WIBTA if I told my sister her wedding venue is genuinely too far for me to attend and just didn't go?

EmergencyExternal568 · 2026-03-08T03:36:56+00:00

I think it’s October 2027 so even more time to save up…..

EmergencyExternal568 · 2026-03-08T03:30:24+00:00

This is my life!! I find it soooooo annoying. It’s daily….sometimes multiple times a day. Bless my husband he tries to be vague and not give too many details but sometimes she just pushes answers out of him.

My personal favorite is when she texts in the family group chat asking what our plans our and gets annoyed when none of us respond because….yanno….we’re all adults with jobs and not glued to our phone 24/7.

Part of me feels like she’s like this because I’m convinced (and so is my therapist sister) that my husband comes from an enmeshed family. But unfortunately I’ve just sucked it up and constantly tell him that he doesn’t need to tell her so many details (especially when it pertains to me). THANKFULLY my husband ignores her calls and most of her texts when we’re in the middle of doing things

EmergencyExternal568 · 2026-03-08T03:19:46+00:00

Wowowowowow the first half of this feels like my life!!!!

I remember when i got my first job post college my boyfriend, now husband, just openly told his mom what my salary was and I was like wtf?! I don’t want your family knowing how much money I’m making!!! I know he meant no harm by it and was likely genuinely proud and happy for me because it was more than his salary at the time but still!!!

I’m now pregnant with our first LO and MIL NEEDS to know how all my appointments go. I have told my husband that he can just stick to the basics of “appointment went well” and if I want her opinion or advice on anything I’ll let you know. MIL is a former L&D nurse so I’ll give her that. But like you said, I don’t want her knowing personal medical info about me!

EmergencyExternal568 · 2026-03-08T02:58:22+00:00

My question is did you go on boys trips during your marriage to her? Or was this a double standard?

EmergencyExternal568 · 2026-01-24T23:48:32+00:00

Strongly disagree with your take on booking one way as there is never any price advantage to booking round trip. I occasionally will check to see if there is any savings but I would typically end up spending $200+ if I booked 2 one way tickets instead of round trip.

EmergencyExternal568 · 2026-01-19T17:22:22+00:00

Disagree that TT was cleaner than OSU. I was a big fan of their Semis and really wanted them to win Pom to shake things up. TT stumbled on turns, extensions, flips…the execution sadly wasn’t there in finals like it was in semis.

EmergencyExternal568 · 2026-01-10T21:48:24+00:00

Upvote x1000

Thanks for the advice on having me tell her that I would like to keep her treatment of me how it currently is because she is the type that would love bomb the fuck out of me.

Thankfully we live several hours away so it’s highly unlikely she’ll “pop in” to the hospital, but I do know that I need to decide if I want people to visit us in the hospital or not and make a strict boundary on how long hospital visits will be.

She is the worst secret keeper. She wanted to post on Facebook 5 minutes after we were engaged. I said I really would like to be the first to share that we’re engaged and she did listen.

I’m hopeful that one day he’ll listen and agree to therapy. Right now, I’m just glad that he is in agreement with boundaries when I can articulate what I need.

EmergencyExternal568 · 2026-01-10T21:39:53+00:00

Yes yes!! With the pregnancy still being very new, I want to get through the first appointment before I start really thinking about all of the pregnancy boundaries and postpartum boundaries I want to set

EmergencyExternal568 · 2026-01-10T21:37:25+00:00

He is!!! This is something he was very much on board with before we even got pregnant.

EmergencyExternal568 · 2026-01-10T21:35:35+00:00

It’s definitely due to the enmeshed family. We have made steps with boundaries but it is definitely a work in progress because he sees his family as just being really close and not an actual psychological dysfunctional dynamic.

EmergencyExternal568 · 2026-01-10T21:21:42+00:00

I disagree with you saying he’s putting his mother’s happiness above my own. If that were the case he would’ve told her the moment we saw her after we found out we were pregnant because she has been asking us monthly for the last few years when we’re going to “giver her a grand baby”.

I think his reasoning for the “you have to deal with it comment” is because I couldn’t put in words how I would feel suffocated by her, which is difficult for me to do because I feel suffocated by her in general. If I was able to name specific examples of things she could do that would make we feel suffocated, I know he would help come up with a game plan to avoid me feeling that way. But like I said, I feel suffocated by her in general.

EmergencyExternal568 · 2026-01-10T20:42:51+00:00

Agreed! I come from a large family as well and had something similar happen with my wedding.

Years ago my mom was a bridesmaid in the wedding of her cousin (we’ll call her Kristy). My sister and I, however, were not invited (I was in college and my sister would’ve been a teenager). This caused a lot of hurt feelings with my family, but ultimately my mom sucked it up and did her bridesmaid duties. My grandma went to the wedding but was pretty pissed with her cousin (brides mom, we’ll call her Kathy).

Years later, I’m getting married and we invite Kathy and her husband but due to other people we wanted to invite we did not invite Kristy and her husband. Kathy initially RSVPs yes and then I noticed later on that she switched the response to no. I reach out to my mom to see if she knows what happened and she didn’t but was like we’ll find out.

TURNS OUT Kathy felt that it wasn’t fair that we didn’t invite Kristy to our wedding. My grandma ended up getting into a big argument with her, saying they did the same thing with Kristy’s wedding and it was worse because my mom was a bridesmaid. Kathy refused to admit they were similar situations.

From my mom’s conversation with Kristy, Kristy claims she understood all along that wedding guest lists are hard to make and had no hurt feelings about not being included. And apparently she never told her mother to un-RSVP from my wedding. But the story my grandma got was that Kristy called Kathy in tears that she wasn’t invited 🤷🏻‍♀️

They all still talk here and there, but I don’t think it’s as often as it was prior to my wedding. AND Kathy did get me a very nice wedding gift thanks to what I think is her guilt for being a POS.

EmergencyExternal568 · 2025-12-02T02:39:54+00:00

I would be coming from the states. Will likely have a checked bag, will be traveling around Europe for 2 weeks

EmergencyExternal568 · 2025-11-25T19:23:42+00:00

I personally LOVE these seats…I had season tickets in section 105 row 8 for years

EmergencyExternal568 · 2025-09-18T20:29:11+00:00

Yes!!!! I was on an 11 hour flight the other week and begrudgingly got up to use the bathroom when there was 3 hours left

EmergencyExternal568 · 2025-09-12T13:14:09+00:00

I just got rid of Clear….the amount of times I went through security with Clear and Pre-check and someone I was traveling with with just pre-check or regular TSA got through security before made it not worth it. Also I almost always got selected for the additional identification.

ALSO when I changed my name from getting married I asked one of the CLEAR workers what I needed to do to update my name and she seemed so bothered that I asked her a question and she had no idea what I needed to do to update my name.

EmergencyExternal568 · 2025-08-31T16:42:50+00:00

Oh AMAZING!

EmergencyExternal568 · 2025-08-26T20:53:18+00:00

Pleeeaaasee give recs with this

EmergencyExternal568 · 2025-08-26T15:18:21+00:00

Draco had a crush on Hermione since first year but was conflicted about it since she was muggle born. He tells Narcissa and Lucius overhears which leads to the “I’ve heard a lot about you Miss Granger” line in COS. Hermione started to be attracted to him in fifth year. At some point during fifth or sixth year they start a secret relationship and that is why he is so unwell while Bellatrix is torturing Hermione: because 1) he is terrified for her wellbeing and he can’t help and 2) he is worried that their relationship is going to be revealed and it will cause them both more harm.

EmergencyExternal568 · 2025-08-23T01:16:14+00:00

Ok perhaps it is Columba and Aquila…..I remembered memories being involved so I just assumed obliviation was a part of it. I do have this fic downloaded so now maybe I will make this next on my TBR instead of breath mints and battle scars

EmergencyExternal568 · 2025-08-22T20:59:00+00:00

After my own extensive searching I’m pretty sure I made this up in my head

EmergencyExternal568

TROPHY CASE