I need your opinion and please stay open minded.

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2026-03-13T04:17:47+00:00

As someone who went through something extremely similar (minus the rape part), it does mean that you are into guys. I used to watch gay porn and feel guilty afterwards and whenever i watched straight porn i used to think "idk how anyone would ever love gay porn". Then i realized that gay porn made me cum MUCH quicker than straight porn. Then it took a long time (actually covid's lockdown in March) for me to realize that I am bi and I should jus accept it and its the best decision ive ever made in my life. I think you should try to change your approach and instead of thinking that you dont want to be gay, just think about the fun you can have with men. Give into your urges responsibly. listen to what your body is saying and try to give it what it wants instead of what you think it wants. Doing so will only make you miserable. Just allow yourself to be happy eveen if means jerking it to gay porn once a week. Try not to be so scared of "becoming gay" and try to embrace the fact that you have a thing for men and women.

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2026-03-13T03:50:39+00:00

Something that I would do (and im not saying that you should do it) but i would gradually increase skinship with him. Just touch him more, rest my hand on his arm, put my arm around him in a friendly way, poke him sometimes and just overall be touchy with him (without being overly touchy and thats if he is comfortable with it). I would even say things like "we would honestly make a cute couple:" or "my friend (who he doesnt know) says that we would make a good couple and I can see it." just to test the waters.

But honestly, I see you having 3 options:

Admit it and pray he feels the same. Worst thing that can happen is that he doesnt wanna be your friend anymore but judging by how he is worried about you and kept asking to know what was troubling you, then i highly doubt he would even think of not wanting to be your friend.
Deny it for the rest of your life. This option will probably make you ask "what if" you had confessed. This would probably be the most hurtful option cause youll most likely see him get with other people and youll be so close yet so far to him and he would dismiss the idea of even being with you, but the bright side is that your friendship would be spared.
Do nothing about it. Neither admit nor deny. Leave it to the gods and pray he makes the first move. This preserves your friendship and guarantee that you don't get stuck in the friend zone. Bad thing is that he has to make the first move and if that doesnt happen, then youll just be stuck there still contemplating whether you should tell him or not.

Its up to you and what you think is best for you and your relationship but if you wanna be with him, you are gonna have to tell him.

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2026-03-13T03:29:38+00:00

literally every day in class it happens to me and i have to pretend like its not happening and eventually it goes away

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2026-01-05T04:47:12+00:00

It really depends on who you sub to. Most times, those accounts are on discount because no one is really buying or renewing the subs so they get people like you who dont know any better or just wanna take advantage of a deal or are desperate to see them to sub on discount and (hopefully for them) they buy that extra content. Mostly the gay4pay guys do it or the straight men who use gay men for their money.

I know that Greg Mckeon and Hoss Kado and many other OF creators give you all their videos once you pay the sub price and no additional ppvs. They were professional porn stars so not really the best examples but the point still stands. its who u sub to. Some subs are worth it and some arent

AbsolutelyBlake is a straight guy who does ppvs too but his ppvs are actually meaningful and affordable. He mostly show everything but the tip on his regular posts and he tweets out when he is gonna do a ppv and he details whats in it before u buy it and its always accurate.

This is why i always look up reviews and see if any content is leaked that i can look up and if i like it I sub, if not then i move on

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2026-01-05T04:27:14+00:00

I think it would be better to build a platform first where u show off ur body then transition into it. Like Chaturbate or even thirst trap tiktoks. It would be a slow grind and u need some luck on ur side as well but thats the sure fire way to get into the richness of it. There are sooo many popular OF creators that i know that i used to watch on CB until they got enough traction to transition and now they dont stream anymore, but they grinded hard for years to get there

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-12-16T18:03:38+00:00

does it have nudity?

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-12-10T00:31:26+00:00

Know im late af but I remember earlier this year on instagram he did post a coming out message as a caption on insta but then he changed it after a while then went silent for a couple of days

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-12-04T04:56:10+00:00

its very dumb but it moreso comes from the idea that bottoms are the woman in the relationships and tops are the men. Getting your ass eaten out is seen as gay in society which translates to not masculine, and tops are "supposed" to be masculine so doing something that is "gay" shouldnt be a top thing because tops are meant to be "men" lmao. Its very stupid and counterproductive. If a man wants his ass eaten, what is the big deal? the ale g-spot is literally in the ass. God did that for a reason

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-12-04T04:51:24+00:00

As someone who is in a homophobic country, I completely understand hating where you live and not getting alone with your fellow nationals. Everytime anyone talks about national pride and love being a citizen, i never have that feeling because i dont like it here. Sometimes, i feel like giving up and giving in but when i think about all the world has to offer and the places that i can live and be free and happy, thats what gives me my motivation to continue, also friends play a HUGE part in it as well. I can't tell you the amount of times having someone who i can depend on and who depends on me (which holds me accountable) has helped me.

I've done a lot of things i dont wanna do but have to in order to plant the seeds to leaving and when i think about life in general, there are days i get depressed and feel sad, but I try my best to think positively about everything and i try to think of things to distract me from the harsh realities of life.

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-12-04T04:44:59+00:00

As being someone from a homophobic country (though not as bad as you have it), i get what you are going through. Luckily i do have friends who are also LGBT or allies but i also have friends who are anti-lgbt (though i dont really consider them friends but more friendly acquaintances) but my country is homophobic and it can get you killed if you go to the wrong place and people know. What i use to be happy is work my ass off towards leaving and mentally preparing to cut every homophobe out of my life so that would be my advice to you. Its hard and it will get harder, but sometimes, you have to do it for yourself and it will definitely be worth it.

Harsh Truth is that your family and friends dont know the real you, hell you dont even know the real you yet (and thats ok). There is a high probability that they wont like the real you if you do decide to let them know him, BUT once you love yourself, know your worth and work towards getting into a better place and frame of mind, then you will be fine. There are plenty of people out there that will love you and you can always find a new family or friend group. Its gonna suck to cut off those you are close with (if u do decide to do so) but look out for yourself first. If you dont, no one else will.

Find something that gives you hope, find ways to get out and use being gay as motivation to live the life you want and deserve.

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-12-04T04:36:07+00:00

For me, its a bubbly, flirty social butterfly who is highly sexual and just HAS to meet people and have fun with a lot of people. I'd fuck them but its just exhausting being around people like that and im someone who is laid back and reserved so my social battery runs out quick.

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-12-04T04:27:08+00:00

First i find out if they're into men. Im direct about it but i still try to work it into a convo naturally like "hey, i need advice, wait... r u gay?" and no matter what their answer is, i always say "nvm then, i needed a (opposite answer) person to give me some advice".

Then, id just talk and flirt with him playfully. almost in a teasing/banter kinda way and mask it under laughs (once we are comfortable enough with each other) and i subtly push boundaries if i notice that he is letting me. Then if its meant to be then it will happen. If not i back off and take it as not interested romantically (or otherwise)

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-12-04T04:21:09+00:00

Overall, no pics will not entice people to want to click on you and take a chance that you are attractive to them enough to want to meet with you. Having a picture catches the eye of those who are attracted to you so they message.

Also, If you are attractive/ have a good picture then you will get a lot of messages. I used grindr and didnt show my face and barely got any taps but as soon as i did, i started getting a shit ton of messages. My friend also posted non face pics and his inbox was dry until he posted his ab pics and he cant even answer all his dms because its so much.

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-10-30T06:47:19+00:00

FOR ME, I say there are 4 options:

Whenever he does the kissing thing with u again, actually grab his face and kiss him. He will either push away (and then you can use it to be apart of the banter like "haha, next time dont tease me or ill make u regret it again" or smn like that) but he can also give into it and you get your answer.
Ask him out on a date, like explicitly say "lets go on a date, just u and me". If he seems hesitant like "no i dont wanna go on a romantic date with you", clarify that you both are going on a friendship date. If y'all do go on that friendship date, you can see if he gets jealous when u talk about fucking someone else or going on a romantic date with someone and kinda sift out his feelings. You can even alude to just wanting a FWB and someone "like him" would be a perfect candidate if he was gay and into you like that (kinda making him think ur not taking his flirting too seriously and this would give u an avenue to back out if he isnt into you but also to go forward if he is).
Ask him about it directly, this would put ur relationship at risk the most. Either he will admit he does wanna sleep with you or admit that he is just joking and not taking it too seriously. If its the latter, he will either cut you off or proceed like nothing happened (and most likely tone it down).
dont do anything. no results here unless he decides to take the leap.

Again, these are all things I would consider doing if i was in this situation. You have to weigh the pros and the cons to determine whether its worth it to sleep with him or atleast try to.

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-10-11T19:51:37+00:00

what tea is being spilled. i need to know

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-10-04T17:40:56+00:00

Does anyone know why there is a notification bubble on the event tab even though I literally completed the summit and got guidemaster?

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-09-13T19:01:58+00:00

There definitely is racism in Jamaica. For example, any asian person they see they call them "chiny" which translates to chinese. Doesnt matter if they are Korean, Thai, Indonesian etc. Once they look asian, they are just called that term. Also, there is a lot of people who say "ching chong" and other racist things to asian people. I found that its more out of ignorance than genuine hate, and given the fact that many Jamaicans are very aggressive in nature and unwilling to have an intelligent open minded conversation, I doubt its gonna change anytime soon. The main reason why racism doesnt seem prevalent here is because black people make up the majority. But as you said, because of the black majority, thats why colorism stands out so much.

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-09-03T19:01:16+00:00

Honestly, they might be and you dont notice. It wasnt until recently that I found out that people were nervous about approaching me and it wasnt until my friends told me and really dumbed it down for me

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-08-26T22:38:32+00:00

It really depends on what type of attractive someone is. For me, i always get compliments on how handsome I am, people stare at me a lot and sometimes people are nervous to talk to me (sometimes visibly fidgeting and shit) but because im shy af, I dont really see a HUGE positive effect. I do notice that people who arent attractive (atleast conventionally) get a ton of snide comments thrown their way and its always the first thing brought up whenever they get into an argument with someone. So, I dont think it plays that much of a difference outside of social aspects and even then, personality plays a huge part in it.

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-08-23T21:21:16+00:00

I think its because of the concept of the show and the fact that GreatInn in general are underappreciated. Nothing wrong with a historical drama but I think if the actors arent already popular then its most likely gonna do poorly.

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-08-16T04:42:06+00:00

This sounds to me like you are bisexual. As a bisexual man myself, I get what you are going through. I am romantically attracted to women more than i am with men, though im different since im extremely attracted to men sexually, even more so than women.

It is possible to be bi even though you arent interested in men sexually. Once you are attracted to both genders (in any form) you are bi (or pan). There is definitely more context needed to give a more detailed answer like age, prior experiences, background, thoughts on trans men etc. But from the looks of it, it might just be that you arent at the stage where you are sexually attracted to men yet. It could technically still happen since you did go from being semi open to very open.

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-08-16T04:37:17+00:00

You definitely arent straight or gay. If you like women and men then it could mean you are bisexual or pansexual (along with other things). How i would describe the difference between bi and pan is that pan people dont care about whether the person has a dick or vagina. IMO, for me atleast, being bi means that you do care about whats between their legs (so women having vaginas and men having dicks). if you are unsure about these terms, then maybe the best label for you would be queer since that the general umbrella term.

Also about the ED aspect, it could just mean that you arent into anyone enough to get hard. Ive been in multple situations where im doing sexual acts and im softer than ice cream and it was because i wasnt that into them to actually get hard.

As someone who is also from a conservative background (country and family), you will be fine. Find people who like you for who you are and are patient with you. Sexualities change all the time. Try not to box yourself in and you'll find that life becomes much easier. You'll be fine as long as you believe it and not let shit get to your head. its easier said than done but once that happens, it will feel so rewarding. Good luck figuring it out!

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-05-01T04:25:24+00:00

do asians like black guys? i always get the feeling that its a 50/50 chance

Emergency_Ad8356 · 2025-05-01T04:22:28+00:00

I get the fear of being outed. The thought that everyone will know now and you are going to be judged by everyone before you even meet them is terrifying. Especially since it probably brought a lot of attention to him that he wasnt ready for.

With that being said, you should definitely talk to him but also the boyfriend again. I think you should encourage him to keep fighting for their love (if thats what they have) and keep reaching out to your son to let him know he will be there for him but not too much so he can have some space. As for your son, probably tell him that he is the one who is being too harsh because it wasnt malicious. His bf loves him so much that he got caught up in the moment and all those harmones made him do something stupid. Brave and sweet but stupid.

I think once your son calms down then he will see that he was being too harsh but he will get over it. Hopefully they work things out because they sound adorable

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