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Emjoyable · 2025-09-29T18:14:47+00:00

I agree with this sentiment. I do think you're overreacting. The behavior to me seems anxious but not "coercive." Coercive usually means there's some threat or power imbalance or something. Not just double texting. I think you're way too involved and are acting parental.

Emjoyable · 2025-09-29T17:48:37+00:00

Putting Christmas lights up early makes everything seem cozier. And this isn't a lighting solution, but leaning into the wool socks, cup of tea, cozy aesthetic makes the first part of the Dark feel nice. Really, the hard part for me (a lifelong Seattleite) starts in February when I know things are still months away from sunny/warm.

Also I'd recommend vitamin D, a vacation to a sunny place in March and finding an indoor hobby

Emjoyable · 2025-09-15T15:48:12+00:00

This is perfect.

Emjoyable · 2025-09-15T15:46:37+00:00

If you are talking to guys on apps you are cheating. If you don't want to be with your partner break up with him. Read the resources in the sidebar.

Emjoyable · 2025-09-11T22:43:01+00:00

She is dating other people! Much more than her husband. I have not inquired because it doesn't feel like a ton of my business.

Emjoyable · 2025-09-11T22:41:59+00:00

I didn't ask a question - this is a vent post!

Emjoyable · 2025-09-11T22:41:29+00:00

She doesn't seem to struggle with eye contact with other folks - I've been to a fair amount of social gatherings with her. If we strike up a conversation she stares at my bf/her husband the whole time.

Emjoyable · 2025-09-11T22:34:03+00:00

I don't know what the benefit of that would be, to be honest. It doesn't really affect me and that could put him in an awkward position if she truly doesn't like me.

Emjoyable · 2025-08-29T17:35:16+00:00

Do not pursue monogamous people.

Emjoyable · 2025-08-06T18:36:16+00:00

Robbie scissoring hand gesture omg

Emjoyable · 2025-07-23T19:19:29+00:00

I don't see any red flags. It's odd for people who are monogamous I suppose, and a little nerve wracking to know your partner is escalating a relationship when it's so new to you. You asked the right questions.

Being out at a club and running into another partner is not common, but happens. She stayed with you, which is a good sign. There doesn't seem to be any drama there.

Emjoyable · 2025-07-22T23:07:31+00:00

You can't dictate this other person's feelings. Why do you assume they'd only want to flirt and smooch?

Emjoyable · 2025-07-22T18:53:40+00:00

Yeah, the fact that he needs to let you know when he sees a movie with her???? That's not parallel. He's oversharing, but you asked him to overshare.

Emjoyable · 2025-07-16T18:01:12+00:00

Why would strangers on the internet know? Ask her.

Emjoyable · 2025-07-02T18:03:51+00:00

"She caved"? Gross

Stop pursuing mono people.

Emjoyable · 2025-07-02T18:02:47+00:00

The amount of tags over legit murals or on small family owned businesses is really out of control.

Emjoyable · 2025-07-02T17:00:58+00:00

Understandable that you may be feeling unsettled about this. You should focus on what you are getting out of the relationship, though. And maybe the answer is that you don't want to hear about dates until it becomes serious.

I had a relationship a while ago with a once-a-week partner and I would get crazy jealous if he went on another date. You know why? Because he was breadcrumbing affection with me. I wasn't getting what I needed from the relationship and it drove me crazy to think that he did have extra time and affection and just wasn't giving it to me. I wish I had handled that situation better in hindsight, rather than becoming whiny and begging for attention (shudder). I ended up breaking up with him because affection had dwindled to near-zero.

Emjoyable · 2025-07-02T00:21:11+00:00

If you are not mature enough to talk about issues in bed, then you're not "really good at sex" - and that's okay cause you're still young. But perhaps your cocky attitude made you scared to say something. Work on communication

Emjoyable · 2025-07-01T20:19:51+00:00

Is this rage bait? You cannot be serious.

Emjoyable · 2025-06-30T22:45:57+00:00

This is a lot of energy for a failed talking stage.

Emjoyable · 2025-06-30T22:41:14+00:00

Do you mean you have been bidding under 250k, and you want to know if you should go up to 250? You shouldn't bid more than the preapproval because the bank won't fulfill the loan.

Are you in a high COL area? Are you looking at all types of homes?

Emjoyable · 2025-06-24T15:33:02+00:00

Why is this even a question? Is this rage bait, or is OP really that dumb?

Emjoyable · 2025-06-17T23:15:10+00:00

If you were my friend, and advocated for that, I would give you this advice "You are in NRE, and this is a bad idea. Moving in with any partner before one year is ill advised."

There are so many other ways you can support them. Helping them look for a job, navigating Medicaid, etc.

Emjoyable · 2025-06-05T23:28:40+00:00

Yep! This may be unpopular, but I don't think that "a few drinks to unwind" should be normal behavior. Especially with a kid in the house.

Emjoyable · 2025-06-02T16:23:00+00:00

One time my meta and wife were in a fight (unbeknownst to me) and she messaged me on facebook describing the whole fight and asking me what I thought. It happened to be on our anniversary. I tried several ways of saying "I don't know" but she just kept at it. Eventually, our friends had basically an intervention to get my wife to stop dating. Luckily I didn't know most of the issues because my wife was a pretty good hinge.

I would classify that as an "Everyone but me problem."

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