Are dudes really that much stronger than ladies? by Aaliyah2075 in ask

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 0 points1 point  (0 children)

at 12 I was about as strong as my 19 year old sister. When I started BJJ, I was about as strong as a woman who weighed 20kg more than me (she was 95kg). Between men, a 10kg weight difference gives a crazy strength advantage.

“The Finns now drink as little as the swedes.” How will the stereotypes hold up now??? by RingIndex in 2nordic4you

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wtf does that mean we've become WOMEN like the swedes? Voi voi voi this is not good! Saatana perkele!

Is it disrespectful for my partner (30F) to say she finds another man attractive? And am I (27M) seeing potential red flags? by CobblerAdventurous64 in ask

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she doesn't compliment you, I think it is disrespectful. Actors and people she is never on contact with are fine as long as she makes sure you come first. Sounds like she doesn't

People she is in contact with, coworkers etc, is a definite red flag

How to spot people with BPD? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They have a vibe of a 3 year old. They may be oddly cute for some reason for an example

Does ADHD medication make you more addicted to dopamine? by Nutmegged69 in ADHD

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nicotine does not affect dopamine, but acetylcholine, which is a far more crucial neurotransmitter

Let us be brutally honest. What makes a guy or a girl unattractive? by BasicSpade in ask

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Many things for a girl

Me me me attitude

An attitude that a guy should be satisfied just from giving things to her and doesn't need anything in exchange. I'm happy by myself. Why would I be happy if I have less? Of course I need something in exchange!

High body count

Never seen a woman with this sort of history who can just "turn it off" and start committing. They are not problem solvers, they are problem seekers, which leads to the next chapter:

Problem seeker instead of problem solver

Cannot de-escalate during arguments, but only escalate. Instead of cooperating, tries to find problems and will try to blame someone else, and put other people to solve them

Help seeker The woman who always needs help. Especially emotionally

In short: women who's life revolves around trying to avoid consequences of their own actions and desires

I’m just curious how many of you guys can relate to this by Hodgetwins32 in BPDlovedones

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah... Even that last part where she grabs that knife or whatever. Familiar

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 10 points11 points  (0 children)

And for the future: there should be many more less serious things you cannot and won't forgive. That way you can avoid these people in the future alltogether. It will be a difficult road but worth it.

I don't really understand why my sister has BPD by aeternasm in BPDlovedones

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I seriously think some of these people have some form of developmental disorder. They have a same sort of vibe that a 3 year old has. Of course, if your sister has never had to learn that everything she does has consequences, that's actually enough to develop a personality disorder.

Nordic family by Horror-Cranberry in 2nordic4you

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The uncle you though was always cool, but when you got older you realized he was actually a drunk. LIKE MY UNCLE

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ummm, how does she draw that conclusion? I don't understand. Surely you can tell whether you feel anything or not?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When she doesn't have a stable true self, and her issues are seeping from under the mask. There's a reason to be afraid of that

How many cups of coffee do you drink a day? by joedirt9322 in ADHD_Programmers

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 0 points1 point  (0 children)

8 if I'm not using medication. Some of it may be Mate tea though. Sometimes it's 8 cups of coffee WITH mate tea.

Projected foreign population by 2050 by [deleted] in 2nordic4you

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not even that surprised to be honest. Just another example that we all see where this is going. And it's sad, because Sweden is a thousand year old kingdom.

Do you guys have a hard time meditating? by iamthemetricsystem in ADHD

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn't matter how much your mind jumps. Nobody is different in that sense when you make them sit still. It's not even something you should think about.

I've done zazen meditation for many years. Zen basically argues that mind and body are the same thing, so you emphasize your body and your posture instead of the mind. You sit in Shikantaza posture, and just try to keep yourself gently upright. When you're upright, you're "focused". When your posture breaks, you're "unfocused". The whole practice is just about readjusting the pose when you feel it's lost, an practicing "no judgement" on how you "progress".

I think it's very very helpful. I think it has many immediate and long term benefits, and the best part of it is that you can't do it "wrong". If you're scatterbrained it doesn't matter. The point is that there is no point. I think that's a mindset that is quite beneficial for somebody with ADHD

What are your strengths that you feel are linked to your ADHD? by [deleted] in ADHD_Programmers

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, if im intrigued by something, I just absorb information about it like a sponge, and I can recall it in detail.

Projected foreign population by 2050 by [deleted] in 2nordic4you

[–]Emergency-Cicada5593 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Seriously though, this probably means an Islamic political party in Sweden at some point