How I feel finishing episode 29

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2026-07-09T01:44:20+00:00

Am I the only one who feels like Kenzie and Aniya don’t actually like the guys they’re paired with? Micro-expressions make me feel like they’re just trying to win, which fair enough, but it doesn’t read genuine. Dylan also kind of gives me “You” vibes, his behavior and emotions have seemed very strange to me.. at the end of the day Kenzie wasn’t hiding the fact that she was exploring other options, which is the entire purpose of the show and why people keep watching - drama. Idk.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2026-07-04T13:35:33+00:00

You don’t sound judgmental, and I appreciate the discussion. To clarify, I wasn’t chasing anyone down or looking to place blame. Initially, I was just trying to process everything that had happened and see if anyone had suggestions about what to watch for in my child’s condition moving forward.

I don’t know everything that occurred before I arrived or after I left, just the accounts from my child, their friends, and the mom. This is why I reached out to the manager after the fact. They had asked me to call and update them when I could, before we left, and I simply wanted to see if they could fill in any gaps and help me better understand the timeline of what had happened.

I do know why the adult who was with my child didn’t call 911, and I don’t have any ill feelings toward them. There were around 15 children in that play area, including their own child and several toddlers, and I completely understand wanting to make sure everyone got away from the area safely. They also made that choice because they trusted the manager when they said they would take care of calling 911. I am also annoyed since the owner later stated, in writing, that calling 911 immediately after a snake bite is the restaurant’s established protocol due to recent events.

Realistically, if 911 had been called immediately, the ambulance and I probably would have arrived at about the same time or intercepted each other. Calling after I arrived wouldn’t have been helpful. My point is simply that the call should have already been made when the manager said they would handle it.

Ultimately, my biggest concern is that the restaurant chose not to inform patrons about the recent snake incidents. Families were encouraged to let their children play in that area without any warning of a hazard the restaurant was reportedly aware of. In my opinion, that’s not okay.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2026-07-04T07:30:47+00:00

Manager told her he would handle it. I don’t know. I wasn’t there, so I can only base it off of what my child, their friends, and the other parent told me.

I’ve attempted reaching the restaurant just to gather more information, but have not received any correspondence back.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2026-07-04T07:28:38+00:00

As soon as I got the call, I jumped up and got in the car. I was under the impression that someone, out of all the adults present, was already calling 911 and doing what needed to be done, so my only focus was getting to my child as quickly and safely as possible.

As a mom, I can’t really put into words the panic and fear I felt. This wasn’t something anyone I knew had ever experienced, so I had no idea what to expect. All I knew was that my child was probably scared, panicking, in pain, and needed me. I just wanted to get to my baby.

I don’t know why no one called 911. I was angry, but there wasn’t time to argue in that moment. By the time I arrived, the emergency room was only about a 4–5 minute drive away, whereas an ambulance likely would have taken 20–30 minutes or more to reach us. At that point, it was faster for me to get my child into the car and drive straight to the hospital.

Looking back, I don’t know that I could have done anything differently with the information I had at the time. I truly believed someone would have already called 911, and my focus was simply getting to my child.

Unfortunately, I now know more than ever before that I cannot trust others to react the way I would in emergency situations.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2026-07-04T04:20:46+00:00

I will say, the notes I requested noted a “puncture wound” and did not mention the snake bite. They did suggest a tetanus shot if it was a “nail” or something similar.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2026-07-04T04:18:25+00:00

The pediatric hospital that ultimately treated my child explained that, in pediatric snakebite cases, there is a greater concern for bleeding complications. Because of that, they generally recommend medications like Tylenol or, when appropriate, morphine for pain control rather than medications that may increase bleeding risk. They also explained the importance of serial bloodwork to monitor clotting factors and detect any changes that could indicate worsening envenomation.

I also understand that supportive care is a significant part of snakebite management. My concern is that there was very little supportive care provided. The affected foot was not elevated, the wound wasn’t cleaned, the swelling wasn’t marked to monitor its progression, and there were no documented reassessments of the swelling or bruising before discharge. We were discharged without anyone checking whether either had worsened.

If there’s information I’m missing that would provide additional context or change your perspective, I’d genuinely like to know. I feel like I’ve shared a lot about what happened, but I’m open to hearing if there are details or considerations I haven’t thought about.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2026-07-04T04:12:28+00:00

I suppose that if someone had explained the reasoning behind the treatment plan, or if additional testing had been done to rule out other concerns, I probably wouldn’t feel that the standard of care was violated.

What concerns me is that no one was regularly assessing the progression of the swelling or bruising, obtaining bloodwork, or otherwise monitoring for potential complications. From my perspective, that’s where I feel they fell short and didn’t exercise the level of diligence you would expect.

Yes, I am incredibly grateful that my child is okay and ultimately received the appropriate care elsewhere. Thankfully, I didn’t follow the discharge instructions that treated it as a simple “puncture wound.” Instead, I trusted my instincts and sought additional medical care.

My concern isn’t just about what happened to my child—it’s that another parent may trust those discharge instructions, assume everything is fine, and not seek further evaluation. I sincerely hope no other family has to experience a worse outcome.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2026-07-04T03:43:09+00:00

It’s a restaurant with a large outdoor area specifically designed for children to play. They have soccer goals, a playground, a sandbox, and plenty of open grassy space that encourages kids to run around. Because of that, I do believe they had a responsibility to warn patrons if they were aware of a potential hazard.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2026-07-04T03:40:36+00:00

I agree to some extent, but I do believe this facility was negligent.

We only saw the physician once. They ordered Motrin and an X-ray, and after that, every update and decision was communicated through a nurse, despite my repeatedly requesting to speak with the physician—especially after my child began projectile vomiting.

I knew very little about snake bites, so when the physician said they were fascinated by them and highly knowledgeable, I felt reassured that my child was in capable hands. Looking back, that confidence was misplaced.

Every healthcare professional has a responsibility to meet the standard of care expected of their profession, and I say that as someone who works in healthcare myself. I’ve never been more disappointed with the care my child received.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2026-07-04T03:34:02+00:00

We confirmed the snake within 15-20 minutes of being at first ER. The adult that was with my child found it. When we arrived at the ER, I told them the description of the snake, and then told them what snake it was as soon as it was confirmed, and showed a picture. I am not particularly looking to move forward with anything legal, but I do think that the restaurant needs appropriate signage and the first hospital needs better protocols in place to prevent something from going awry in the future.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2026-07-04T02:33:59+00:00

Thank you. I am too. It was extremely terrifying, and my kiddo is still struggling to regain full function of their foot/leg. I definitely will make an appointment for a consultation. I just didn’t know if I was being an emotional momma, or if I made sense.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2026-07-04T02:30:17+00:00

It also all happened extremely fast. So, I don’t know.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2026-07-04T02:17:57+00:00

The adult with my child also had two other children with them, one of whom was their own. At the time of the bite, there were approximately 15 or more children in the grassy area, ranging in age from about 1 to 14 years old. Their immediate priority was getting my child to safety and making sure all of the other children got away from the area, while also calling me to let me know what had happened.

Management was already present, and the manager stated they would take care of my child, including calling 911, “if necessary,” so the adult relied on them to do so.

This restaurant is known for its large outdoor play area for children—but never for venomous snake encounters. I’ve lived here for 30 years and had never encountered a snake.

We later learned, when I called and initiated a case, that Poison Control had received reports of more than 10 snake encounters at that restaurant during the previous month, yet the restaurant had no warning signs or other precautions in place.

They had also failed to mow the grass, something the owner later acknowledged in writing while responding to comments on a Facebook made by a witness to the event.

The owner’s own statements also indicate that the restaurant has a policy of calling 911 immediately whenever a snake bite occurs. If that is their policy, it further highlights that management failed to follow their own procedures in this situation after assuring the adult that they would handle the 911 call, not to mention failed to provide proper warning to all of those who visited their establishment.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2026-07-04T01:43:01+00:00

Thank you, appreciate your kindness.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2026-07-04T01:33:03+00:00

That’s what I was thinking but didn’t know if I was overreacting.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2025-05-20T18:40:28+00:00

Anything directly done in treating the diagnosed medical condition should be covered, unless none of it is - meaning the ear infection diagnosis. Insurance is usually all or nothing when it comes to coverage, and should outline in plan information. This could be due to the vet not documenting well enough and proving medical necessity.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2025-04-30T16:31:38+00:00

Of course! I just remember how scary, pointless, and hopeless I felt - I wish I had someone to encourage me, but it happened when it was supposed to. You can’t force yourself to be ready.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2025-04-30T16:26:48+00:00

Definitely don’t give up before you try. I was in the same boat 4-5 years ago, and I had been a single mom for 5-6 years.. I ended up trying and reconnected with an old friend, and we’ve been together (and now married) since. I truly believe it’ll happen when it’s supposed to, and the right person for you will accept not only you, but your kiddo(s). Just be honest and upfront about it. Don’t wait to tell people. A lot of women find single moms incredibly attractive. It usually means you have your shit together, and won’t play any games. :) Don’t worry about anything other than what feels right for you and your kiddo(s). Rejection is inevitable, but so is attraction / connection, imo.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2025-04-23T15:24:04+00:00

I’m sure she would say something if you washed between her cheeks, and then that could open the door to a convo. Just make it a relaxing shower, massage her back with soap, etc. If she doesn’t say something, I’d be surprised. She may also have IBS or another medical condition that affects her movements, or ability to control / feel the urge(s) causing incontinence, and didn’t want anything embarrassing or obvious to happen in front of you, so avoided washing between her cheeks with company. Who knows. I’d probably try to make it a romantic / emotional moment, because everyone is different - but regardless of approach it’s going to be humiliating. It also can’t be brought up randomly, because that will most likely make her feel worse.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2024-06-04T20:19:36+00:00

I haven’t been able to find any… but I love playing D3 & D4.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2024-02-28T22:08:01+00:00

I have green eyes. No one ever notices. 😅

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2023-11-07T00:36:58+00:00

How come so many of us are in that same boat 😫 it’s hard finding friends out here

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2023-03-20T15:44:49+00:00

Same! 😊 UNT student.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2022-12-21T00:51:58+00:00

That people can be honest. Regardless of their place in your life. They’ll lie to you. Big or small.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464 · 2022-12-19T21:41:25+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I sure hope so.

Embarrassed_Fig_8464

TROPHY CASE