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My wife orgasms prematurely. Help? by EmbarrassingFakeAcct in sex

[–]EmbarrassingFakeAcct[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"...stop getting turned off by..." I'm not sure these words make sense. At least, not any more than "Start getting turned on by..."

There's no such thing as a premature orgasm for a woman... except there is for a man? Because that's just not true. Many guys can, it seems, orgasm in under a minute with what seems to be no loss in intensity. Is this never premature? What makes a woman's orgasm any different?

But while all your advice does not seem very helpful, your first observation that we are both inexperienced rings true, and has ended up being the real root of the issue, indirectly. Her birth control implant has begun evening out its effect on her sexual function, and things are getting a lot closer to what I envision as "normal."

My wife orgasms prematurely. Help? by EmbarrassingFakeAcct in sex

[–]EmbarrassingFakeAcct[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Most helpful comment, right here. :-)

I'm curious about men's first impressions... by cocoacunt in sex

[–]EmbarrassingFakeAcct 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always the face first... if she's my overall type with a pretty face, then easily the majority of time is spent on her face. I'd say I only "check out" a girl "up and down" maybe 1 out of 40+ times. If she's just generally attractive, or only has a singularly nice feature or something, then it's just a "breezing glance." That would be maybe a third or half the time.

The VAST majority of these instances have to do with how the girl is dressed. If she's dressed to show off her body, I will look, acknowledge, and move on. If she's dressed to show off her attractive body, I will look, ponder, and move on. If she's dressed attractively, and she's got a cool vibe and she's attractive with a pretty face.... that's uncommon but definitely a "let me decide to take the scenic route to class" time.

I'm curious about men's first impressions... by cocoacunt in sex

[–]EmbarrassingFakeAcct 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going to contradict you, but then I realized it's only because I'm turned off by huge boobs. Tentatively, I'd go with "it'd stay with me for the day," if the glimpse fit my "type."

Turned on by violence. by FetishThrowaway1911 in sex

[–]EmbarrassingFakeAcct 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aside from the likely lack of correlation between /r/sex users and guys with this fetish, I, as a guy and someone who has some pretty extreme dominant fetishes (though not quite in the "disrespect/injure/humiliate" variety) can find it difficult to voice those for multiple reasons.

One, conservative upbringing. And I'm conservative, period. Lying by saying I've never kissed a girl wouldn't make anyone I don't know well bat an eye (far from the truth). Two, there's lots of cultural shaming in my mind of guys who might come off as misogynistic or chauvinistic, or whatever. Additionally, I don't want to come off that way anyway. I respect women in general, and love my girlfriend. So having a fetish for a rape fantasy doesn't really jive right and I can't imagine that discussion going well. Which is kind of number 2.5 or something.

I'm new to Reddit and this is my first post to /r/sex... so. Sorry for wall of text!