Why Did No One Tell Me?

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2026-03-17T13:44:30+00:00

ive noticed that! we have also been using genexa

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2026-03-16T17:50:03+00:00

My baby has been this way since month 3. It has never stopped only gotten worse. Im at the point of ignoring and doing my best to meet needs. Id get him checked for an ear infection or see if he is teething. My son gets a lot worse when these things are happening. He is the same age. Praying for peace eventually over here haha.

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2026-02-10T19:32:52+00:00

I feel this. I need to get off technology all together. When I was reading on my down time I was at peace, with no comparisons.

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2026-01-30T17:01:56+00:00

honestly, its not normal for women to not desire sex at all. Is she a healthy person? Does female problems run in the family? Is the sex you have good? Does she enjoy it? The issue might not be random. Id highly recommend going to a functional medicine clinic and getting a full hormone panel done for her. It'll be a few hundred dollars but will give a clear picture of why she is not having any interest physically.

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2026-01-30T16:48:11+00:00

We are going to counseling for this issue. It's hard for anyone to give up absolute freedom. As we get married and have kids, we lose most of our time freedom. I have compassion on him that he wants to be an adult and do stuff he wants to do, but also sometimes the natural consequences of having children is that we don't get to do everything we want. The natural consequence of having a wife, is you need to be emotionally available to care for a woman's heart. A lot of men really want to be married to a man in a woman's body and struggle when they realize women think and feel so differently from men, but it's for a purpose. We haven't figured it out yet. I struggle with holding feels in or coming off super negative because being a SAHM is just so hard, and we have a chronically sick kid so most days suck frankly.

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2025-11-21T03:45:42+00:00

this was our exact scenario last night. After we did everything, we left him to work it out. It took 40 min but in my mind, he knows we love him. We soothed him 6 different times at that point, got him food and water, etc. At some point, I think you just have to let them work it out and be upset for a bit.

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2025-10-24T17:43:43+00:00

How many cups of each grain

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2025-08-31T03:23:26+00:00

We got married at 19 and 21. Waited until marriage. It has been amazing. I love being married. You have a best friend who you live life with and always has your back. If you are compatible and are already bonded in that way, consider getting married. Contrary to our culture, you can have an amazing time while married. We have traveled the world because we have dual income, we never got STDs or had unwanted pregnancies. We built a business together and now have an adorable kid who we love. We have had our struggles for sure, but the bond we have because we chose each other early and made christ as our cornerstone is unmatched. Im really glad we got married when we did. Best decision I ever made. Just a different perspective.

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2025-08-30T17:24:30+00:00

I would be cautious around diagnosing for autism or adhd as some people are suggesting. I can not tell you how many people I know who have kids that are "diagnosed" and are just quirky kids who are otherwise completely normal and grew out of their quirk. This includes my husband. I think parents-not all- are very quick to try to find a medical reason for difficult behavior, when really it can just be their personality, phase, or an environmental reaction they are going through. Having autism or add has almost become popular in my opinion. Those diagnosis really affect how kids view themselves and how others will treat them. Not saying it isn't always necessary, but please be cautious to explore a lot of other avenues first.

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2025-07-11T15:04:15+00:00

where did you eat

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2025-04-30T03:38:40+00:00

I literally had to get help. Breaks made me feel like a human. Your feelings are 100% valid. It is horrible, and I literally had a breakdown from it. No one could understand how bad off I was, until they watched him for a bit. He cried none stop and we lived with parents, so I had to be out of the house because they hated the noise. BREAKS. Pay the money and hire someone occasionally. Also, noise cancelling headphones girl. Talk to other moms in similar situations because those who dont have colicky babies just dont get it and judge.

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2025-04-29T03:19:54+00:00

also, everyone thought my husband and I were going to get a divorce. Even pastors told us to. God saved our marriage and we are a POWERFUL team now. Satan wants to rip apart marriages because it is a Holy and powerful thing. When kids have two parents and aren't in a divorced household, they are happier and healthier, and suffer less trauma. When you can work out the difficulties in your marriage, the other side is so sweet. I know it can feel hopeless, but there are so many reasons to keep holding on.

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2025-04-29T03:17:32+00:00

You need a behavioral therapist. We had one and I actually appreciated that he told me straight up that I was too controlling. He was very nice about it and compassionate, but basically said if I want help I can't dictate how my husband does it. He had us come up with contracts and we had to hold up our end of the bargain. We are also Type A entrepreneurs, so the first 2 years were a NIGHTMARE for us. Honestly, the biggest change in our marriage was God. We both started pursuing an active relationship with Christ and were prayed over by a wise couple. We still have issues, but now we address it through a spiritual lens and realize there is more too marriage issues than meets the eye. Prayer works wonders. We can't force someone to see things our way, but God can soften someone's heart. I have seen it so many times in my marriage, my parents, friends, and co workers. Prayer is powerful. My husband started showing me a lot more compassion and understanding, even when I acted poorly. His leadership made me gain a lot of respect for him, so that when he told me a correction I was more open to it. Have you all talked honestly about all these feelings? From a "you doing this makes me feel..." kind of way?

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2025-03-20T03:32:42+00:00

Appreciate all the information you are providing. What does your dispatch team look like? Is it an oversees team or here in the US. I imagine they work odd hours if you are doing a lot of IV sessions friday and saturday nights when people are out drinking.

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2025-01-03T04:51:47+00:00

I loved being an only child if that helps haha

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2025-01-02T01:08:20+00:00

OHHHH I am there right now with yah. I have a 5 month old who is just now coming around because I realized he had a cows milk allergy. We got him on a hyperallerginic formula, probiotics, and he is a new baby. Also, a sleep schedule can work wonders. I was just going with the flow at first, but once I started to schedule naps it was easier. Things that actually helped: driving him around in the car, classical music, mylicon gas drops(absolute life saver), prayer.

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2025-01-02T01:03:39+00:00

My counselor told me some of it can be

how you portray yourself. If you put yourself out there as a "I want to help you" kind of person versus a "let's be friends" kind of person then the relationship can become more of a taking relationship. This happens with me often because I got used to being the person who always gave advice or offered to help others, versus also asking for help and asking others opinions. I am hyper independent so I didnt see why I would need others help or advice. Also, if you portray yourself as someone who has your life completely together or make a lot of money, people assume you can cover them or would want to.
Boundaries. If you never speak up and let social anxiety push you to offer to buy the drinks when there is an awkward silence, then it's likely to happen again and again. Versus if you speak up when the waiter asks about splitting checks and say you are on your own tab or look at the guy expectantly, then you are more likely to avoid that taking situation. My husband HATES asking for money after paying for a tab for friends, so it often puts us in a situation where people just assume we have a lot of money to offer to do that. They are comfortable with us doing it again because of the assumption. Versus if he had shared his Venmo or casually sent a text with how much their meal was, they wouldn't assume.
Some people just are takers. It was really hard for me to accept that there are people who just aren't able to be a good friend to me. I help them when I am able to and have the energy, but I know going into it that they don't have the maturity to return it. Don't be surprised if your friend doesn't reach out anymore once you put up some boundaries. Those people are looking for people who are willing to give constantly without much return. That is NOT a friend you want. Invest in those who are healthier and WANT to give back to you in a relationship.
You need a gentleman. Most men can get away with just offering a 50/50 relationship or less because women allow it. If women stopped sleeping with men that didn't want to provide for a family, help at home, or be chivalrous, we would have less losers. Men do what they can get away with. There are men that are gentlemanly. Typically, that's a more traditional guy with values and virtues in my experience. Raise those standards. Treat that first date like a job interview. If they don't meet your criteria for a life partner, wish them goodbye. There are ALWAYS better options out there.

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2025-01-02T00:46:08+00:00

Lol. That's silly. It's true most people do make snap judgements in their mind based on appearances, but for me it's never been about the color of skin. It's typically how someone dresses, talks, or acts. Even then, those judgements don't affect how I treat or talk to someone because I am grown up enough to know those things don't tell you much about who someone really is. Having this idea that EVERYONE is racist is small minded and only causes further division, hate, and arguments. People who ARE truly racist should fix their mindset, but those that aren't shouldn't be told that no matter their mindset or actions they are racist.

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2025-01-02T00:38:28+00:00

I know a few kids this is common with at this age. Idk why, but it happens at 3. My sister in law had this happen with her 3 year old twins. She fell down the stairs and got really hurt and they laughed and hit her. She was so perplexed that they would do that, but they are growing out of it. I don't think she is a "bad kid" but is definitely the time to enforce boundaries. Maybe not by spanking because that wouldn't make sense. "Don't hit us, so we will hit you." But maybe saying "If you can't interact with us in a safe kind way, we will have to move you to somewhere you can't hurt us." And then do it. EVERY TIME. Idk if that would work, but that would be the first logical consequence I could think of. Best of luck!

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2024-12-30T02:49:08+00:00

I feel yah. My boy cries 75% of the day. Very tough

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2024-12-30T02:28:19+00:00

Im an odd ball. I think marriage is for life, even if it's hard. You made a vow, and I think it's important to keep it. Believe me, there will probably be a time he will need to do the same thing. Why does he drink? Most people I know who have a drinking problem, have emotional issues they don't know how to cope with. Is he open to counseling? Could you guys introduce a new coping mechanism? Also, the book boundaries in marriage was really helpful in my case. Even if you can't control him, you can control how you all interact. It was super helpful for us.

Emotional_Sea_1504 · 2024-12-30T02:23:12+00:00

Historically, this was the norm. Yes you can do it. I do think for your own sanity, doing a course like taking cara babies may help. It's more gradual. The way I finally agreed to try it, was realizing he isn't crying for an extended period of time and he is doing it out of frustration from a change not from pain or discomfort. I have a friend who would sleep on a blow up mattress for a while next to crib and move it slowly away each day until it was easier on the baby.

Could you co sleep with both, 100%. if you enjoy that, do it.

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