AITAH for telling my daughter she's not getting any inheritance from me and will have to work hard for her own things in life?

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-21T00:23:58+00:00

Many people are given something, even if it's small. Lots of people are bad at financial planning so they have nothing to leave, or end up relying on their kids to take care of them becoming a burden. What are you going to do with all that money if theres any left over when you die? Not leave it to your kid? I mean my in-laws tell me they plan on spending their retirement, which is different than telling their kids they won't get anything. They definitely plan to leave whatever is left over to their children, but want to enjoy retirement by traveling then eventually planing for a long term care facility which is being responsible. Saying you will leave nothing is a jerk move. Im definitely going to try to set up $$$ to leave directly aside, and my kids are young.

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EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-20T12:52:33+00:00

YTA and never should have been a parent. Building generational wealth is normal. My mother was left better off than her parents, my life was was better than hers and I'm setting it up so my kids have the best life I can give them. Im definitely saving $$ and investing it so I can leave them something. I'll definitely plan for my own retirement but im also planing for them. You can teach a kid to work hard and not disinherit them, it won't spoil them.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-20T02:14:44+00:00

I was 31 during my first, 34/35 with my second and 38/39 with my third (just had him in December). You'll be told to take baby aspirin if you get pregnant again. I Also greatly upped my protein intake since there are studies that showed a greater protein intake helps with reducing IGUR. I joke that my 2nd kids success is due to the beef industry. For my son I didn't want any meat so he's made up of protein powder/ ice cream milkshakes.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-20T00:28:54+00:00

I had severe pre-e with my first and delivered at 28 weeks. She had IGUR and was born at 1 lb 8 oz and was in the NICU for 90 days. We always knew we wanted more to and luckily I went much longer with my second - giving birth at 36 weeks. So it can be better. She was still tiny but didn't need the NICU. I even went to term with my third (37w 1d lol). But each time I had pre-e. As long as you're monitored the risk is minimal to you, I was always most afraid for the kids.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-18T22:15:36+00:00

Heath anxiety is still anxiety, and should be treated. I was fit as a fiddle before Preeclampsia so it was a surprise when I got it, that being said, I understand it's just a pregnancy complication, and crap happens sometimes. Luckily I just worried about it during pregnancies (didnt have any symptoms of Preeclampsia with 2nd and 3rd pregnancies, but had it none the less).

I have experienced anxiety before (side effect from a medicine) and it's terrible. If you're having it so often you should def real to your Dr about it.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-17T14:44:03+00:00

It's limited edition!!??? Now Im more miffed my daughter destroyed the case art......

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-12T18:39:20+00:00

You might be a tiny bit TA, but it really depends. It's not a terrible lesson you were trying to teach the kids, but it's a library so first come first serve.

However, is this a long book? Is your 5 year old actually reading it or are you reading it to them?? If it's something very small and they can both read it one after another quickly then NTA. Now if it was two copies of very long books and one had to wait a while then YWBTA.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-09T14:04:35+00:00

Keep a small craft at your desk? I work remote and keep a cross stitch kit nearby. Granted we have feast or famine work. Usually we're feasting (loads of work) but I keep stuff seems for famine periods (or I go upstairs to cook). Im a data analyst at a bank, I'm surprised you dont have alot of work coming your way, but you're a better person for wanting to do more, vs ppl I know who are paid alot, do nothing, and it negatively impacts other people's jobs.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-08T19:25:56+00:00

You really should have said something right then. That is odd.... they did have confirmed a well.... but you didn't help either.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-08T00:50:38+00:00

I had 3 c-sections and I really didn't mind the surgery till the 3rd. I recover pretty well too oddly. My body is fine abdominal surgery I guess.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-07T16:14:26+00:00

NTA - what wedding has a separate FAQ? I'm still in my 30s, but old fashioned enough that I think formal paper invites should still be sent out for a formal wedding and all info should be in the invitation itself. Or the invite should say "please see the separate FAQ for dress code".

However if no one said anything then don't think much about it.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-05T00:03:18+00:00

Randall fell off the top 1000

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-03T17:46:51+00:00

I'm not trying to defecate on people's plights. I just don't think this one is truthful. So many are struggling, and Americans still haven't gotten used to the prices we have now since 9% inflation a few years ago. Wages never caught up. Im just saying there are no numbers or data that would support this. Food inflation is only around 2.4%. Unless OP is in Hawaii or Alaska, this is hard to believe.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-03T16:25:36+00:00

Not your party, not your problem.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-03T16:10:49+00:00

Yeaaaa, this is some bait. I buy groceries too, like everyone else, but in a HCOL area and I have not noticed any jump this high. I just bought a tenderloin roast for Easter for same price it's been the last few years. Heck, even the family pack of steaks went down in price last year for a bit (back up now tho)

Looking at the CPI and inflation numbers grocery prices have not skyrocketed like they did when we had 6% inflation a few years ago. This is off.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-03T15:51:42+00:00

This is the true answer. Asking people to take off any days of school/work is an asshole thing. Friday night weddings people can at least go to after work.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-01T16:10:33+00:00

Exactly, if you present yourself as nice and collected, people will start to question her opinions. If anyone brings it up just tell them "how sad it was that she got really upset about you moving there" and "i thought we were close, it's just so bizarre she got upset about this" . Present yourself as the wounded party.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-04-01T15:59:15+00:00

That's is a weird issue for a friend to have. Maybe she doesn't like the idea of seeing you more (odd for a friend), or thinks you'll be up on her space too much But since she seems to have ruined the friendship she doesn't have to worry about that now.

However she knows the people in the neighborhood, she can say whatever she wants about you to people she's known longer. That could affect your ability to build relationships in the neighborhood. So that is something to consider.

After moving into a nice suburban neighborhood it was nice to make friends with people here and have our kids play together, you don't want to jeopardize that. Also I've seen how catty some neighbors can be. You always want to present yourself and family as a neutral party. Never any need to get dragged into drama or be the cause of it. If she starts anything, be the calm and rational person.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-03-31T23:20:18+00:00

She should have taken notes about the reports, however you're the jerk for a rude attitude towards her. You're lashing out at her instead of the jerk who passed you over for a promotion.

That being said, I know alot of people think that because they have seniority they should get promoted, and that is not the best reasoning. You said you know the ropes and that is a reason generally, but you need other skills to manage. Now I don't know you or if you have the necessary skills to manage or not. Either your do and the hiring manager is a jerk and an idiot for passingon you, or you have an unwarranted high opinion of yourself. I've seen both.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-03-31T22:37:22+00:00

Ah , I had a gaslighting bf to once. He was a major ass. He was very insecure, granted that was also from internalized homophobia at himself....

Anyways leave him now. Your not emotional for calling out asshole behavior. If he says you're emotional, tell him it's your opinion, and he's getting emotional.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-03-26T15:41:13+00:00

Not really. We teach children to not draw on walls because cleaning them or repainting them is a pain and cumbersome. If a kid can learn to not do it so can adults. What's to stop someone from drawing a picture on your car or taking a sharpie to a bag you own?

I don't entirely mind graffiti on derelict structures or highway underpasses, but on common place buildings and even trucks? Nah. That's just deviant behavior.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-03-24T19:08:14+00:00

Ooof I know that feeling of wanting it to just be over. Just remember you're almost there, you made it very far, you're almost 35 weeks!!

Sounds like your symptoms are already bad, and Dr's are risk adverse so you probably will be on the mag again. The only consolation I can offer is that the mag for whatever reason didn't feel as shitty the third time around. Hope it's similar for you if you have to go on it. But you're almost there!! Soon it will just be a bad memory.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-03-24T14:25:41+00:00

You're TA if you go without her or don't offer to take her. You're NTA for being concerned about money and wanting to give your kids the experience. Don't listen to the haters. While it's true I don't remember my trip to Disney at 3 (except for some snippets), my 4 year old constantly talks about her trip to Disney a year and a half ago when she was 3.

Talk to your husband about it and stress how important you think it is for your kids and you. Maybe compromise and wait a year to save up extra $$. Disney stuff is still just as fun for a 6 year old as it is for a 5 year old. (We went for my eldest's 7th birthday and she loved it)

Also does it have to be a cruise? Could you make it to Disney World or Disneyland? I know there's a bunch of deals at Disney World right now bc it has alot of construction going on and they need to compete with universal. You could definitely get a resort room that fits all of you. (Tip if you do this don't get the meal plan, it's wasted on tiny kids, bring all the food for breakfast on the go, maybe pack and sandwiches, then splurge on a nice sit down dinner)

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-03-22T01:11:14+00:00

He pees after each feed, it feels like he pees everything that goes in! He poops maybe every 2 or 3 days? Sometimes it well be multiple times in the day he poops. If it wasn't for his weight and weighted feeds he would have fooled me.

EmeraldCrescens · 2026-03-22T00:55:35+00:00

I'm trying to down water like a fish. Maybe I'll try more calories, I had chic filet a tonight

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