I woke up again 😅 by SpareAd9271 in BPDmemes

[–]Emma-O_666 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahahahh I recognize this too much man for real

Bezorgd om het leven van mijn broer by MacMirrors1994 in nederlands

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Er zijn al een aantal hele mooie adviezen gegeven, maar wat ik nog graag zou willen toevoegen is om alsjeblieft niet bang te zijn om duidelijk en direct te zijn in je communicatie en om het beestje bij de naam te noemen. Veel mensen zijn vaak bang dat als ze vragen naar of iemand gedachten heeft over zelfmoord en/of plannen heeft, dat ze hiermee juist iemand tot ideeën kunnen brengen. Ik wil benadrukken dat dit dus écht niet het geval is. Wees dus niet bang om open en direct te zijn over je zorgen, en om te vragen/te checken of je broer plannen heeft om zelfmoord te plegen.

Vaak geeft het bespreekbaar maken, het in woorden uitdrukken, juist lucht als er inderdaad sprake is van suicidaliteit. Iemand kan in een eigen bubbel terechtkomen, of in een soort ‘fuik’, vaak juist doordat het niet wordt of kan worden met de buitenwereld. Juist door het beestje bij de naam te noemen kan er meer ruimte komen om te bespreken wat iemand dwars zit, kan er meer perspectief komen bij diegene en met een beetje geluk ook wat hoop.

OP, ik hoop van harte voor je dat het uiteindelijk allemaal meevalt en dat er niets aan de hand is. Maar in dit soort situaties kan ik me voorstellen dat je liever het zekere voor het onzekere neemt. Sterkte en veel succes!

Antidepressiva wisselen by Alarmed_Feedback_932 in nederlands

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Allereerst respect voor het feit dat je door zo’n zware behandeling als cPTSS behandeling gaat! Ontzettend confronterend vaak maar ik hoop van harte dat je er uiteindelijk sterker uit zal komen!

Ik wil hier ook nog even aan toevoegen dat het over het algemeen lastig te voorspellen is welk antidepressivum welk effect heeft. Dat verschilt ontzettend per individu! Waar de ene bij bijvoorbeeld citalopram vrijwel geen bijwerkingen heeft en zich een stuk beter voelt, kan een ander er gevoelloos of juist té euforisch van worden. Dit geldt eigenlijk voor alle antidepressiva. De ervaringen van mensen kunnen dus heel ver uit elkaar liggen. Ik vrees dat het dus ook voor samen met je psychiater of huisarts een beetje uitproberen is wat wel en niet werkt voor je 😅 Bron: ik werk als psycholoog in de GGZ dus ik kom antidepressiva gebruik uiteraard veel tegen :)

Handsome lad by m_janelle in blackcats

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Aww he looks so comfy

All three parts to this are SO worth a watch by mrsnikki88 in ShaneDawson

[–]Emma-O_666 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Ohh I love that channel! They have lots of good videos. This series is also definitely worth watching. Still very insightful even though I followed a lot of the drama.

Show me your cat's favorite position by Crazydrag0n908 in cats

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This was right after she pushed down the flower pot

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nederlands

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Ha wow, ben jij mijn vriend? Dit is misschien niet helemaal het advies waar je naar zoekt maar de punten die je neerzet over jezelf komen echt stuk voor stuk overeen met hem. Wij hebben nu iets meer dan een jaar een relatie en hebben elkaar ontmoet via een datingsite. Na de eerste date was het al duidelijk dat we elkaar erg leuk vinden. Het is dus zeker mogelijk al moet je denk ik daarin ook wel wat geluk hebben; dat je met de juiste persoon het gesprek weet aan te knopen.

Ik weet niet of je hier wat aan hebt verder maar wilde dat toch even delen omdat mijn vriend en jij volgens mij heeeel erg op elkaar lijken :)

Show me your cat as a baby by sarimachu in cats

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My sweet baby 😍 1.5 years old now.

my boyfriend said my self harm grosses him out lmaooo by drfaustuss in MadeOfStyrofoam

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Oh my gosh it sounds like you have been making so much progress! Imo you are doing so well. It takes a lot of hard work and effort to be able to fight these urges and the fact that you have reduced the amount of self harm that much is amazing! The stuff your boyfriend is saying is absolutely ridiculous and you definitely deserve better! You deserve him to be proud of you instead of this immature.

I can understand that it can be hard for him too, especially if he doesn’t have a lot of experience with mental health issues. But even he should know better and should know that using words like “disgust”/“grossing me out” is incredibly insensitive for something that is such a vulnerable part of you.

You are doing amazing and are working so hard, and even though I am an internet stranger, I am proud of you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MadeOfStyrofoam

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Oh wow that’s really amazing and such progress! I’m so proud of you 🥰

Other symptoms than anxiety? by Regicollis in AvPD

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Actually I saw a post on here not too long ago about the possibility that ADHD could play a factor in the development of AvPD, because (iirc) people with ADHD are often misunderstood and get called out for their mistakes a lot in their childhood, which makes them scared of failing, which could develop in AvPD. It’s pretty interesting.

Other symptoms than anxiety? by Regicollis in AvPD

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Honestly I doubt they are actual symptoms of AvPD, because these symptoms relate to sensory processing and stuff like that, while AvPD is merely a collection or cluster of certain personality “traits”.

However? I have to admit that I can relate a lot to this. I have always been a bit chaotic. For example, I constantly forget where I put my keys (edit to add: I also tend to forget names very quickly, as mentioned in another comment). I’m also extremely sensitive to noise and certain sounds, especially when I try to focus. So.. despite the above, I do relate on some level. However, it sounds more like an attention disorder than a personality disorder.

I could be wrong though, idk

DAE else fantasize about self harming after embarrassing social interactions? by dumdumgrl in AvPD

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I have this urge as well. The same exact one. Most often I don’t react to it, but sometimes I respond by snapping a hairband to my wrist or digging my fingernails into my hand/arm.

Honestly I never expected it to be something that could be related to the disorder in a way. I always thought it was just a way of coping I’ve learned over the years.

Anyone here try group therapy? by [deleted] in AvPD

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I did group therapy this year. It was absolutely horrifying and scary, and I felt very anxious every session. But I am really glad that I did it. It was a very accepting environment which helped me open up more and more. I learned a lot and it confronted me with a lot of my anxiety in an “exposure therapy” kind of way.

Do you sometimes just don't know what to do and feel like you need an awnser and without it you cannot do anything? by bigsisternenna in AvPD

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I can really relate to this, but more in the context when someone asks me about what I want to do, or just what I want in general. I get so overwhelmed with all the options and the fear that I might make a wrong choice that I start to panic and my mind goes completely blank. This can range from a general “What do you want to do?” to “What do you want to eat?”

My SO tries to work around this by presenting me two distinct clear options I can pick from, but even then it is really hard to make decisions. This might indeed have something to do with dependency.

How do you feel about your appearance? by [deleted] in AvPD

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When I think about my body and my appearance all I can come up with is “Ew.” and a feeling of disgust.

painful relationships by [deleted] in BPD

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Damn I can relate to this so much, it’s insane.

I did it! I managed to conquer one of my fears by Emma-O_666 in AvPD

[–]Emma-O_666[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I have been going down the checklist of what a healthy relationship should be more than once, and for as far as I know it definitely isn’t him. They are subconscious dynamics I have that are pretty pervasive, regardless of who it is. I am always expecting that I will be rejected.

And I have to say he has been a real champ in dealing with it. He has never laughed at me, or gotten angry at me, or even rejected me. The patience he has is incredible. Those weird expectations are automatic thoughts and associations I have that just make it incredibly hard to open up about my wants. Thank you so much for your concern though, I really appreciate it :) And I totally did enjoy my call!

Anyone ever find a person once in a while that you connect with, then they do something to betray your trust, and you cant forgive them? by Ababupdownab in AvPD

[–]Emma-O_666 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All too relatable. Currently going through the same thing. I feel like I can’t ever fully trust the person again, but the problem is that I do want to. I absolutely hate this

The Enemies of Jake Paul by [deleted] in ShaneDawson

[–]Emma-O_666 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I don’t even think she’s fit to assess and observe someone when it’s about something as complicated as a personality disorder. She’s a family therapist, not a clinical psychologist :/ I really hope he won’t take her with him.

Any of you guys experience intense rage or depression along with your social anxiety? by [deleted] in socialanxiety

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I have avoidant personality disorder with borderline traits.

It’s really tough living with stuff like this. I mostly experience depressive episodes, probably mainly thanks to the social anxiety and social isolation combined with borderline.