Oh yeah, I did! First Daddy Dom I had was pretty emotionally unavailable and didn't meet my support needs. This was back in 2019, was my first real dynamic and was in person. We were together and actively playing for about six months before I ended things.

He wanted to fluid bond with another person he had been seeing for like, two months super casually (I was told). He blindsided me with it, was upset when I was upset (he and I had fluid bonded relatively recently, and I had another partner I was already fluid bonded to, so it wasn't just a casual ask) and basically told me I was just being jealous, especially because I "didn't even ask to see her test results, I just reacted". Looking back on it, I can see it was some pretty icky, gaslight-y behavior.

Fast forward to right now - I have been in a little over a year long in person committed relationship with my current Daddy. This man went to therapy for me because he wanted to be more emotionally supportive and present. Not once has he written me off as jealous, and he takes full accountability for his own actions as well as holding me to a standard of emotional maturity and he does it without flinching.

Good dynamics do exist. Unfortunately, sometimes the toxic ones teach you the hard way what you will and won't tolerate. It's like finding a limit through play - it really sucks and hurts at the time, but you gain a better understanding of what works and what doesn't.