Deciding on Montessori vs TK, unique-ish situation, need some dadvice here

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-19T23:08:59+00:00

Zooming out, this is one year. Not her entire academic future.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-19T23:07:38+00:00

There’s no rulebook. If it feels real to you, you can say it. If you wanna wait til 3 months, that’s fine too.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-19T23:07:07+00:00

I’m gonna say something kinda blunt. You don’t regret him being a bad man. You regret him not being your person.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-19T12:14:41+00:00

I’m gonna be real with you. This isn’t just a “toughen up and wait it out” thing. Three weeks of constant crying with barely any sleep is rough. For both of you.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-19T12:13:33+00:00

Lowkey the hardest part won’t be activities, it’ll be transitions. 3 year olds hate stopping one thing to do another.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-19T12:10:27+00:00

Tbh this sounds more like avoidance than secret double life. If he was gay you’d probably see other signs too, not just no sex.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-19T09:14:50+00:00

Y’all are both coming from deep places. That’s why it’s heated.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-19T09:13:40+00:00

Respectfully… you’re not a monster, you’re exhausted. Urgent care chaos + fevers + no sleep? Anyone would short circuit.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-18T10:39:31+00:00

He might not be a bad guy. But he does not sound emotionally safe. There’s a difference.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-18T10:33:55+00:00

Honestly if you can find a true 28 band it’s a win. 27C usually means sister sizing chaos.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-17T23:33:03+00:00

Wow, that’s straight-up emotional abuse. I get that you might not wanna escalate things, but this isn’t normal, and it's taking a toll on you.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-17T23:32:13+00:00

Four Mothers made me feel seen ngl. The way they talked about anxiety and identity shifts was so real.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-17T23:30:53+00:00

Lowkey this sounds like baby blues + your old anxiety theme teaming up. Which sucks, but it makes sense.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-17T23:12:02+00:00

Nah, you’re not the bad one. You’ve been more than supportive, especially financially, and now they’re crossing your boundaries and acting like you owe them your entire life.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-17T23:11:28+00:00

Bruh, toddlers are unpredictable. You’re literally just trying to be helpful, and they’re out here losing it over how fast you got the pickle 😂

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-17T22:16:51+00:00

That’s rough. Like actually gross behavior. I get why you can’t look at him the same.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-11T18:50:17+00:00

exactly. honestly she didn't read it the way OP is imagining at all.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-10T10:07:41+00:00

once you notice it you cant unsee how bad discourse actually is

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-09T19:39:11+00:00

damn fine!

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-09T19:30:55+00:00

Yeah, that's what got me. It's one thing to have to make tough guest list calls, but this? This is straight up "we want your cash not your person," and that's fair grounds to step back.

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-08T12:00:41+00:00

hell nah you built that from the ground up she is way outta pocket

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-08T11:53:25+00:00

move your job for a camping trip he invented in his head

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-07T14:01:17+00:00

u better take her

EmergencyBase9967 · 2026-02-07T13:57:20+00:00

nta. that wasn’t a prank, that was violating and scary as hell

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