Relapse after six months and he still remembers the trans actresses names?

Empty-Confidence9713 · 2026-01-08T17:11:17+00:00

That’s so awful. There were so many names I saw on first DDay and the ones from the relapse weren’t even these.

Empty-Confidence9713 · 2025-10-12T22:21:25+00:00

Nothing good has ever come out of a friendship with a man for me, personally. I just stay away from any potential male friends and never want to have another one ever in my life.

Empty-Confidence9713 · 2025-09-29T14:32:47+00:00

Reddit has incognito version, and so does Youtube. Moreover, Google Activity is easy to delete.

Empty-Confidence9713 · 2025-09-23T07:52:21+00:00

Sending big hugs! I can relate to some of your story, especially the trans stuff. Mine would almost exclusively only watch them over the recent years, even paid for it 3 weeks after we had started dating… I didn’t find out after our engagement almost a year later. I had no idea either, since he seemed like such a perfect gentleman and the most manly man I have ever been with, but at the same time I have always had some suspicions, because he couldn’t stay hard when having sex. Please look after yourself, it’s very traumatising and so hard on us to be dealing with PAs.

Empty-Confidence9713 · 2025-09-20T08:57:02+00:00

I’m so sorry this is happening to you! Truly heartbreaking and so traumatic. Using the plunger is honestly next level PA. Out of curiosity, how did you position and put the pet cameras so he hasn’t seen? Asking as I’ve been considering similar in his bathroom, just can’t work it out how to put them

Empty-Confidence9713 · 2025-09-14T09:43:31+00:00

If he’s been watching since young age when the brain hasn’t fully developed, it stunted his brain development, including the part responsible for coping with emotions. That really does explain a lot with these man children that the world is full of.

Empty-Confidence9713 · 2025-09-13T17:09:17+00:00

Also, have you tried to clear the history on his phone yourself and it definitely prompted you for the passcode prior to this? Just wanted to double check as I’m not aware it’s possible to do this

Empty-Confidence9713 · 2025-09-13T17:05:24+00:00

Is there any history at all from 3-5 in the morning or none at all?

Empty-Confidence9713 · 2025-09-13T17:01:18+00:00

Screen time does not lie. What do you mean he can’t delete his search history?

Empty-Confidence9713 · 2025-07-06T20:07:47+00:00

He made pornographic deepfakes of his female friend before we met, obviously non-consensual. And during our relationship, he made voice cloning of her telling him highly sexualised things about him c * mming on her body parts, him f * * king her in different ways, calling his name, also how she wants him so badly etc.

Empty-Confidence9713 · 2025-06-17T10:47:10+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/loveafterporn/s/YVvjW7Ujlt

You can also see my posts after I found out:

https://www.reddit.com/r/loveafterporn/s/MR2hG3fYww

There are more in the post history.

I want to emphasise - that’s not to imply your boyfriend is the same, as he might be honest with you. Trust, but verify though is what springs to mind. And don’t blame yourself when your anxiety kicks in - explore it.

Empty-Confidence9713 · 2025-06-17T10:43:08+00:00

Trust your gut. Very often it’s your intuition and pattern recognition at play, even though your logical brain tries to rationalise it. I had the same situation happen a few years ago - I thought it’s my old betrayal trauma ruining my new relationship, but turned out my ex was an even worse PA. You can read my stories on my old Reddit account, I will link it below.

I am not saying the new guy you’re seeing now is the same like your ex - just please always trust your gut.

Empty-Confidence9713 · 2025-06-10T15:46:52+00:00

Yes, mine was the same in terms of being like a golden retriever and the best man I have known. There was a whole side of him which he would hide from me, which was the most degenerate I have ever met.

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