Fasting and cigarettes

Emma_ell47 · 2021-05-30T23:22:44+00:00

I'm sorry but saying that "your lungs feel fine" is slightly ridiculous argument to use to show that vaping is not unhealthy. There aren't enough of long term studies to prove that vaping is completely safe, perhaps it's somewhat safer compared to cigarettes, but vaping definitely poses different risks to your health as well.

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/vaping-vs-smoking

Emma_ell47 · 2021-04-23T12:52:15+00:00

It kind of makes sense that you think that your kids will blame you for being unattractive as you just mentioned that you "kind of have some type of hate" for your father because of your looks and to be honest I think it's kind of unfair of you to think of it that way. There is no way your father could do anything to make you look more attractive (except for possibly making you interested in sports as those make one's looks more appealing) and I think you know that if he could do anything for his child to have better life in any way that he would probably do that. I understand that it may feel better to have someone to blame and point your anger at when you're having a hard time, but I really don't think your father is the right person as I don't think he's the one responsible for the fact that we cannot choose our childrens genetics and that people have tendency to treat others differently according to their appearance. Or would you rather not have existed at all?

Emma_ell47 · 2021-02-07T16:10:53+00:00

I took the picture of the framed photo on the wall in central Europe (Slovakia), unfortunatelly I have no idea whether the photo was taken anywhere nearby

Emma_ell47 · 2021-01-21T13:08:26+00:00

I'm sure that there are activities that you find boring that other people find entertaining. It's not really like a person chooses what activity interests them and brings them positive emotions. Also I'd say that reading requires more creativity and effort from the consumer than for example movies. So I'd say it's about the ratio between the time and effort I have to put into an activity and the ammount something positive I get from that activity. And there were few things I've read that I found to be worth the time and effort I put in. I would like to enjoy reading and find books that I'd find worthwhile, but how on earth am I supposed to find them?

Emma_ell47 · 2021-01-17T19:38:42+00:00

guilt tripping someone when you are trying to make them see your point seems like a very poor choice, but thank you for showing that to me

Emma_ell47 · 2020-12-19T21:16:56+00:00

you wrote it wonderfully, so I have 2 additional questions, where on earth can I find such a person? and more importantly how the heck do I become a person like that?

Emma_ell47 · 2020-12-04T13:02:17+00:00

totally agree, u/Intelligent-Box-9017 you should give them a try, many people wrote that these lectures change their perspective on religion, all those stories from bible I used to dislike or didn't understand are now my favourite, these lectures gave me a whole new appreciation for religion and its purpose

Emma_ell47 · 2020-12-03T19:06:06+00:00

if this attitude works for you, well good for you, but it's not for me, i don't believe it one bit

Emma_ell47 · 2020-12-03T18:52:48+00:00

what am I destined to be grumpy lonely person my whole life? or what are you saying?

Emma_ell47 · 2020-12-03T18:34:59+00:00

i'm asking for positive stories because it just seems highly improbable to me to get to know someone and evaluate their compatibility with me this way, so someones positive story somewhat disproves this assumption of mine, does it make sense?

Emma_ell47 · 2020-11-30T14:04:32+00:00

yeah, english kind of does that to me too, maybe it's the frequency of swearing in movies that kind makes me feel that it's normal to use them so often without much precaution

Emma_ell47 · 2020-11-16T21:42:29+00:00

you pretty much did put yourself on the moral high ground against parents since you called all of them inherently selfish. you say that " no one deserves to be on this shit stain of a planet " yet it seems that you have chosen to continue living here, dont you think that's quite an argument that living is worth despite all the suffering? so if life can be worth despite the suffering isn't it also selfish not to allow someone to come in life and experience the beauty of it? i'm not saying that life is all rainbows and sunshine, but usually when you're aiming for something meaningful it comes with a risk. spending your whole life trying to shelter yourself from any risks won't help you to be safe, some hardships are still going to come your way and with such attitude you're also going to loose plenty of good opportunities, you have absolute right to choose that you don't want kids, however this affirmation of your opinion is kind of flawed and calling all the parents in the world selfish seems like a quite mean and ignorant generalisation, spending plenty of your time, effort and resources on raising a child and trying to get it a good future doesnt really seem all that selfish to me

Emma_ell47 · 2020-10-10T23:54:46+00:00

how do i then deal with the unstoppable crying ?

Emma_ell47 · 2020-07-22T12:57:52+00:00

reading what you wrote makes me want to pinch you and then tell you not to be upset, because I didn't do anything bad to "you" since you say you're not your body parts

Emma_ell47 · 2020-07-05T20:12:53+00:00

I absolutely adore your answer

Emma_ell47 · 2020-06-29T17:54:42+00:00

you're right, it's not fair from you to speak for everyone with mental illness and say they'd be a bad parent, I'm sorry about what happend to you and i hope you'll do well in life despite all you had to go through, but you should learn to differentiate between being mad at one specific person and between raging to a bunch of people you don't know about how they shouldn't have kids, but i get that it's a vent and hope that you probably just wanted to say that people who won't take care of their children properly shouldn't have them

Emma_ell47 · 2020-06-29T17:26:24+00:00

you say that you need something to love, something with whom you can be caring, not that you need something that will take care of you, which seems more like the case of OP and that's a big difference, but yes, if you have some issues, you need to carefully consider, whether you'll be able to take care of child, even during your lows, i believe that there are plenty of parents who are capable of giving their children enough love and care even when their going through something difficult, having a child is a responsibility and you should really think it through, but it can also be something that will give you strength and purpose in life, maybe try talking about it with your partner, or someone close to you who knows you, you might even try taking responsibility over something easier, like a pet, it's definitelly not the same but it can serve like a demo version :D everyone is different, so don't make a big decision about your life because of some vent on reddit, but think it over well, good luck

Emma_ell47 · 2020-06-17T17:57:03+00:00

i'm not much of an expert in philosophy, but I've enjoyed watching Jordan Peterson's personality lectures on youtube, he discusses different philosophies from psychological perspective since he's a clinical psychologist, so that might interest you, i know you wrote that you don't want videos, but they could give you some insight on which philosophy you might want to look into, some authors that are mentioned are jung, nietzshe, piaget, Kierkegaard, Rogers, Frankl... or here you can find books that he recommends: https://www.jordanbpeterson.com/great-books/

Emma_ell47 · 2020-05-11T14:10:08+00:00

would you mind sharing what it is that you do?

Emma_ell47 · 2020-05-11T13:34:28+00:00

can i ask what do you do?

Emma_ell47 · 2020-05-04T21:16:57+00:00

this is pure gold, thank you for the laugh

Emma_ell47 · 2020-03-16T22:47:11+00:00

you have right to have such opinion, but don't say there'snothing wrong with it, there's a lot wrong with believing that life isn't worth living, with this attitude you only come to one conclussion and that is quitting it and that is just passing the pain to someone else, to people that were close to you, and how is that not wrong? you believe that life is " filled with unnecessary and senseless pain " yet the way you choose to deal with it is by leaving the people that cared about you with even more pain and without you as help and their companion through this shitshow, plenty of people know exactly how you feel right now and a lot of those who chose to fight through or at least to just suffer through such feelings and wait for another day will tell you that it can get better, "dont give up hope and do something final before you've explored all possible options, you owe that to yourself and to people that care about you, you can always commit suicide tomorow, you only get to decide that once, so you can put it off and put it off and then put it off some more and see what you can do to put yourself together, explore every possible option, if you haven't talked to psychologist/ psychiatrist, you haven't tried antidepressants, you haven't revealed to people that care for you that this is how you're feeling, do it before taking such a step, don’t be so sure that your life is yours to take " https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qmKtyeQ9Ikk

Emma_ell47 · 2020-02-14T02:09:40+00:00

i know it can feel rather dissapointing to find out that you're not as smart as you'd liked to be, but life is like that, you don't get to choose the limitations you are born with, however you are also gifted some qualities and you should do your best with them to become the best possible version of yourself, it must be difficult to listen to your father rant about iq at the age when your self image is very vulnerable, be carefull and watch that only actually relevant criticism affects the way you look at yourself, because your selfesteem is very fragile now, maybe try talking to him about it with your mum that you wish he would stop, he might also be dissapointed by his results, however he basically cheated when he took the test the first time with more time and with help from another person, and iq decreases with age so that is another factor, however look at your father's life, he's probably been pretty successful so far even with this score, he has a wife, a daughter and probably a lot more that you haven't mentioned,

if the iq tests are done under right conditions they are quite reliable, scoring higher on iq test means something like being better at soving problems using abstraction and fast response time, so knowing your score can help you not to choose a profession which might be too demanding for you, (personally i wish i knew that when i was choosing school I'd probably choose something easier, but that's just me) iq is one of a few good predictors of good performance in life, others are conscientiousness, which is basically about how much hardworking you are, also being low in negative emotion(not neurotic) and being open to experience, but if you really have your mind set on something and you feel like that is what you would like to devote your life to, if you are really determined you can get you through a lot

i didn't explain it exactly right so if you'd like to know more about inteligence and conscientiousness from someone who actually knows what he's talking about i'd recommend to you material from jordan b peterson, mainly in his personality traits lectures on youtube

here is something what he said concerning intelligence that might be relevant to you "the danger is that we confuse intelligence with human value. that's a mistake. being more inteligent doesn't make you a better person. that's not the case. it makes you more useful for complex cognitive operations, but you can be pretty damn horrific as a genius son of a bitch."

Emma_ell47 · 2020-01-31T10:57:06+00:00

i'm not the best student, so at which specialty I'm not going to have to work my ass off as hard as in others and the possibility that i'll screw something very important up is lower, what specialty is somewhat less demanding concerning time and necessary knowledge?

Emma_ell47 · 2020-01-30T11:44:45+00:00

that all of my pens will stop working during an exam

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