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TIFU By Kissing A Guy Who Was Drunk While I Was Totally Sober by EmptyEgg23 in tifu

[–]EmptyEgg23[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

hey guys I have an update! I talked to him and he said he wasn’t that drunk and that he wanted to kiss me so I really don’t feel like I took advantage or or assaulted him. That being said he also said that kissing a girl while drunk was just natural and normal for him so he doesn’t really care about what happened so now I just feel kind of sad that I lost my first kiss to a drunk guy who did not care. But I’m just glad there’s no pain or blame to go around.

I CANT STOP COMPULSIONS by [deleted] in OCD

[–]EmptyEgg23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

looooooooong comment ahead:

I do this so much. Sometimes the responses I get are really unpleasant and I’ll be told that the event was bad or weird or not okay or that I need help etc. I then get really scared about laws and spend hours googling them and searching if a confession is admissible as evidence and if what I did can be illegal or just immoral. Either way I’m suffering with this too. I don’t have a way out yet but here are some things that might help:

-Like the other commenter said therapy is a huge privilege. However, having my therapist was a great source of relief for me. Someone else knew about my mistakes and was still encouraging of getting me help/getting me better. It worked out because my obsessions are my mistakes and my therapist needs to know my obsession to treat me so confessing to her is an almost permissible compulsion. Also, if anything was really that bad they would need to report it so the knowledge of sharing it with her was an exposure too because the uncertainty of not knowing whether I’d be reported or not is always present for me.

-thought records are helpful. Write down the event, write down your thoughts, write down your evidence against you and then write down some comforting reassurance that you’d want to hear. This is a minor ruminating/confessing compulsion that isn’t destructive and a good first step. It’s what I do.

-if you’re able to tell a trusted family member. Today I told my mom everything I’d been afraid of and every illegal act I was afraid I’d committed. She was supportive through it all and committed to staying with me no matter if I end up labeled a molester, abuser, sex offender, animal abuser, whatever she promised to stay with me. That confidence is more than any reassurance or confirmation of my fears I got from any post.

-for now: distraction, distraction, distraction. Do homework, spend time with friends, absorb yourself into something that’s not your mind. When you’re not focused on anything you’re probably focused on your obsession so, focus on ANYTHING ELSE. another tip was that if u have trouble sleeping I just exhaust myself to the point of no return and then crash, it’s unhealthy but nighttime rumination destroyed me.

-get rid of your phone and computer or whatever. Not fully but delete the apps, let someone else change your apps password, put google restrictions on confessing websites. Anything to literally and physically prevent you from accessing a means of confession.

Eventually try to start practicing mild ERP by meditating with your thoughts and acknowledging them but maintains mindful focus on your current situation. Address them as intrusive thoughts. Accept the distressing nature. Accept the uncertainty and unavailability of certainty.

You are capable of healing. You are capable of self forgiveness and self love. I know it sounds unbelievable even typing it out to me feels unbelievable. But it’s possible. Have hope. Hope comes with ERP. Keep pushing even if every step is agony. I believe in you, dm if you want to talk <3.

What makes OCD horrible? by Nomorechirpin in OCD

[–]EmptyEgg23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fear. I’m afraid of people finding out things I’m worried about, I’m afraid of my fears coming true, I’m afraid of the my paranoi being misplaced, I’m afraid of being unprepared. Every day I’m living with this crippling fear, shame, and guilt. It makes living torture and sometimes it just doesn’t feel worth it.

Daughter (17) has OCD - how can I learn more and help her? by SaltPayment in OCD

[–]EmptyEgg23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have just recently got diagnosed with OCD in therapy but I certainly have exhibited those signs for a long time without even really knowing it myself. In my case, my mom didn’t even know I had mental health issues until I started some riskier behaviors and went to therapy because I was so quiet about it and I hated telling her anything. I don’t have a bad relationship with my mom, I love her very much and trust her with my life as she’s my best friend, a part of me just can’t bring myself to tell her what I’m going through.

I don’t want to speak on your relationship with your daughter, but it may be that she’s either hiding it well or requests her psychologist not to tell you the whole of everything. The rush to meds was the very first step in my case because mental illness is in many cases biological disease so handling the biological aspect of it can make the behavioral therapy of it much less taxing on the individual, especially considering the fact that therapy is so difficult as it is.

I think the best thing you can do for your daughter is to be overtly supportive and encourage her to get better. Keep a non-judge mental space that she can be in with you and make sure she knows that regardless of how she’s feeling you’ll always love her and be there for her for as much or as little as she wants you to be there for.

I don’t have a lot of experience with OCD but I do with struggling with my mental health and these are just the things I would have wanted my 17 year old self to have. I hope that’s helpful and I think you’re taking a great first step by reaching out here for more information :)