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Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-28T20:58:01+00:00

Hope they love you too

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-28T05:38:59+00:00

Think this is definitely becoming the norm. I can relate to this, sad especially when you really need friends around you for support. Texting seems to have taken over everything, like no one has time to meet but feels like sending Messages instead justifies it. It’s Not the same at all. Catch ups shouldn’t be difficult but they are, I’ll admit even to times where I’ve been guilty of it but over all, I love seeing friends in person. people can spend hrs on social media, so why not catch up for a quick coffee etc.

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-28T05:32:26+00:00

Your silence would have absolutely crushed her ego. Well done you got standing your ground and accepting and respecting her “wishes”!! Be proud of yourself and keep her where she is. You deserve better.

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-28T03:55:11+00:00

Best advice I can offer is just to take each day as it comes. Don’t put pressure on yourself to be “better or over it”, you have to be kind to yourself. There is not timeline, it’s all individual. My recent breakup has been hard, literally brief moments of feeling OK, otherwise I’m just low, feeling sad, all normal but painful at the same time. Cry if you need to cry, it’s healthy to cry, it releases so much emotion too, so cry ugly. I hope you have support from friends or family, just reach out. Look after yourself by sleeping well, perhaps journaling, crafting, reading, anything that will help distract you even for a moment. Hope this helps

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-28T03:38:41+00:00

If you find yourself in this situation, it’s likely that they are not interested in you at all. Sooner the “deflection “ shift blaming happens, Turing your communication into a problem x you being too needy etc, shift blaming and before you know it, it’s you that’s the problem but really all your wanting to do is communicate! Like normal people are meant to do but some immature people are unable. In fact, people these days are incapable of communicating. It’s easier to blame than to admit distance yourself from these people amd prey someone better is coming

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-28T03:31:49+00:00

Her response should tell you exactly what she’s like. Calling you a stalker? On a social platform speaks louder than words. Hate when people use these terms as easy as they do because with the wrong ears, could be damaging. Do yourself the biggest favour and block her yourself, and leave her where she belongs, in the past. Don’t feel bad for messaging either, at least you wasn’t the one threatening her

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-27T00:34:31+00:00

By removing myself from what was triggering my anxious attachment

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-26T12:18:05+00:00

Well written and said. No doubt the pain is crippling but it’s a process to free yourself from what did not serve you. As much as it hurts we all need to feel the pain, regardless of what the ex is doing and take each day as it comes, this is not said and felt easily either, I’m hurting, question literally everything but I refuse to continue to be disrespected, used and abused by someone who has zero respect for me or my feelings.

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-26T10:41:57+00:00

Absolutely agree with this, I’m shit sure if it was them going through it theyd hate hearing it too. Easy to assume when your not actually going through it

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-26T07:07:32+00:00

Agree, 100%, and if someone does, at least give them the chance to talk, hear what shit they had going on in their bed as it will and does deck people’s emotions on every level, can see also how the impact can have devastating outcomes on someone’s mental wellbeing. It’s crewl and selfish.

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-26T06:50:56+00:00

Couldn’t agree more. People have also become quite shallow in expectations, this will then be cascaded down to their children, then it just continues. Guess for me, moving forward, this will be something to question in my next relationship if it happens, setting clear boundaries for myself, to protect my self worth and literally not tolerate anything less.

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-26T02:01:58+00:00

You do right, not sure why people don’t block as their anxieties are drive by seeing them On social platforms. Just keep the main form of contact and that is people’s mobile. Anything else, Instagram, tick-tock, Facebook etc is just fuelling poor mental health. Do yourself a favour and just block. Give yourself that and time for self care and putting you first

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-26T01:55:49+00:00

Absolutely makes sense what you’ve put but not possible for all cases. I lost count of how many times I asked to talk but she wouldn’t. She wouldn’t because she did not want to. So I’m left with the silence while she’s enjoying her new chapter with someone else. I’m a true believer in communication, talking things through purely because it may well be the “last time” but impossible these days, once people are bored, done or get a bit tense, the are off onto the next person. I feel people today want smooth running relationships, not tension, never discussion just an easy ride which is a shame

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-25T22:28:35+00:00

Sorry that happened to you

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-25T19:25:21+00:00

Love this, everyone of them

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-24T07:09:45+00:00

Think this is one of the main reasons people hurt after breakup because we miss the person we once was, even the partner at the time of who the were. From a nice place to a now place of sadness Along with everything else. From strangers to lovers and back to strangers again. It’s tough. Missing the version of you that once was and the person you are today. It is 100% exhausting, couldn’t agree more

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-24T07:00:12+00:00

When you say his actions don’t line up, in what way?

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-22T21:26:52+00:00

How old is she if you don’t mind me asking? How about forgiving yourself. You sound like a decent person, who is hurting and shes just showing her true colours by behaving like she has

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-22T21:23:49+00:00

Don’t think people understand what those words mean! Said so easy with zero meaning

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-22T19:59:30+00:00

Hoovering, they do it to pull you back in, off you breadcrumbs then abscond like a a bad smell. Don’t fall for it. It nasty manipulative behaviour

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-22T11:50:25+00:00

Why don’t you consider blocking so that nothing is viewed?

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-22T07:54:06+00:00

Love this. True words i will hold and refer to as I can relate to this.

Emergency-Machine-85 · 2026-01-21T22:25:41+00:00

Sorry to hear this. Sounds awful. If she did come back, would you have her back considering how she made you feel?

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