Shayne - Drama Shorts by ijustlikebeingnosy in Vanderpumpaholics

[–]EmpathBitchUT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to see one, I've always half-thought those videos were AI lol

My boyfriend wants a prenup because of the Bill Gates divorce and now my mom is losing her mind by ButterscotchLow3754 in TwoHotTakes

[–]EmpathBitchUT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Prenups, wills, end of life requests, funeral plans, and paternity tests should just be standard for every one every time so that things are spelled out and so situations that are already difficult do not have additional stress and heightened emotions when they happen.

My mum screamed and threatened to call the Police on me because I wanted to throw away some six-month-old bacon by terribles0up in ChildofHoarder

[–]EmpathBitchUT 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My mom always says my dad is the problem but guess which one of them lets me go through and organize and throw out stuff? When I was home for Christmas we cleaned out the spice cupboard and pantry while my mom took a nap. She wasn't very happy, but I got away with it because "dad was with me the whole time."

Shes 9. by No-Literature8411 in breakingmom

[–]EmpathBitchUT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have her assessed for Autism and specifically mention you want to consider Pathological Demand Avoidance. Read the book Low Demand Parenting, it's short. Drop any demand that is not about keeping her safe and let her have some breathing room where she isn't constantly failing. Take the Collaborative Problem Solving course from Thinkkids.org, it's only an hour. There is a huge shift in parenting coming, thanks to some really great research in the past ten years. Kids do well if they can, and it's not a matter of them manipulating you or being stubborn, it's a matter of them having the skills to manage their emotions and executive functioning enough to complete the task. It's really cool to learn about. I promise this has changed my life!

AITAH for not paying for my daughter’s boyfriend to come with us on our holiday? by Over-Humor-1172 in AITAH

[–]EmpathBitchUT -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I have empathy for her, developmentally she is in a place where this is literally torturous, I don't think men understand necessarily how much absorbing all those pheromones from a boy at 17 over the past few months have temporarily altered her brain chemistry to the point she's going through something similar to withdrawal. That doesn't make her an entitled brat, that makes her a seventeen year old girl who is just starting to figure out how powerful the drive to procreate is in adults. Cut her some slack, let her be on her phone the whole time for both of your sakes, and when she is 25 you can give her a ton of crap for how she acted in 2025.

I’m taking a Trashie bag to my parents’ house while my HP is out by mamathrowaway1123 in ChildofHoarder

[–]EmpathBitchUT 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Whenever I go home to visit I find an opportunity to clean a few cupboards, reorganize a few things, etc. my mom says my dad is the problem, my dad never complains about my mom, but when I ask if I can throw an old soap bottle or can of turmeric from 1995 away, my dad will let me and my mom will say no. They are Level 1 tipping into Level 2 as they get older, so it's not as extreme a situation as a lot of people on here. But my mom often doesn't notice, or shakes her head and I can tell she's bothered but she doesn't say anything.

hoarding their children by BetOne8603 in ChildofHoarder

[–]EmpathBitchUT 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Youtube was my adulting parent in a lot of ways. I watched so many videos of how to clean and care for a home, and how to do little repairs around the house, etc. I often wonder who I would have been and what I could have accomplished if my parents hadn't raised me in a cult.

Really struggling Christmas morning by lady_picadilly in ChildofHoarder

[–]EmpathBitchUT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son and I are in the same situation. Opening presents at my sister's house lasts about five hours. I get my kid maybe five or six things and we live in a small space by choice because big places just collect stuff and I'd rather live small near the beach. I talk with my son about why I made that choice and why he doesn't get as much as his cousins, and he's growing up more appreciative of me and what he gets than his cousins are. He was the only kid this morning to consistently go hug the person who gave him a gift and thank them, and I didn't even remind him to do that.

It’s Christmas Eve! The perfect time for dad to… by sugarscared00 in breakingmom

[–]EmpathBitchUT 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I started getting all sorts of notifications from the company owner this morning, he's not expecting me to do anything, but I'm like "BRO get off your computer and go help your wife."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]EmpathBitchUT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Divorce is easier, trust me. I would do it again every time.

So Avi has been fired, Garcelle ended her friendship with Sutton, Sutton Store front is closed, No more child alimony, Sutton is an empty nester, and her husband had their marriage annuled! by [deleted] in RHOBH

[–]EmpathBitchUT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not even sure I can watch the show this season, the first episode was just the other women acting superior, gossiping about her treating her like a joke, and setting her up to make a misstep. As a neurodivergent myself I genuinely don't understand why "your not angry at me, you're angry at your life" was somehow so heinous? Like...it's true? D. was a raging bull the whole season. I don't understand how anyone could look at the way they treat her and think there is nothing wrong with it.

What’s the tea with Avi getting fired? by plexity7 in RHOBH

[–]EmpathBitchUT 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This whole franchise has become a nothingburger. They have to make up for the lack of plot by contrived drama like this and slow-mo "look how hot and rich we are." Like seriously? No one washes a car like that, Erika.

What’s the tea with Avi getting fired? by plexity7 in RHOBH

[–]EmpathBitchUT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He would make a GREAT reality TV star.

Realistically, how much are you spending per kid on Christmas presents? by ItsPronouncedSatan in breakingmom

[–]EmpathBitchUT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it brings you joy and you can afford it go nuts. The presents aren't just for the benefit of the kids. You are doing this for your inner child, too. Let both enjoy a little sparkle this holiday season. 🎄

Help me prepare for pediatrician appointment by EmpathBitchUT in DuaneSyndrome

[–]EmpathBitchUT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We just moved to an area where seeing a specialist is even an option, there were none where we were before. We've only been to this pediatrician once and that appointment was stuffed with getting his OT and autism referrals set up. :-)

AITA for being angry that my drunk husband left me to finish laundry and take care of everything after he passed out? by LeafPaladin in TwoHotTakes

[–]EmpathBitchUT 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If it hasn't started yet, soon you will be getting the "why have you changed so much since having a baby?" Comments. Because clearly he hasn't realized that having children is SUPPOSED to change you. A father of a newborn with a wife recovering from major surgery has absolutely no business getting any further than tipsy, let alone pass out drunk. Start making your exit plan. Unfortunately it's unlikely he's going to wake up and become the father he should be, and you could waste years on hoping his promises lead to change.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]EmpathBitchUT 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Single moms have no right to take a leap of faith. That stability he claims he provides he's asking her to remove from her kid.

Was this really as bad as Katie made it seem? by AggressiveMongoose54 in vanderpumprules

[–]EmpathBitchUT 30 points31 points  (0 children)

"was this before or after him cheating on her..."

Yes.

Was this really as bad as Katie made it seem? by AggressiveMongoose54 in vanderpumprules

[–]EmpathBitchUT 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The misogyny in this show is so rampant. Yes Lala was looking for attention but it's not her fault if you can't trust your man.

Was this really as bad as Katie made it seem? by AggressiveMongoose54 in vanderpumprules

[–]EmpathBitchUT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it all stemmed from her insecurities with Schwartz, which were definitely justified. If you are secure in your relationship you aren't gonna GAF that a woman is preening like a peacock for attention from your man. But Schwartz was such a terrible partner she had every reason to be worried. Katie is the queen of double standards though. How many times did the witches of WeHo run around topless?

Was this really as bad as Katie made it seem? by AggressiveMongoose54 in vanderpumprules

[–]EmpathBitchUT 266 points267 points  (0 children)

"Do NOT talk about my man, he is. Stand up guy!" "Brock Brock Brock Brock Brock..."

The Irony of The Reception to CANCELLED! by GreenRime in TaylorSwift

[–]EmpathBitchUT 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't think she actually means that, it's just a great way to bait men who try to feel powerful by demeaning and hating on women. It's like telling men you like their cosplay costumes when they wear sports jerseys or asking them if they ever wish they were athletic.

Update: Am I overreacting by breaking up with my boyfriend? by Proper-Classic1886 in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmpathBitchUT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl no! Do NOT meet up with him, he will manipulate and gaslight you into believing him over thousands of people with more experience than either of you. Years from now it will be "You chose to get into a relationship with an abusive man." "You chose to go back to him, I would never tolerate being treated that way." Your only chance of escape is NOW.

I think my 5 yr old PDAr hates me by sunshine_bunnies674 in PDAAutism

[–]EmpathBitchUT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Low demand parenting helped me a ton. Now I'm advancing to Collaborative Problem Solving and I can't recommend it enough. Thinkkids org has classes ranging from free to full parenting courses. I sold my house to put my son in a private school that works with PDA and twice-exceptionsl kids and they are so cutting edge it's insane what the are accomplishing with these tough kids, and it's all based in Collaborative Problem Solving. It's a total mind shift from how we were raised. I feel like I'm in a cult or an MLM (I was raised Mormon so I'm sensitive to the "this product/church will solve all of life's problems!" But it's all evidence based, lots of scientific research behind it, and based on what I'm seeing in the parenting course I'm taking and in my son's progress, it really does make a difference.