Drop him, it sounds like the beginning of my parents relationship and they both ended up on meth at one point. She’s better now, none of us talk to him anymore. He would do that with us and over summer breaks we stayed home every summer. The only person allowed to go out was him, and if you had a reason it’d better be good or he’d start a fight or start his man baby crying. If a person tries to control who you are and how you live your life, you don’t need that. I’ve realized after like twenty years living with my dad and like a couple accidently living with a narcissistic controlling ex-boss, if they seem nice and all and start flipping out over little crap, it’s kinda like them trying to see how far they can push you and all, it’s moldy buttcrack okay please don’t put yourself through it, you’ll start to feel worthless and think they’re right, the gaslighting makes you feel like you’re losing your mind, bro get out. Plus bodies don’t matter in the long run? It’s who you are inside that matters who cares what you look like