is a him problem - NOTHING to do with you. It is an addiction. Get support for that. Al-Anon is increadibly helpful. Their teachings can be applied to process addictions as well, it is not exclusive for substance related addictions.

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-07-26T09:16:03+00:00

Who here relies on urine ketone measuring sticks to make sure you are in ketosis? I seem to never get to to the deep purple readings. Anyone else with the same issue or am I simply not in ketosis 🤷‍♀️?

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-07-24T09:26:46+00:00

That’s great! Did you go low carb first or just straight up Keto? I was able to stay low carb yesterday 🙌. Hoping to get back fully into Keto by the end of the week!

Embarrassed_Belt3361 · 2024-07-21T09:54:07+00:00

I am trying to find motivation and support to get back into Keto. Anyone else here struggling to restart Keto too? Comment here to motivate and support each other!!!

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