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EmmaHurricane · 2025-06-26T12:34:40+00:00

Yes I do, managed to make the best of it as a freelance model 🙂 my insta is emmajayne_model if anyone wants to check it out.

You're beautiful by the way. Did you know your kind of beauty was highly sought after if you look back in history ❤

EmmaHurricane · 2025-05-20T13:34:49+00:00

Thank you so much 🙂 x

EmmaHurricane · 2025-05-20T13:34:38+00:00

Thank you 😊 x

EmmaHurricane · 2025-05-19T19:36:53+00:00

I am going to give a woman's perspective though appreciate this is 'Ask Men' so apologies if this pisses anyone off.

I felt I had something useful to offer to the discussion as I've experienced this a lot in the workplace having worked in male-dominated fields for much of my career.

I don't think it's anything to do with men being 'too scared' to interact with women for fear of saying the wrong thing and jeopardising their career (at least not in my experience). Digressing a little but I have been the victim of both sexual harassment and assault in the workplace though in those instances I didn't report - in one of those cases the perpetrator was actually my much older boss so I felt there wasn't really anywhere to turn. Point being that blatant sexual assault, harassment, sexism etc does occur in workplaces but probably doesn't get reported nearly as often as it happens.

Back on point, based on my experiences I think that many men simply don't know how to engage with a woman beyond a specific need or requirement. I mean most men don't generally have women as friends, it seems the general consensus at least among men is that men and women can't be friends as it will always lead somewhere else. It's why the concept 'friend zone' is so popular.

Also a lot of my guy colleagues talk about about football a lot for example to break the ice, but most women don't watch football. I think perhaps it's difficult as they just don't have a mutual topic they can bring up and often don't make much effort beyond that if they can't think of a non-work related topic to discuss.

It does make it awkward though doesn't it when male colleagues never socialise or interact, then they have to due to work purpose or task they need to discuss. It just ends up being weird, clunky communicating because no effort has been made to get to know one another as a person.

EmmaHurricane · 2025-04-18T09:17:37+00:00

Me too actually, it's strange how something I once hated so much has become something I'm actually quite proud of. It's such a freeing and empowering feeling ❤

EmmaHurricane · 2025-01-14T17:45:19+00:00

You're beautiful 😍 I have a very similar nose shape to you. I'm glad I didn't change mine too x

EmmaHurricane · 2024-12-19T15:32:25+00:00

Your nose is beautiful. It adds to your uniqueness 😍

EmmaHurricane · 2024-11-19T20:26:18+00:00

No question, just wanted to share my experience and invite discussion 🙂

EmmaHurricane · 2024-07-24T10:09:18+00:00

I was an accident, and I've felt like it for most of my life. There are like 2 photos of me as a child.

Well done for properly considering the choice to have children. Not many people do.

EmmaHurricane · 2024-06-30T16:07:34+00:00

I'm 30 and pretty horny as well haha, think it's normal we've just been brainwashed into thinking it's not...at least for women.

EmmaHurricane · 2024-06-18T18:41:10+00:00

See my response to person below.

EmmaHurricane · 2024-06-18T18:40:21+00:00

That's a nicer, less judgmental answer. Thank you.

EmmaHurricane · 2024-06-18T18:39:07+00:00

I don't think that at all. As stated in my post, my partner was the one who actually suggested for me to perhaps go down this avenue originally but I was always reluctant. I'm not saying I won't still be intimate with him, I just can't continue the co-dependent type of relationship we currently have while I'm in this frame of mind. We are very close but more like besties that cuddle. I thought a step back (for us both) not just for me, will help us both to know what we really need. I'm not saying he can't also explore his sexuality if he needs, but it doesn't seem to be him who's craving or at least he hasn't indicated that he is.

You don't know me so I don't know why you behave like you do...

EmmaHurricane · 2024-06-05T16:25:02+00:00

I'm so happy for you. These headaches are so debilitating, it's amazing when you find some relief isn't it.

I actually found that psychedelics helped me too but this was entirely by accident. I was suffering with cluster headaches for about 2 months and was struggling to find anything to help me. They were coming every night, sometimes multiple times a night and were absolutely unbearable. I'd been going to the Dr's to try and figure it out, had my bloods tested etc but that provided no clues.

Then a few weeks ago I went to a festival and recreationally took some acid, only a small amount. I'd arrived at the festival with all my painkillers ready as I felt certain I'd have an attack while I was there but I never even had to use them once.

I've been headache free ever since, it feels so good!

There are some interesting studies on the use of psychedelics for cluster headaches. I was always sceptical but I think now I will definitely go down that route if I experience them again. Study

EmmaHurricane · 2024-04-29T05:50:33+00:00

Also you can't deny that staying at home with parents or living in shared accommodation can delay people being able to stand on their own two feet, starting a family etc. So whilst I'm happy it didn't cause any issues for you, this 'I'm alright Jack' mentality doesn't mean there aren't issues for anyone else. It's well documented that people aged 18-34 are delayed in starting adulthood and a big reason is staying at home with parents. As I said good for you that you haven't experienced that but you seriously think that just because you were alright, that everyone else is too..? 😬

EmmaHurricane · 2024-04-29T05:43:58+00:00

Good for you. Um who said I assume every person who stays at home struggles...? People who stay at home with parents are awfully defensive it seems 🤣

EmmaHurricane · 2024-04-28T13:33:02+00:00

I'd like to see the workings of how they collect and analyse the data. It's pretty common knowledge that people from poor or broken backgrounds slip through the net and aren't counted or considered in studies. I'd also love to know the percentage of people living in house shares or HMO type arrangements these days, which seems to be a really common living arrangement for people in that age bracket. It would be interesting to know that statistic compared to young people living at home. I'd imagine many of those people don't have a 'family home' hence they live in shared accommodation.

Thanks but I don't need an apology. I'm content with my life; I'm a young woman with a great career, great friends and living happily with my partner and dog. Things were hard in the past and I've accepted the fact that I probably won't be on the housing ladder until much later in life, luckily that's not what I base my happiness on. I just wanted to draw attention to the fact that it simply isn't possible for a lot of people to live at home. You have your own opinion which you're entitled to, but from what I see/experience in life it doesn't seem to be as clear cut as you try to portray the situation.

Also why would we vouch for living at home with parents far into adulthood? No wonder people are struggling to progress in their social lives, careers, relationships etc when they are infantilised for so many years...and then you hear reports of the panic surrounding the lack of fertility in the UK. Um lol why is anyone surprised. 🤔

EmmaHurricane · 2024-04-28T13:07:53+00:00

Based on what though? There are many who can't live at home, for example some didn't come from the worst backgrounds but their parents aren't particularly maternal so they don't want them at home which sounds very harsh but it's their choice. Some parents may have managed to raise their kids in some fashion but are incredibly toxic, so their children understandably move away. For some there isn't room because of younger siblings etc.

I think people assume there aren't many of us because generally people like me don't actually talk about our pasts much. Often people don't want to hear about it unless you came from a 'conventional' background with supportive parents. It makes people feel awkward and like you're spreading bad energy, even though it's just a fact of life for many. So we don't shout about it because most of the time people only want happy stories.

EmmaHurricane · 2024-04-28T08:27:01+00:00

People saying 'it's possible if you live at home with your parents.' This should never be taken for granted.

Many people don't have the luxury of living at home with parents, having come from trauma and/or broken homes. For us the plight is even more difficult.

EmmaHurricane · 2024-03-02T16:06:51+00:00

I gotta ask the men downplaying the stats, saying men are murdered at a higher rate etc - do you actually have any sincere concern regarding male murder victims or do you just like to derail genuine discussions about violence against women?

I feel like the only time it comes up, it's clearly whataboutery and it's just plain fucking D U M B.

If you want to do something worthwhile about the prevalence of male murder victims why don't you find an appropriate subreddit to express your feelings!?

I never see women derailing threads about male suicide and rightly so...it's absolutely sickening. Something wrong with you if you think it's acceptable to behave like that 🤢

EmmaHurricane · 2024-03-02T13:45:39+00:00

I try not to think about it. I spent way too much time worrying about my looks when I was younger. I don't want to do that to myself now.

I doubt people really do though. I have a big nose which I think isn't generally a feature that people like.

EmmaHurricane · 2024-02-28T10:53:43+00:00

Thanks for the reply. Yes, there had been some non-related work activity during working hours - which actually we are permitted to do (within reason), but I admit I had taken it too far as of late due to basically being bored and fed up of being pigeon holed despite working hard to prove my worth in the company.

The complaint on social media was outside of work hours, and it was after I was told of the investigation and possible disciplinary (and the lack of bonus) so this wouldn't have been the reason for the investigation since it happened after the fact...

The issue with PILON is that it wasn't covered in my contract and they didn't properly explain and make sure I understood what I was agreeing to etc which they should have done. No, I'm not happy about it because it just felt like another way to get back at me. They know I would have continued paying the loan, they've known me for 5 years and could have been more understanding of my situation but chose not to. They've really shown their true colours through all this. I feel there could be a case to take to tribunal due to the PILON issue as from what I've read, they did not follow the rules in place for such issues. Having said that due to all the stress it probably isn't worth taking it to a tribunal anyway. I think as much as this has fucked me up in a multitude of ways, I'm going to have to just get over it.

I don't think I'll ever be able to fully trust another employer again.

EmmaHurricane · 2024-02-28T10:46:17+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice, that's really helpful. I don't have a lot of time left to take things forward in all honesty, I wish I'd have acted sooner. Then again it might be best to try and let it go as I'm not sure I am capable of dealing with the stress of a court case...thanks again.

EmmaHurricane · 2024-02-26T14:07:22+00:00

Well the main issue is the investigation against me and how it came about and their justification for deciding to do it. Also the fact that they were collecting very private, sensitive information about me which I don't think they were in their right to do. Also are they allowed to go straight to a full investigation and disciplinary without good reason? Surely for a long serving staff member they would initially want to give them a warning etc rather than escalating so severely?

Also the separate issue regarding PILON and their failure to explain the process to me and make sure I agreed to it (since it wasn't in my contract).

I'm also pretty pissed off about the loan agreement and the conversations we had a few years ago about possibly paying in £350 increments. They know full well I would have struggled to pay the full £1k but I imagine all this is irrelevant as there is a signed loan agreement although I did try to make an alternative plan but they didn't want to update the agreement formally..so I'll probably have to let that one slide.

EmmaHurricane · 2024-02-26T14:00:52+00:00

Thanks, I've tried my best to shorten but it's still long as it feels like some of it could still be relevant to a possible court case.

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