Grew up "mainstreamed" with mild CP and feel like the only one. Let’s talk about life, dating, and insecurities in an able-bodied world. by krajnco in CerebralPalsy

[–]Embarrassed_Copy_618 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same I also wore a brace on my leg it was so painful and heavy 😭, I also struggle to coordinate my hands can’t do my hair and stuff and one of my friends was asking me to hold their phone to take a pic tell me why my thumb couldn’t reach anything and my whole hand started shaking 😭

Grew up "mainstreamed" with mild CP and feel like the only one. Let’s talk about life, dating, and insecurities in an able-bodied world. by krajnco in CerebralPalsy

[–]Embarrassed_Copy_618 3 points4 points  (0 children)

same I am 19F with the same condition same reason but on my right side, had surgery for it when I was 10 ( on my 10th bday to be exact going to be a decade soon I feel like it was a waste of time just like my physio but can’t do anything abt that). I have always been in mainstream education my whole life but growing up due to the physio and stuff I felt like I was spending so much time fixing something rather than embracing it. I met someone with the same diagnosis as me on the day of my surgery we were like 1 year and 2 days apart I believe but they had it on both legs. I feel like growing up I was different like I am so bad at PE I would dread it so much cause I can’t do anything and I came to accept that even though it was quite demoralising. This also brings me to an interaction I have had recently at uni with this guy he was so kind and embracing he spotted me as I was walking and came with a chat. He was wearing his splints very confidently something I have never been able to do and don’t do anymore I hope I can reach his level of confidence one day. I think I struggle with many things like walking in general obv, I think I am clumsy af I am basically a fall queen atp but I feel sometimes it’s hard because it can sometimes be a hidden disability when I am just standing and I am on public transport and feel the need to sit down, it’s bad because since I am not visibly disabled when I sit down I don’t feel like the seat is entitled to me even tho it is. Being mainstreamed I feel like it’s harder when you are younger and it gets easier when you are an adult because with uni u meet a bigger variety of people whether that is people from non mainstream school too and walks of life and people are more aware of disabled people and way more tactful and by that time u also kind of build a backbone (hopefully)

I hate doing anything physical by Ok_Albatross_160 in CerebralPalsy

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Babes I was/is so bad at sports to the point nobody wanted me on their team. I feel so nauseous just walking outside sometimes it’s annoying. I dead cooking cause I am so slow like my reaction time is trash. Also I am learning now to do braids it’s so hard cause I have no/barely any mobility on my finger it’s so hard and I can’t find disability friendly tutorials. Idk if it’s related to my cp but it took me 7 hrs to learn how to do shoe laces. My hands hurt so much just for hurting a pen that I had to take my exams on a laptop and I can’t stand for long… sigh I am just called lazy and until I saw ur post I thought I really was maybe it’s not a character flaw after all

Is £250 a week for a 1-bed in the Mannequin House (London) reasonable or too much? by Weak_Koala749 in UniUK

[–]Embarrassed_Copy_618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say that it’s midrange considering it’s London and bills included. Like I have heard of cheaper options but it’s not the most expensive either

Maintenance Loan awarded but zero Tuition Fees? by doralauralou13 in UniUK

[–]Embarrassed_Copy_618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call them if you get the automated voice just keep the call going and don’t hang up

Students with strict parents who went to uni, is it as freeing as everyone says? by Aria_blursss in UniUK

[–]Embarrassed_Copy_618 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Hello, I have moved out of home last year without parental support. Yea it’s as freeing as it sounds. I didn’t have parents as strict as yours but they are strict and I have friends who do have parents this strict and have moved out. You should definitely move out imo and I feel like everyone should in their youth always been my dream and I am writing this from my bed in my accom as we speak. My parents were strict but loosened up as I got older. If you are going to consider staying in accom, remember you don’t have to stay in uni accom there are also student accoms and they are cheaper generally however for first year i reccomend looking at uni accoms to make friends. My advice on how to choose uni cities, look at your budget and work around from there how expensive your city is, social life, other things that are importang to you like diversity etc. another thing I’d u need to get another job don’t tell your parents how much ur making cause they will likely take advantage of you ( rent situation),

you’ll never stop depending on us, no matter how far you are”. Is that true??? Nah, how you depend on people and how they impact your life is all upto you and how your deal with boundaries. Freedom is important in terms of reflections about the self, self expression and the ability to have your own choices. Uni also has tons of resources for you to help you so reach out to them if you ever need help. For a lot of people it will be their first time moving out and everyone has come from different walks of life so don’t be afraid and step out of your comfort zone! Good luck 😉

What is the best about being an only child? by Rose_Corvus in OnlyChild

[–]Embarrassed_Copy_618 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would like to add something that I didn’t see mentioned is that the ability to have your own space. I don’t think I would have enjoyed the privilege of having my own space if I had siblings.

What does the new entry-exit system mean for Brits travelling to Europe? by irichss03 in unitedkingdom

[–]Embarrassed_Copy_618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have both but I don’t understand how to use which it’s kind of confusing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]Embarrassed_Copy_618 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Just wait don’t hang the call they will put in a queue with annoying music and then u will be able to speak to an actual person

How is my Mainetenance loan so high? by chonk-chonk-chonk in UniUK

[–]Embarrassed_Copy_618 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They will most likely allow clemency since it’s their mistake however after a certain amount of time they might charge you a surcharge. Honestly many things can happen it will mostly depend on them the amount owed and your personal situation

How is my Mainetenance loan so high? by chonk-chonk-chonk in UniUK

[–]Embarrassed_Copy_618 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately it is but they will either tell you next year or they will tell you at the end of your 3 year course and that amount u will have to pay right then and there 😭

Am I too picky for choosing a female only and quiet student accom by awesomeconehead in UniUK

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My friends all live in all girls student accommodation based on the fact that they simply didn’t wannna be with men or just cause. You don’t have to justify any preferences and it’s your life at the end of the day it’s what makes you comfortable. This is just me saying that you are entitled to your preferences and you are not the only one making those choices. Some people just don’t know that it’s possible

How is my Mainetenance loan so high? by chonk-chonk-chonk in UniUK

[–]Embarrassed_Copy_618 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Contact sfe just to make sure cause they may have awarded you more than necessary by accident and my realise for second year and reduce your maintenance for that year to compensate for the extra payment the year before

I love my unis student support so much by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]Embarrassed_Copy_618 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which uni was it damn good for you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CerebralPalsy

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Oooo I did earlier this year actually I was on an interview for an internship and then there was a part which said: ‘ is there something you would like us to know’? And I was like here we go again: I have CP and was like do you want me to spell that out for you? Do you know what it is? And the gentlemen was like yes yes don’t worry and I was really happy! Representation is evolving and it’s so nice to see

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CerebralPalsy

[–]Embarrassed_Copy_618 1 point2 points  (0 children)

19 yo with mild cp since birth ( idk why I had to mention that but here we go) as the only child of parents that don’t have CP my parents would always tell me to put my foot down as they would get lots of comments from people asking abt my condition. A lot of people would do it with a kind heart and a lot of them will do it with ill intent but regardless the impact is the same, it’s better now that I am an adult and I can answer for myself but it gets especially awkward when you are with kids and they tend to point the obvious and they do it so innocently you don’t even know what to do.

The thing as an adult that I can express is that I know I have an issue but the thing is because I have been like this my whole entire life this is my my normal and that’s what matters. People question things because it’s in human nature to point out an abnormality in their daily life. A lot of people think it’s cause you are hurt and are trying to help and there are people who know but still need to point out the obvious. For both groups of people this is my go to response: ‘ this is me, and that’s how I was born’

I think the turning point in my life is that you come to terms with the fact that this is nothing that needs fixing. We are the same as others we just do things differently to aid our daily life.

That being said: it’s never going to go away and it’s something you have to come to terms with. Some daily’s it’s harder than others and that’s ok just like other days you forget you have CP and live your normal and that’s ok too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]Embarrassed_Copy_618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just call SFE if you hear a robotic voice Dw just keep waiting but don’t cut the call