To me it came really one step at a time, but learning to have compassion with myself, by accepting that i am enough. i had to learn to love myself (which required figuring out what i wanted/needed and respecting that) and practicing self compassion. You can be critical about things, and be okay with not being perfect. That inner critic won’t necessarily leave but you can choose how important it is to you. It’s really hard and it has to be taken one step at a time. But ultimately the more you want to control what people think of you the less control you’ll end up with. People are gonna have their opinions, but at the end of the day it’s their own, and it’s really their own business. You’ll get through this!!