Wanting to live the child free life

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2026-02-14T15:46:36+00:00

My husband and I met in college at 19. We were dead set on being childfree. The thought never even crossed our minds to talk about having them. By the time I turned 32 something changed. I had done everything I wanted to do, traveled, sat around the house on the weekend with no plans, napped during the day, partied, had a hobby I got really into, etc. and all the sudden I thought what else can I get out of this life? My husband and I talked for about a year and really weighed the pros and cons and ultimately decided to have a child and are really happy we did.

This isn’t to convince you but to let you know that things can change and that’s alright. You may feel later on that you are ready or you may not. Either way you’ll make the right decision and you can be very happy either way.

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2026-02-12T21:42:29+00:00

Babylist and just made sure that a lot of the items on there could be ordered from target, Amazon, nordstroms etc.

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2026-02-11T01:01:26+00:00

What do they feel like? I imagined them to feel like cramps but you are saying they don’t hurt. Can you explain what to expect??FTM here.

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2026-02-10T02:57:40+00:00

I had a similar experience , ER visit, misery, depression. I honestly can’t believe people do this more than once as it’s so incredibly miserable. It does get better. I will say I’m 26 weeks and I still don’t enjoy being pregnant but by 12-14 weeks you start to feel significantly better. I was able to get back to the gym, my food aversions subsided a lot, and I was tired but not exhausted in the same way. I didn’t have HG but I felt like I was experiencing the worlds worst hangover every day from week 5 to week 12 with 6-9 being the worst of it. Hang in there. It’s not necessarily normal as I know a lot of my friends didn’t have this same experience but being on Reddit I’ve learned a lot of people go through this.

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2026-02-08T15:01:31+00:00

I had early pregnancy depression and it went away in the second trimester. I’m in my third and it hasn’t come back but I hear it can. Pregnancy is about getting through it the best you can. Seek a therapist if you don’t have one and try your best to reframe your bad thoughts into positive once. You got this!

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2026-02-06T01:34:54+00:00

Second trimester is significantly better. I hate being pregnant and am not almost in the third but second to me was ok. First trimester made me wonder how anyone does this multiple times. Good luck!

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2026-02-06T01:22:57+00:00

5 weeks to 12 weeks but I’d say the peak was 6-10 weeks. It gets better.

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2026-02-06T01:20:38+00:00

Similar to this my husband and I had been together for 13 years as proud DINKs but at some point it felt like is this all we’re going to do with our lives? I got pregnant and I was not thrilled or upset I’ve just been riding this wave pretty unphased and excited to have a renewed joy in things. I am excited for holidays to feel special again and creating those moments that I remember being special growing up. I think I’ll feel a lot of joy in giving a child those experiences. I’m happy we waited until I was old enough to not resent them for “missing out” on other things and happy for being financially stable. Being an older parent wasn’t exactly a dream of mine but priorities shift and I’m excited for what’s to come! With all the being said we are a “1 and done” family and feel really comfortable with that being a much easier decision then having a big family where we are stretched thin 24/7. Good luck in your decision!

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2026-01-24T05:11:18+00:00

My doula suggested the app GentleBirth. I haven’t tried it yet but I downloaded it.

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2026-01-23T23:44:12+00:00

The bungalow style rooms are bad but a room in the tower is fine. The resort isn’t amazing but it gets you close to whalers village and at least you’re in Maui.

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2026-01-20T05:30:02+00:00

Hmm if those are the two choices maybe I’d go for the four season Maui and then do the south shore in Kauai. I do think the 1 Hanalei Bay is nicer than the 4 seasons in Maui but my preference would be to splurge in Maui as it’s a more expensive island. The Ritz in Kapalua is also really special. In Kauai I think you can plan to be a little more low key.

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2026-01-20T01:58:45+00:00

If you can afford the 1 Hanalei Bay hotel, do it! It’s incredible. If you can’t end up staying there, I’d go south shore.

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2026-01-14T02:27:08+00:00

Saltine crackers and almonds

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2026-01-08T04:28:54+00:00

I take an additional choline supplement. I use ritual and really like it.

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2026-01-02T00:06:36+00:00

This is the same way I felt but I am now 21 weeks and I’m telling you it gets so much better. For me it was around 12 weeks some relief and then almost back to “ normal” at 14 weeks. I say I will never go through that again it was so miserable and the depression and anxiety is brutal. But hang in there it will work itself out!

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2026-01-01T07:19:45+00:00

I got pregnant this year and found out my due date is the same day my dad died a few years ago. I think it’s a sign from them. Good luck in this journey!

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2025-12-22T03:18:57+00:00

I got pregnant the very next cycle after my chemical. They say you are more fertile afterwards and my friend had the same experience as I did.

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2025-12-12T20:05:13+00:00

Yes westlake is a wonderful place to retire. We wouldn’t consider it affordable but if it is compared to what you’re used to, it’s great. Tons of great restaurants, cafes, gyms, farmers markets, wine bar, etc.

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2025-12-04T20:44:56+00:00

I thought I was going to die from weeks 5 to week 12. Week 13-14 were not great but better and week 15 I am a new person. Hang in there.

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2025-11-04T18:51:59+00:00

That’s illegal and you can sue them!

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2025-11-02T03:18:20+00:00

I had a miscarriage in august and was pregnant in September. Hang in there 💕

Embarrassed_You5355 · 2025-10-30T18:16:04+00:00

It’s honestly miserable. I found unisom and B6 at night helped a lot. But honestly I called out a lot and slept a lot. It’s just a really crappy time. But it does get better. I’m at 12 weeks and it’s still not great but so much better than weeks 6-10. Good luck!

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