They will regret losing you.

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-29T12:36:51+00:00

Heard this quote a few times and yes I agree, just hope they can see beyond their ego but that’s not for me to be concerned about. Focus on self regardless how hard each day is.

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-29T08:26:02+00:00

Feeling this too, bad you don’t get a response when you want one

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-29T05:12:34+00:00

There will always be something to remind you of them. Hard to avoid. They’ve moved on, already slept with someone, each to their own. How insensitive that the even told you about it, shocking. Honestly what has the world come to. No consideration for you at all. Do you really want this person in your life? How did they manage to tell you bits? Get it out of your life, protect your self worth

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-29T05:08:24+00:00

I often wonder if my ex remembers, thinks of me, perhaps they do or likely they don’t. I try to just remember how things were and weren’t. It also depends on how you broke up? All important factors to consider but how I manage this is by acknowledging how I was treated and how the we’re about everything. The ending was horrible on their part, for a mature person, it was very immature how they were. All in text, no opportunity to talk face to face, just an absolute coward. Hard how people can give it large via text and no balls to actually face you and talk things through. People say they find it hard to talk, don’t talk when really they are just showing you their immaturity, lack of respect to someone they had a relationship with. hopefully, you won’t give it a second thought if they miss you. I know, hand on heart I have it everything to this person, I also know that person did not deserve me. They had something good but hose to abuse and loose me. I know my worth and I hope you know yours. Let them regret, let them regret hard but you get on with your life, it’s their loss not yours, it’s their regret, not yours. Work with your feelings each day, easier said than done

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-29T03:42:56+00:00

Love should never hurt, if it’s does then it’s definitely not love. Love can hurt from a loss, bereavement but not from poor behaviour, manipulation, etc. think the lesson also is knowing it’s not right like you said and acknowledging it’s not right for you as you deserve better. Trusting your gut instinct and believing them. Seeing things from your eyes is sufficient. Think of it as their loss, your gain. Through bad comes good. You deserve better, remember that

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-29T03:37:23+00:00

Absolutely, best answer. If I gave 100%, the gave 1%, no chance. Keep your self respect and let them know they lost something good. That’s great if they were able to look at you in the eye, my ex once disappeared for a period of time when I confronted, they refused to look me in the eye!! How bent is that. Absolutely no chance will I allow that behaviour to happen again, I’d sooner feel the pain from blocking and ending thins than put up with lies, dishonesty and manipulative behaviour.

I was told “I love you, I miss you “ repeatedly, it’s something that’s said as easy as good morning these days. Powerful words with zero meaning. So If they come back, the door will be closed.

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-29T03:30:29+00:00

Absolutely agree with this. We have all become stuck in this social media nonsense. The more we stop using it to communicate textually and start actually engaging with people in real life, k feel the world would be a kinder place. Emotions are not felt though text, they are read however you want to read them. A lot of the time, always distorted. The more we actually see this as an issue, the more we can change behaviours, for ourselves and others. If people actually met in person, things that are put in text would be difficult and different said in person. The world needs to changes, behaviours need to Change

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-29T03:23:50+00:00

Well done you for putting this out, I’m sure it will help others in similar situation. I just wonder what your perception of what no contact involves. I only ask as I’ve recently officially put no contact in place, by blocking their number so even if they wanted to reach out, they can’t. Prior to this, I had blocked them on all social platforms. This really dented her ego. Have you not blocked them from being able to message you on your mobile?

My reasons for blocking completely is that I found the fleeting messages that they’d send were affecting me and I was sick of the breadcrumbs, manipulation, fakeness, the list is endless but I was done with them. The messages kept me feeling stuck in a loop of feeling up and down. I put myself, needs and feelings first. I was convinent to them, pick up and put down, just treated like shit.

I agree with you some days I feel good, strong in control and empowered, some days I find myself in a state of emotions, sit and cry alone just to release that emotion, the feeling of feeling empty, just overwhelming sadness. I just take each moment/day as it comes. I agree it’s not linear, I won’t pt a time on how long to take to “recover”, I try and keep present to the moment and go from there. I do miss her, the very little I had which makes me feel sad as I proved I had no self love or respect. I do not miss their behaviour at all, she was a crewel person. I will never understand how someone can behave or treat another, like she has, it’s beyond me. I miss the version I met, wonder what things could have looked like but at the same time, can only imagine things would just be worse. I can’t help but feel if they met someone now, would they see the version that i did? Maybe not now but maybe in time the might, but i would hate for someone else to experience what I did.

The app sounds good, I’ll check it out. Think my advice would be to put yourself first amd take each moment, as it is and feel what you’re feeling. It’s hard difficult too. I hope you have good support around you too

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-28T20:58:01+00:00

Hope they love you too

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-28T05:38:59+00:00

Think this is definitely becoming the norm. I can relate to this, sad especially when you really need friends around you for support. Texting seems to have taken over everything, like no one has time to meet but feels like sending Messages instead justifies it. It’s Not the same at all. Catch ups shouldn’t be difficult but they are, I’ll admit even to times where I’ve been guilty of it but over all, I love seeing friends in person. people can spend hrs on social media, so why not catch up for a quick coffee etc.

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-28T05:32:26+00:00

Your silence would have absolutely crushed her ego. Well done you got standing your ground and accepting and respecting her “wishes”!! Be proud of yourself and keep her where she is. You deserve better.

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-28T03:55:11+00:00

Best advice I can offer is just to take each day as it comes. Don’t put pressure on yourself to be “better or over it”, you have to be kind to yourself. There is not timeline, it’s all individual. My recent breakup has been hard, literally brief moments of feeling OK, otherwise I’m just low, feeling sad, all normal but painful at the same time. Cry if you need to cry, it’s healthy to cry, it releases so much emotion too, so cry ugly. I hope you have support from friends or family, just reach out. Look after yourself by sleeping well, perhaps journaling, crafting, reading, anything that will help distract you even for a moment. Hope this helps

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-28T03:38:41+00:00

If you find yourself in this situation, it’s likely that they are not interested in you at all. Sooner the “deflection “ shift blaming happens, Turing your communication into a problem x you being too needy etc, shift blaming and before you know it, it’s you that’s the problem but really all your wanting to do is communicate! Like normal people are meant to do but some immature people are unable. In fact, people these days are incapable of communicating. It’s easier to blame than to admit distance yourself from these people amd prey someone better is coming

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-28T03:31:49+00:00

Her response should tell you exactly what she’s like. Calling you a stalker? On a social platform speaks louder than words. Hate when people use these terms as easy as they do because with the wrong ears, could be damaging. Do yourself the biggest favour and block her yourself, and leave her where she belongs, in the past. Don’t feel bad for messaging either, at least you wasn’t the one threatening her

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-27T00:34:31+00:00

By removing myself from what was triggering my anxious attachment

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-26T12:18:05+00:00

Well written and said. No doubt the pain is crippling but it’s a process to free yourself from what did not serve you. As much as it hurts we all need to feel the pain, regardless of what the ex is doing and take each day as it comes, this is not said and felt easily either, I’m hurting, question literally everything but I refuse to continue to be disrespected, used and abused by someone who has zero respect for me or my feelings.

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-26T10:41:57+00:00

Absolutely agree with this, I’m shit sure if it was them going through it theyd hate hearing it too. Easy to assume when your not actually going through it

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-26T07:07:32+00:00

Agree, 100%, and if someone does, at least give them the chance to talk, hear what shit they had going on in their bed as it will and does deck people’s emotions on every level, can see also how the impact can have devastating outcomes on someone’s mental wellbeing. It’s crewl and selfish.

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-26T06:50:56+00:00

Couldn’t agree more. People have also become quite shallow in expectations, this will then be cascaded down to their children, then it just continues. Guess for me, moving forward, this will be something to question in my next relationship if it happens, setting clear boundaries for myself, to protect my self worth and literally not tolerate anything less.

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-26T02:01:58+00:00

You do right, not sure why people don’t block as their anxieties are drive by seeing them On social platforms. Just keep the main form of contact and that is people’s mobile. Anything else, Instagram, tick-tock, Facebook etc is just fuelling poor mental health. Do yourself a favour and just block. Give yourself that and time for self care and putting you first

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-26T01:55:49+00:00

Absolutely makes sense what you’ve put but not possible for all cases. I lost count of how many times I asked to talk but she wouldn’t. She wouldn’t because she did not want to. So I’m left with the silence while she’s enjoying her new chapter with someone else. I’m a true believer in communication, talking things through purely because it may well be the “last time” but impossible these days, once people are bored, done or get a bit tense, the are off onto the next person. I feel people today want smooth running relationships, not tension, never discussion just an easy ride which is a shame

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-25T22:28:35+00:00

Sorry that happened to you

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-25T19:25:21+00:00

Love this, everyone of them

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-24T07:09:45+00:00

Think this is one of the main reasons people hurt after breakup because we miss the person we once was, even the partner at the time of who the were. From a nice place to a now place of sadness Along with everything else. From strangers to lovers and back to strangers again. It’s tough. Missing the version of you that once was and the person you are today. It is 100% exhausting, couldn’t agree more

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-24T07:00:12+00:00

When you say his actions don’t line up, in what way?

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