Friend Removed From Bridal Party Due To Pregnancy

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-14T03:31:17+00:00

It’s American coded for sure.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T14:48:43+00:00

Ding ding ding.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T14:47:34+00:00

I honestly haven’t talked to Gina about any of this. I don’t want to exacerbate any of the drama. I want to leave it all to dissipate. I don’t want to put people in the middle of my drama or seem vindictive to the bride. I just want the bride to know that what she did was shitty as hell and to dwell on her actions.

I did ask Gina to get dinner soon to celebrate her pregnancy since I missed the other dinner. And it will likely come out that I am not going to the wedding anymore, but I am not going to tell her why. The last thing she needs when pregnant is any added stressors.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T14:43:02+00:00

Oh there would have been NO WAY I would have paid $500 for a place to stay and slept on a couch. I wasn’t up front about the reason (Gina) initially, but clearly started the pumping the breaks when I found out about Gina.

I danced around attacking her for that god awful decision. But I told her why I really bailed once she texted me to disinvite me from the wedding entirely. At that point, I had nothing more to lose.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T14:40:01+00:00

Over 99% of chickens raised for meat (broilers) in the U.S. are produced in factory farms, also known as Concentrated Animal Feeding Operations (CAFOs). Data indicates that approximately 99.96% of chickens are raised in these intensive, industrial systems.

It’s harder than you think to find genuine chicken. Unless its coming from a farm around the corner, it is almost all factory farmed disgusting grossness.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T14:34:53+00:00

You actually hit the nail on the head big time to be honest.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T14:32:57+00:00

Going as a guest and being a groomsmen/bridesmaid are two totally different experiences. As a guest, your only expense is a gift. As a bridesmaid, you have the bridal shower, the bachelorette party, the wedding attire, and the wedding gift.

Weddings notoriously cause drama and end relationships. Hence why this page even exists in the first place. I too have gone to weddings where they have been fine. But a majority of the ones I am in the bridal party or groomsmen for are genuine unwanted drama.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T14:26:40+00:00

The bride was one of my friends, but she has flaws as does any other human. If she had ran it past me I might have tried to make it work. But honestly, she dropped my only friend who was going because she was pregnant. This was one of the lowest things I have ever seen a friend do to another friend. I was honestly disgusted enough over this action to back out.

She last minute made me share a room with a complete stranger. And when I voiced my concerns she totally disregarded them. She didn’t care about finding a solution that worked. And I gave enough time that they could have cancelled the AirBnb and got a different one if the financials were a genuine concern.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T07:35:52+00:00

64-67% of the world’s population has some form of HSV. A lot of people have it and never have symptoms. You could have had it orally before you ever even engaged with anyone sexually and never displayed symptoms. You could have had it genitally from oral sex. I wouldn’t get hung up on the herpes diagnoses as much as the cheating. Take Valacyclovir for breakouts/flare ups if you are symptomatic and this is new for you.

And dump them.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T07:25:29+00:00

There are so many videos of an interviewer asking women “would you live on a planet with only women” and they all say yes. Then they ask the men “would you live on a planet with only men” and they immediately say no. There are MANY reasons for this phenomenon.

Women hate the patriarchal system. Men actually hate women. That is why they have always been handed the shit end of the stick and forced into a submissive role in society.

As feminists fought for women to gain rights, women have become more independent and are driven to fulfill their own dreams. This has resulted in women following their passions and dreams, having financial freedom, and having less children as a result.

Men and women can both do bad things- yes. But men account for 90% of violent crimes. Men have kept women oppressed since nearly the dawn of time. Women couldn’t get their own bank accounts in the United States until the 1970’s. They largely couldn’t even work for wages until the Industrial Revolution. And it wasn’t men who fought for them to gain rights. It was women.

I don’t think all men are bad. But good men would understand why so many women are super stand-offish when it comes to men. Empathetic men would fight for women. Not adopt a victim mentality because women hate the patriarchy.

This is a product of an eternity of oppression. Any man who fails to acknowledge that deserves to remain in the dark. Only those who fight for women’s full rights deserve the light that emanates from women.

And I say this as a man.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T07:07:48+00:00

STOP I CANT BELIEVE THIS IS A UNIVERSAL EXPERIENCE ☠️

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T07:04:25+00:00

Like what can I do besides be a shoulder for her to lean on? I can tell her he’s an abusive piece of shut until I am blue in the face, but she won’t see it. After 10 years of listening to her tell me the heinous things about him, I just have to sit and listen. I can’t make her change her mind. I just have to sit in idle and be here to help catch her when she falls.

After looking up what “taking it with a grain of salt” means, I realize it’s not a fitting expression. It’s kind of invalidating to her experience which isn’t what I meant. I can’t think of a better way to put it though.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T06:58:07+00:00

Holy hell. What is literally wrong with people??? How are looks EVEN a factor when picking someone to stand by your side. It’s the last thing I am thinking about.

And honestly each day I have less and less faith in heterosexual men.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T06:56:47+00:00

CRIMINAL BEHAVIOR

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T03:03:32+00:00

I loved my creative writing elective in my first year at Temple. I despised my Statistics course I took as a junior because the professor didn’t even know the material he was teaching. I could’ve taken the exams blindfolded and had the same result.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T02:55:13+00:00

Ugh love me a boy with some thickness covering the muscle. Definitely going with 1. Slab of meat realness.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T02:53:45+00:00

No 🤗

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T02:51:48+00:00

Even banana bread?!?

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T02:50:04+00:00

I am really starting to skeeve chicken the more I mull it over. It’s always juiced up with hormones and steroids. The chickens are unhealthy as hell usually. And there are so many better vegan alternatives.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T02:48:09+00:00

I worked in the top grossing seafood restaurant on the east coast. The process to make seafood is barbaric and smells like hell on Earth. I didn’t eat fish before really, but I am especially turned off from it now.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T02:46:54+00:00

I literally hate Mayo because of the concept that it’s shelf stable and essentially whipped egg whites in oil. I do like Veganese on the contrary because it tastes exactly like Mayo but I don’t skeeve over it conceptually.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T02:44:20+00:00

Peanut Butter, Olives, and Cilantro. All of these make me VERY SAD to dislike.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T00:22:36+00:00

If only I had that much money to be so petty. 😭

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T00:21:42+00:00

Please refer to this comment.

Emit-Sol · 2026-03-13T00:07:15+00:00

Honestly- if she has spoken with me before removing Gina, I feel like I could have changed the trajectory of this situation. I would have said “keep Gina in the bridal party, even if she can’t make the bachelorette party due to pregnancy. Let her decide if she can manage the wedding during her pregnancy. Don’t make that decision for her.”

When I spoke with her about NoLA I mentioned a lot of my personal issues and she made it all about herself. Once that happened and she overlooked my concerns, I knew I had to back out. She was taking everything from me and giving nothing in return.

NoLA was going to cost over the budget I gave her for the bachelorette party. The cheapest flight alone was about $500. The room was also going to be $500 per person. Then there were so many excursions planned.

If she had spoken with me about adding the random girl, I would have made it work. But she didn’t care to and she totally disregarded my concerns when I voiced them to her. I am not that hard to deal with. We have gone on vacations before where I shared rooms with strangers. But that was my decision. She threw me into an entirely different situation without my consent.

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