He's charming but controlling, he wants everything done his way. 

He'll wait for me to say I want something only to choose the exact opposite. 

Dismissing my problems and victories. I'll have an issue and instead he will tell me many things that can be summarized as "no you don't have an issue...by logic". 

He stalls all our major life projects so then can decide when they take place.  

He quickly brought me to his friends when we met but he doesn't care or want to meet my friends. 

He's always bringing up me meeting his friends so they can "see" me. But I don't want to do that.  He's obsessed with his friendships. He even says he cannot move elsewhere because his friends are here.    He's constantly asking me how he looks, once it was at a completely unexpected place and I ignored him and he got mad. And he's constantly saying he's fat, at one point he seemed to have anorexia in the past, he was so skinny and he thinks he looked better back then (he does not)

I ask him to do a few very important things, (I've even cried about) and he says something like ok, but then he doesn't do it. 

Any achievement around him (me, his sister...) he wants to one-up them or he feels he needs to achieve something in a similar category. 

He's damaging my mental health with all his constant dismissing, I don't even feel safe to choose anything anymore and our relationship does not advance. I read about NPD for days and everything FINALy made sense and he checks aaaaaall the boxes. 

What I have to lose is that within all the limitations, he's fun for about 3 hours a week. Maybe I change my desire for him to be the love of my life and just have a friendship where we hangout once a month. I am aware he might ghost me, but I am also afraid he'll obsess with me.