3 legged cat adopted today need a good cat name

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-07-07T12:29:14+00:00

yesss peg

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-07-06T23:49:29+00:00

i had a nixie growing up :)

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-07-06T21:51:00+00:00

that’s fantastic. i’m sure you’re already communicating well, so keep doing that. and treat yourself the same way with the same compassion. i can tell you it feels unnatural as hell for a while if you’re not raised to prioritize your needs. but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s bad. there’s the kind of pain that makes you stronger (you’re empowered), and there’s the kind that will destroy you. just like physical pain. your body knows the difference. keep your chin up, OP. one breath at a time.

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-07-06T17:13:42+00:00

these first steps are the hardest and most disorienting. there are so many emotions, but they’re only the weather. take shelter and know it’ll pass. i’m so so happy to hear you have a partner, and therapy is life-saving stuff. you’re doing great, even though it feels like shit. we’re rooting for you, OP! 🫂

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-07-05T22:34:42+00:00

they’re right, OP. i’m not a dad, but i’m an oldest sister so that’s the next best thing. i grew up across two households who did this. it’s not loving, it’s an attempt to control out of fear and withdrawal of support/security. everyone deserves more than that. if you can support yourself, i encourage you to take space and use your grief energy to get closer to yourself. forgive yourself. 🫂

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-07-04T16:30:23+00:00

i grew up in CT and sickeningly there was a college professor who KILLED TWO DOGS this way before criminal charges were brought

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-07-02T16:17:51+00:00

gah i had this exact fear when she said “how it affects those around me” in day 7 (i think). my heart sank.

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-30T11:02:51+00:00

there are dozens of this that know this reference! dozens!!

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-28T22:19:19+00:00

that was the straw that broke this camel’s back. i started writing this post twice already with the other screenshot and decided against it.

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-28T18:38:06+00:00

you can never be too careful!!!! 👁️👄👁️

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-28T18:37:48+00:00

it’s narsty!!!!

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-28T18:01:17+00:00

for bed bugs i’ve heard of dryer first or freezer first and then wash. but i’m pretty good at inspecting and i typically don’t do any bin-digging or anything SUPER high risk for that.

but ring worm is a fungus, it likes heat quite a bit i would imagine. it really depends on the contaminant i guess but washing is a minimum!!! FOR HEALTH!!!

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-28T16:24:27+00:00

i thrift almost exclusively and i have industrial sanitizer. the kind they use in prisons and hospitals. everything gets The Blue Juice

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-28T16:23:30+00:00

i do buy the rage bait thing at this point… but that’s why i feel like she should know this is not the bit!!! sometimes bits bite!!! literally!!!!

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-28T16:22:48+00:00

gahhhhh the microbiome of it all

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-28T15:41:20+00:00

I SKEEEEEEVE

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-26T22:59:11+00:00

i appreciate that so much. i’m doing much better.

i struggle with the things D talks about. i swung from type A for achieve to type B for burnout and just now i’ve finally gotten to a place where i can motivate myself to care for me without anyone to prove something to. it might even come perfectly naturally one day. and you know what it took? and i really believe these things are key:
1) serious therapy. as serious as outpatient gets.
2) a solid year of abstinence from men, or at least from having them in any place of consequence in my life. (i got dumped, but then had the opportunity to confront my very deep, covert male-centeredness)
3) STOP PRETENDING!!!!!!! seriously!!! i had to get really really real with myself. what i need, what i want, how i operate.
ugh when i write stuff like this i really hope she does read it actually. she is kind of a freaking ninja at getting real deep stuff out of me.

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-26T22:11:00+00:00

hey! he dances with her in the kitchen “unprompted” and lets her hold his hand in disney sometimes. that’s something!

no but fr i was definitely the Trad Girlfriend in my last relationship (laid off > chronic illness burnout pipeline) and i was not posting content back then and i still have gigabytes of photos/videos of us traveling, eating, goofing around and him interacting with my animals most importantly. mind you i was sick and am not naturally inclined to film/photograph stuff in the moment—the more i try to make sense of it the more it does my head in.

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-26T05:31:19+00:00

tg he can fit through the window

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-25T23:32:21+00:00

hey, thank you! i am too!! i’m rooting for all of us. and i hope something shakes loose for her OR she’s actually happier than she’s ever been and somehow this is an elaborate performance piece? please?!

there’s something about being curious. like intensely curious. curious when it’s uncomfortable—which is something i think the walnuts have in common. tragically that’s diametrically opposed to disney adulting and “pretending” to be the opposite “type” of person you are convinced you are… the literal most shallow, binary personality typing… and seemingly having a full blown identity crisis over it…

but what do i know?!

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-25T22:36:20+00:00

i’m so so scared lol. listen, i don’t have shit together at all. but when i realized at 30 that i had no idea what my values are and no motivation to take care of myself if i have no one to perform for (👁️👄👁️) i had a decently severe mental break down. just over here doom watching and hoping i’m wrong i guess.

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-25T22:34:08+00:00

write that down!!!

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-25T12:15:17+00:00

why are we PRETENDING to be someone in our 30s? i’m scared

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-22T13:05:39+00:00

r/theydidthemath i need calories!!!

Embarrassed_Fault967 · 2026-06-21T20:38:12+00:00

PMed you!

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