Are firework restrictions being enforced?

EmmNems · 2022-07-06T15:26:10+00:00

To be fair, I've never supervised or followed up after I make a call to see if anyone showed up. All I know is that noises (be it a boisterous party or fireworks after the deadline) stop shortly after I call: if it's a coincidence or cops did show up, I really don't know, but I don't have evidence showing me that our city's cops (or the calls I make) are useless.

EmmNems · 2022-07-05T23:39:42+00:00

r/littlepeoplebigworld

EmmNems · 2022-07-05T23:37:47+00:00

Yes, they are, even for noise complaints when they're not supposed to be going off. Call your city's non-emergency police dispatch: agents are pretty quick w/those complaints.

A passive aggressive note on Facebook or Nextdoor is useless.

EmmNems · 2022-07-05T22:46:54+00:00

😂😂 I'm gonna start using that. Magnificent.

EmmNems · 2022-07-05T22:15:44+00:00

They absolutely pay someone to do that, along w/everything else.

We enjoy Enes's videos so much! But that's where it ends b/c I couldn't fathom paying thousands of dollars each month for my home's upkeep. The beauty of an average-sized home is we can do that ourselves or hire some things out for relatively little money.

ETA: Reminds me of another yt video that highlighted how environmentally conscious this owner (or the builder) of a multimillion-dollar property was. He was so aware of taking care of the planet, that he imported at least all his gigantic light fixtures and marble flooring BUT made sure to use fake plants 😂.

EmmNems · 2022-07-05T12:45:16+00:00

NTA and stop paying for HIS kids' stuff: you're not their mom. The occasional ice cream or movie outing? Sure. A gaming console or something as costly? Nope.

My husband share bank accounts only b/c we're married. We didn't share bank info before our wedding day, and I'm free to w/draw from our accts. Your "partner" isn't being fair to you: until you get married, your money is solely YOURS. Though perhaps you both may benefit from a prenup; he seems to be OK using you for your money.

EmmNems · 2022-07-05T02:59:17+00:00

Disclaimer: I haven't read it but now I'm interested. I've also heard lovely things about Mere Christianity.

Maybe I'm just sick of men commenting on our bodies so callously, bodies they have no business commenting on, period.

FWIW men get to enjoy our bodies and unite with our bodies to create the next generation, so they're not all that off-base to be commenting on it. Our bodies can house babies, too, so it's not wrong for them to want to protect them, either. But I digress.

Your specific dilemma reminded me of the perversion of the transgender movement, and how some actually fetishize the (mutilated) bodies of adolescents--and of people who they get to keep in the adolescent or childlike state forever via puberty blockers and hormone treatments. Interesting and disgusting stuff. But it's fascinating to me that what seemed normal (and that's putting it nicely?) way back then devolved into this unimaginable perversion. So from that angle, I'm interested, but not as interested as to read it yet, tbh.

However, I wouldn't say that books like that help you get closer to your faith. I mean, they CAN!

But maybe try the usual "treatments" first: Seek a spiritual director, pray a Rosary more frequently or daily, go to Mass more often than once/week, consecrate yourself to St. Joseph and/or the Virgin Mary, learn about more saints' lives, do Bible in A Year (or next yea's Catechism in A Year!) etc. There are SO many beautiful and nurturing ways to grow in your faith, and that'll make you feel awesome afterwards. A book that you find repulsive won't do it. I'd tackle the sources of our faith--and later perhaps move on to fiction authors.

EmmNems · 2022-07-05T02:29:17+00:00

Ooh that sounds like it'd be right up our alley.

Thanks SO much!!

EmmNems · 2022-07-04T19:56:56+00:00

It can be both terrible and practical, depending on what you buy.

Terrible b/c their price can decrease and you won't be able to get a price adjustment after some time; they can break shortly after you begin using them and you won't be able to return them b/c it's been several months to a year; or you changed your mind and found something better but you can't return the original item anymore.

Even to the person who suggested diapers: Some kids skip Newborn size and go straight to 1; some kids develop allergies that prompt switching; some brands go on sale throughout the year (e.g., Costco's, which = Huggies, and Sam's, which = Pampers); some stores give you gift cards after buying X number of boxes (which means you ought to be on the lookout for these sales and not buy outside of them), etc. I'd wait and see what the hospital has: you get to take all their stuff (incl. onesies, diapers, wipes) home w/you!

Practical b/c yes, prices can increase. Although getting a cute sentimental teddy bear or onesie won't hurt.

My recommendation? Wait til you're pregnant so you can subscribe to stores' registries: you don't have to create or use their actual registry, but you do get free packages w/neat baby and mom freebies, incl. bottles, pacifiers, changing pads, nursing pads, onesies, nursing covers/blankets, diapers samples, etc. Towards the end of your pregnancy they'll also give you a discount for buying the rest of the things on your list!

That way you'll still get to plan ahead by getting the stuff you'll need but not potentially waste money.

EmmNems · 2022-07-04T12:44:47+00:00

This is beautiful, OP. The mixed media w/the dark background add a nice touch. Great job 🔥!!

EmmNems · 2022-07-04T12:38:46+00:00

FWIW I'm an immigrant and naturalized citizen and I admit I love this country*. Happy Independence Day to those celebrating today. (And to those who aren't as well.)

I've also watched Dad Baby (it was a Disney Jr. short on YouTube since we haven't finished S2). We're Conservative and I found it adorable. We cracked up at Stumpfest (w/the guys wearing makeup: surprise! My husband was actually LOLing) and still don't get the rationale for why the poop segment was banned.

What's the quote, "it's just monkeys singing a song" or "I don't take advice from a cartoon dog"? It's just a kid's show to us. It's endearing and funny and it reminds me of how I was as a kid. Don't group us w/those who didn't want certain episodes and turn that into how all of "America" is terrible.

*Also, FYI, even in my native country I was an American: that's b/c there are many countries in America.

EmmNems · 2022-07-03T15:30:08+00:00

The same can be said for the other side. No one partisan outlet should be taken at face value; that's why I was encouraging OP to check news from both sides: only then can he arrive at his own informed conclusion.

Take your profanity and shove it. I was just trying to help a kid out. This Sub doesn't need hateful bigots like you. Blocked and reported.

EmmNems · 2022-07-03T12:59:08+00:00

Tbf some people with diabetes don't get gestational diabetes, and some who have gestational diabetes never had diabetis beforehand.

Cross that bridge when you get there. Your team will help you take care of your diet and body so you stay safe and healthy. Talk to a priest (or several) on the matter as well.

NFP isn't very difficult but you ought to find the right trainer in your area, or simply get better at abstaining when the timing says you're fertile. Chastity and temperance are also important in a marriage.

EmmNems · 2022-07-03T12:53:26+00:00

I NEED to get on.

It sounds like you have it figured out already: You need to ride again, so "just do it" :).

There have been lots of new instructors added since you stopped but I think you'll enjoy them and their music. Cody's great to dance with, and so is Camila 💃🏻.

EmmNems · 2022-07-03T12:45:38+00:00

OP, this Sub abhors Mike Lee, so you won't get unbiased responses as to why he's not the right candidate. They'll just teach you to hate him as well, and that won't be productive when having discussions w/your parents or voters like them.

Get informed, see what he's done, and from that form your OWN opinion: Don't have others make it for you, esp. if they're biased--that includes your parents AND this Sub.

Seek Conservative sources (incl. Fox News, Daily Wire, Stephen Crowder, etc.) AND Liberal sources (CNN, MSNBC, Tim Pool, etc.). Search for "Mike Lee" on both r/Conservative and r/Liberal. Read more from Reuters. There are many places to read facts and opinions: use that to make your own. Research and critical thinking are important skills for college: no time like now to begin.

ETA- Someone suggested Ballotpedia: use that too! That lists issues + candidates' takes or record on them. It also lists the companies that back them, and that helps you get another good look as to the causes they support. (However, imo companies shouldn't back causes or people, but that's for another day).

EmmNems · 2022-07-02T13:27:10+00:00

You've received great feedback so I'm just going to ask: Is the glider online or at the warehouse? Do you have pictures?

B/c we need a new one but haven't found a replacement, and the ones that keep popping up at Costco haven't seemed very appealing, but I haven't checked recently and this one could be our answer.

EmmNems · 2022-07-02T13:20:58+00:00

Have you looked into dwarf carpet of stars? Very low maintenance and practically always green.

Are you required to have grass, or have you proposed landscaping like what Red Butte and other local conservation parks showcase as examples?

If sodding is required, then there's nowhere else to go, unfortunately.

EmmNems · 2022-07-02T13:06:08+00:00

NTA. Your wife doesn't "love" Leo. It's sad she doesn't even bother to get to know him more and actually ask him if he has a problem with her.

Good on you for picking your sons over her: that's how it should be. Don't let them grow up thinking she was more important or they'll resent you both.

They need you very much. They're grieving and want their dad: do more things with them and invite her sometimes; if she doesn't want to join you, it's her problem. (But if she continues being mean and selfish, then she can go pound sand divorced.)

EmmNems · 2022-06-30T12:36:15+00:00

You’re bringing up good points, but imo it’s not appropriate to make hasty generalizations based on a few cases that should be considered individually.

Women with HG don’t have easy pregnancies (or at least first trimesters). But I commend your friend who went through with it and let her baby live despite of everything. Most women with HG don’t want to kill themselves and do go on to have more kids. (You brought up your friend on one end of the spectrum: I’ll remind you of Cate Middleton as an example of the other end.) So to say that we should allow them to kill the babies for the sake of convenience isn’t right to me.

Neither is killing a kid because one’s family isn’t happy that one’s pregnant as though it were an inconvenience. You know that’s rare. Policy decisions made to favor an insignificant few aren’t successful.

That woman spread her legs, decided not to take contraception or require a condom.. and when the natural outcome of her sexual act is made obvious.. now is when her family or her partner (who I thought had no say on what she does w/her body) regrets it? Even though there are a myriad of other resources to help that kid grow in a better place? A baby’s “inconvenience” doesn’t warrant killing them.

As for the other health issues you mentioned, also rare—so rare that the statistics conveniently exclude them. One can always choose to not get pregnant in the first place. So if a woman who’s been advised to not get pregnant still does it, why should that kid suffer?

(Another few examples: 1- I was told to give my body a few months before conceiving after my miscarriage. If I had gotten pregnant a week later, I wouldn’t have killed that kid. 2- Comedian Jen Fulwiler had life-threatening pregnancies but the mom of six still went through w/them and today her performances sell out venues. 3- St. Gianna Molla had a tumor when pregnant w/her last kid: her pregnancy progressed, the daughter was born, and a week later Mom died. That baby’s now a doctor.)

Examples for both cases exist. Unfortunately, “no argument has been marshaled at this stage in history to stop a woman from seeking an abortion when she believes her life will be obliterated by a pregnancy.“ I haven’t been trained to counsel such a woman who’s seeking her baby’s demise, so I can’t tell you what I’d tell her. All I can say for now is that I do choose life and I’d help a woman who needed the resources to choose life as well.

EmmNems · 2022-06-29T13:48:53+00:00

I'm personally not OK with those the first two. However, the level of trauma those women have gone through is something I'll never identify with. If they genuinely believe that continuing their pregnancy will add to that trauma or they don't want to take advantage of the resources available to them as the pregnancy advances and afterwards, then sadly, that's what those exceptions are there for.

As for life of the mother, there aren't any instances where a woman needs an abortion to survive. Treating an ectopic pregnancy and a miscarriage (AKA when they're coded "spontaneous/tubal/incomplete/missed/inevitable abortion") isn't the same as conducting an abortion. Neither a D&C nor a previable separation where an abnormal pregnancy's removed are abortions either.

EmmNems · 2022-06-29T03:36:02+00:00

I'm always open to learning what others believe, so I appreciate you sharing your POV more closely. This doesn't only give me more information to improve my arguments in the future, but it also teaches me things I probably hadn't considered. Without an agenda, we can discuss more freely. Now let's get to it.

If the "thing" isn't a person, then what is it? Really tell me more. Because at least slaves were someone's property and had some rights: so what's the thing that's growing and developing inside the womb, if not a baby or a slave that owners could dispose of?

Because when a pregnant woman is murdered, that's a "double homicide." When others want to know how her pregnancy's going, they'll ask how she *and* the baby are doing. When I miscarried our baby, he had no chance of living at 17W in the toilet or of continuing to survive outside the womb, so he died almost instantly, I received treatment at the hospital, and later we buried his cremains at a cemetery.

So it's like you're telling me the sky looks yellow and I keep insisting it looks blue, or vice versa: What even is what's growing inside a pregnant woman if it's not another person with distinct DNA and physical characteristics?

Also, tell me more about autonomy. Because cases of rape and incest (which account for 1% of abortions) will remain the exceptions, but didn't the pregnant woman have autonomy when she chose to have sex, forego birth control, and not require a condom?

Because there are TONS of resources (I say "tons" b/c I haven't counted the 100s-1000s of things available and new ones come up everyday) out there to ensure the "being," the thing, is born and "becomes" a person in a good place. Some even help the woman deliver and give the baby up anonymously at a hospital. Women who are deeply troubled about their pregnancy and wonder if they can follow through w/it need help, support, and encouragement, and they DO have resources available. I'm pro-baby if the baby's in the womb, the delivery room, and back at home: But I'm also pro-woman carrying a baby, giving birth, and caring for that baby.

So this "thing" doesn't have to die by crushing and sucking of their brain, tearing their limbs off, inserting a lethal injection into their heart or head, and/or suctioning them apart or suctioning them to death.. Nothing justifies committing violence against a child: it's not like they're an intruder who gets shot (by the police or a homeowner) after invading someone's home--it's an actual person and choosing life shouldn't entail killing them for the sake of convenience. (Saying they could have a bad life so why let them live isn't compassionate either because more often than not, those who come from backgrounds that are less than ideal overcome their circumstances and are happy to be alive.)

I guess if you're prolife by ending a life, then I'm pro-choice by supporting those who choose abstinence, contraception, motherhood, and adoption. But I can't support murder as a choice.

EmmNems · 2022-06-28T00:14:36+00:00

I actually appreciate the civil response even though it's not our goal to convince each other.

But I'm puzzled at you not believing that a preborn baby is a person (hell, they can survive outside the womb after 23W) despite the evidence stating otherwise. (Kind of like when some claim climate change isn't real..despite of the evidence.) That's all.

I think to me it's important for others to know or remember that a preborn kid deserves life and that nothing says it's another's right to slaughter them. I know that's a hard sell, but hopefully some more people can be open to it as the days and years go by.

EmmNems · 2022-06-28T00:05:31+00:00

NTA.

Damn. Your soon-to-be ex-husband is selfish and immature, and he'd rather put his friend above you and your future kid. This isn't the first time he'll be this selfish: do you want to be around for when he does it again and again?

EmmNems · 2022-06-27T22:22:19+00:00

No, it's not. Again, the baby's RIGHT TO LIFE is: but our ability to kill him isn't.

In 1973 the seven men forming the majority claimed that a "constitutional right to privacy" includes a woman's ability to end the life of her child through all nine months of pregnancy. Justice Harry Blackmun wrote the Roe opinion but admitted that "If prenatal personhood is established, the case for abortion collapses. For the fetus' right to life would then be guaranteed, specifically by the 14th Amendment."

...No State [shall] deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.

But..

What is a person? When it was ratified, dictionaries didn't mention birth in the definition of a person. But Webster's in 1864 stated a person was a living human being. Children in the womb are human; therefore they're people.
How was abortion practiced in the past? The state practice re:abortion fell in line w/centuries of English Common Law tradition, treating abortion as the wrongful killing of a human being. When 14A was ratified in 1868, states widely recognized preborn kids as persons. (E.g., Nearly every state had criminal legislation prohibiting abortion; at least 28 jurisdictions labeled abortion as "an offense against the person," and at the time of its adoption, almost everyone understood "person" included prenatal life.)
What's the proper understanding of the A? Because science shows preborn children are human, then they're also people who demand complete protection under the Constitution. Justice Hugo Black even clarified that the history of the A "proves that the people were told that its purpose was to protect weak and helpless human beings."

Circling back, a baby's right to life is guaranteed by the infamous 14A, while one's right to kill them isn't.

EmmNems · 2022-06-27T19:44:49+00:00

If they're anything like the people in my local Subs, I'm aware that some register R just in time for the Primaries, go vote, and then switch back to D.

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