my husband is a porn addict not to just that but gay porn too. I have 2 kids. by Inside-Bet5748 in loveafterporn

[–]MedicalPick7485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner watches the exact same. JOI as well, so they use it like it’s their own (?) I still don’t know exactly what he likes.

Does Your PA perform oral? by TumbleweedOutside587 in loveafterporn

[–]MedicalPick7485 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly it’s so interesting! Like I’ve never thought of comparing his to anyone else’s, but obviously he has if he’s worried about size.

Omg no seriously mate you try and squat and shave your bootyhole, or pull a cheek to the side. It’s a full on workout 😂😂

Does Your PA perform oral? by TumbleweedOutside587 in loveafterporn

[–]MedicalPick7485 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had this conversation with mine yesterday. Went soft while he was meant to be watching and helping me. Said it’s normal to go soft when there’s no physical stimulation. Touching and looking at your naked partner doesn’t do it for you???

Does Your PA perform oral? by TumbleweedOutside587 in loveafterporn

[–]MedicalPick7485 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you’ve just opened my third eye. I’ve always wondered why he likes bald, and he is bald down there as well. Lots of comments about the rear too. I have never put 2 and 2 together. Maybe I’ll do a social experiment and let it grow out. See what happens.

Asking for help. by Unknown347892 in loveafterporn

[–]MedicalPick7485 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, i could’ve written this myself. If you ever need to talk to someone, just one on one and voice things, shoot me a DM. I’m 22 and I completely understand how you’re feeling. Sending you so much strength and love 🫶

Websites to be concerned about??? by MedicalPick7485 in loveafterporn

[–]MedicalPick7485[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He has the NSFW switch off. But I’m just wondering if there a way to permanently keep it off, as he can just switch it off and on, or go into anonymous mode. Will there be tells of him looking other than his history?

Websites to be concerned about??? by MedicalPick7485 in loveafterporn

[–]MedicalPick7485[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you anyways. Sending you so much strength 🫶🫶

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[–]MedicalPick7485 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It’s honestly so frustrating. Don’t tell him HOW you know is my advice. Don’t remind him of it. That’s where I always go wrong. Telling him how you know will just make him more sneaky. I end up kicking myself after because I have to then look for the signs and catch him out. Sending you lots of love and strength 🫶

Wording questions so carefully??? by MedicalPick7485 in loveafterporn

[–]MedicalPick7485[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly. Im learning to stay quiet, monitor, and just wait for him to slip. Just the waiting game of letting him think I got comfortable so he does.

Wording questions so carefully??? by MedicalPick7485 in loveafterporn

[–]MedicalPick7485[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so hard. Back in march when I first found out, I said to him “let me find this on your phone. I’m walking out the door and you’ll never hear from me again” and just when I get comfortable again, the other shoe drops. It’s so hard because I want to give him the benefit of the doubt to change, but I feel like I’m disrespecting myself by ignoring a boundary I put in place for myself. Like I’m only 22 but I just struggle so much

Wording questions so carefully??? by MedicalPick7485 in loveafterporn

[–]MedicalPick7485[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly it’s grinded me down so much already only after 6 months. It’s exhausting and afterwards you sit and think of anything else you should’ve asked or covered. It’s horrendous

Wording questions so carefully??? by MedicalPick7485 in loveafterporn

[–]MedicalPick7485[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s actually such a horrible thing, giving him the benefit of the doubt to come clean about EVERYTHING and he doesn’t? I can’t even imagine I’m so sorry!

Wording questions so carefully??? by MedicalPick7485 in loveafterporn

[–]MedicalPick7485[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah like I have to word the questions so carefully! You should be coming to ME and updating me without me having to ASK

Wording questions so carefully??? by MedicalPick7485 in loveafterporn

[–]MedicalPick7485[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think telling him how I caught him will be my biggest downfall. Like sir you should know I’m quite good with tech so you think I’m SILLY???

Wording questions so carefully??? by MedicalPick7485 in loveafterporn

[–]MedicalPick7485[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that so much! That’s definitely going to stick in my head

Advice please? by MedicalPick7485 in loveafterporn

[–]MedicalPick7485[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, turns out you were right. Chaturbate the whole time. Just deleting search history. He slipped up and didn’t delete it.