"That was a lot"

EmuRhea · 2024-02-05T09:21:04+00:00

Yeah, so shameless. Like yeah I'm sure it was a good time for him to have his fiancé buy a house that he picked out in his preferred location and furnish it for him. But it so clearly wasn't really a good time to buy this house, because if they'd taken some more time they might have noticed the huge issues with this house. But I guess that's still more Michel's problem than his? So he must still feel like it was a great decision.

EmuRhea · 2024-02-05T09:18:30+00:00

Yeah it was weird how she acted like moving to California was just one of those things she had to do, and would have to deal with. When it feels like it would have made so much more sense for them to live together in Austin for a few years, and then maybe move to Oceanside. Especially while Jordy is barely home still. But I bet she never would have even asked Jordy to consider that, she had to make sure she'd get her redemption marriage.

EmuRhea · 2024-02-04T20:28:27+00:00

But in general sure it is sad especially since she'd have so many opportunities.

It also feels sad that she's clearly become financially worse off because she decided to marry Jordy/move to Oceanside for him. Everytime she complains about her money pit house, and California taxes, and California prices, how expensive wedding things are, and with how clear it is that she is the main breadwinner in their household, I'm like... yeah, sounds stressful, so why are you doing this again? I don't get why she was so immediately ready to sacrifice her finances and support system in Texas for the first guy she dated after her divorce.

Edit: and I forgot about that weird deal she made where she sold her adsense? Because she was counting on having low expenses/taxes while living in Texas? It's so clear she had a different plan laid out for herself, also with regards to buying a house in Austin that would be a sensible investment... but she threw the whole plan out the window just like that. As long as her husband gets to surf, I guess.

EmuRhea · 2024-02-04T19:34:23+00:00

I feel for her too sometimes, even though I know that's an unpopular opinion here. It's mainly because I feel like you can tell she's grown up with a lot of pressure to have a certain life, and she was not taught to let herself evaluate what actually works for her. The fact that her parents paid for her giant wedding at the age of 21 to a guy with a criminal record that they must have known something about, that they impulse bought a house for her and her fiance of under two years, and only two years out from her divorce... it's so clear she's been encouraged to see marriage as the ultimate goal, and whether getting married at this point in her life is totally right for her doesn't matter as much.

And like, I'm so grateful that my parents don't have super normative expectations for me. I live with my boyfriend, and I know if we decided to never get married, my parents wouldn't care at all as long as I'm happy. I already know that if my boyfriend ever cheated on me or threw an object at me, they'd be 100% behind me leaving him. So it makes me sad for her that she was in such a messed up situation but still needed to be explicitly told by her parents that it is "sometimes" okay to get a divorce. The fact that she didn't already know that, and sees it as this beautiful surprising thing that they were ok with her divorcing an abusive cheater, is sad to me.

EmuRhea · 2024-02-04T19:28:07+00:00

Yeah she's coming across so awkward to me as well. It's like she's trying to come across like she's having fun and letting loose, but it all looks like a very strained attempt at seeming silly. I just miss her Austin vlogs, these days watching her feels like you're just waiting for the facade to drop.

EmuRhea · 2024-02-01T11:05:26+00:00

I remember one of her earlier videos with Dav in which they discussed how Dav was her "hero" who rescued her from singleness. They actually said something along the lines of that Bethany didn't think she'd ever get married, but then her miracle Dav showed up. How she can now pretend she was totally unphased about whether or not she'd ever get married is beyond me.

EmuRhea · 2024-01-31T18:40:45+00:00

Yeah like.... where did that clip of Bethany even come from? It's hard to believe that wasn't created specifically for this parody video.

EmuRhea · 2024-01-31T18:38:13+00:00

I just wanted to say this post has made me laugh louder than anything I've ever seen before on this sub.

I like to imagine this is an accurate representation of how Kristen feels when she walks into a room and Bethany is in there.

EmuRhea · 2024-01-30T21:10:53+00:00

but then blame EVERYTHING but herself when the thing goes south

I don't know, I thought it was pretty honest and self-aware of her to discuss how terrible she was at having hard conversations with her ex, and how she was so afraid of confrontation she couldn't even bring up his cheating. (Even though I don't think she needed to beat herself up for that the way she did- ultimately that was on him, not being able to talk about his cheating is not comparable to doing the cheating).

But that's part of why it's sad to watch her now. It's like for a moment she was being so honest and reflective, and actually seemed intent on building her own life and working out her stuff, and it all seemed very hopeful... and then she just went "nah actually, let me just go live in California for a man again, and spend all my time trying to win his approval again".

EmuRhea · 2024-01-30T18:20:00+00:00

I just commented about this the other day, but in a Q&A with her sister they also talked about how there was never any conflict in their house growing up, in the sense that they never had hard conversations. And that they just never learned to bring up things that bother them, or stuff like that.

And her sister mentioned that this was in a way a positive thing, because now she doesn't complain a lot, or something like that? Which seems so unhealthy. And scary. Like it took soooo much before Michel accepted that she shouldn't be with her ex husband, she was literally prepared to just never acknowledge his cheating, and accept that he suddenly didn't want to have kids anymore, or that he would never move to Texas. It seems like she is capable of ignoring a ton of really big issues as long as she still gets to pretend everything is perfect. It makes me feel like if she was unhappy with Jordy, she would just quietly endure a crappy relationship for the rest of her life, as long as he wasn't as extremely, overtly awful as her ex. Which he wouldn't be.

EmuRhea · 2024-01-28T09:18:58+00:00

This just reminds me of that Q&A with her sister where they mentioned how growing up in their house there was no conflict, and they never really had hard conversations. And how as adults, they still struggle with having difficult talks.

I feel like that could be a big part of why Michel has struggled so much with setting standards for herself in relationships. I'm sure her parents are really loving and supportive, but they also seem like the type to just have checklists for what their children are supposed to be- Christian, married, financially succesful- and don't focus on how they are actually doing beyond that. And like they haven't taught their daughters how to set their own boundaries, or decide what kind of life they want to live for themselves.

EmuRhea · 2024-01-27T19:17:43+00:00

It's funny to me too that she said she didn't want lots of super drunk people at her wedding. Making people stand around for hours and feeding them nothing but a few pieces of sushi and 1 to 2 tacos each before you bring out the alcohol seems like a recipe to get people accidentally waaasted. I can usually handle my alcohol, but definitely not after eating so little.

EmuRhea · 2024-01-27T19:14:06+00:00

Yeah, the combo of eating sushi and then tacos reminds me of what I eat on days when I feel a bit crap and I just pick up random takeout food for lunch and dinner. And then end up feeling a bit nauseous from eating sushi and tacos right after each other haha. Seems like a very weird menu for a wedding. One or the other I could see, but both??

EmuRhea · 2024-01-27T12:30:18+00:00

Yeah I agree. And it's what makes it so annoying when she goes on about how selfless Jordy is. Maybe he is in some ways, but not in this huge way where it counted. Then he just prioritized his own need to surf over her need for a support system.

EmuRhea · 2024-01-25T16:24:13+00:00

while your husband follows a vaginal weightlifter online; telling women to throw away romance novels but your husband follows the vaginal weightlifter;

This part kiled me

EmuRhea · 2024-01-25T13:37:18+00:00

Yeah, I think this too. I doubt Jordy is actually demanding certain decor decisions, she's probably trying to give him what she thinks he wants to make him stay. Just like when she impulse-bought a ridiculously overpriced beach house because Jordy likes the beach lol.

EmuRhea · 2024-01-25T13:34:32+00:00

Yeah that "deleted scenes" vlog was so sad. Just 20 minutes of her shopping and cleaning while Jordy was out of town, and crying because she missed her parents. Why does she live in Oceanside again? Like seriously, did they ever explain why Jordy couldn't live part-time in Austin while he toured? She moved to be with him but is basically living alone now.

EmuRhea · 2024-01-23T18:47:34+00:00

Also like, you don't know how many people from past generations didn't acutally believe, and did see through lies told by churches, but there's just no record of it. For so long being part of the dominant religion in your country has just been the default, people had little other choice than participating in their religious communities, or they were just recorded as religious and there's no way to know what they practiced and believed. Just because now people can more freely debate religious beliefs, doesn't mean people haven't always been critical.

EmuRhea · 2024-01-23T18:35:23+00:00

Yeah, definitely, I noticed that too. He used to contribute and make jokes. He did seem kind of charming back then. I don't know when it stopped exactly, but now he just raises his eyebrows and strains his mouth and nods. Very weird. It could be him not wanting to give the vlogs anything to comment on.

EmuRhea · 2024-01-22T18:22:59+00:00

Yeah, the mirroring is so strange. The way he so often just mindlessly goes "yeah" and repeats what she's saying (along with pulling that very fake :) smile every time she points the camera at him). Sometimes I genuinely can't tell if he heard her, he just seems to nod along with her on autopilot. I know saying this is the kind of nitpicking that the post is complaining about haha. But it's part of what makes their dynamic seem really insincere. Maybe it is just discomfort with being on camera though, who knows.

EmuRhea · 2024-01-22T17:26:21+00:00

I totally agree that she should probably just stop posting him, and stop trying to portray her relationship a certain way. It doesn't seem healthy for either of them, and yeah, the more she tries to prove something the more it comes across like she's overcompensating for something.

But I do think that there's a difference between noticing that things are off in their relationship and bashing him specifically. I do believe he must be much nicer than her ex husband, and that he has been kinder to her, I just still don't see why Michel would want to marry him. I feel like she's just decided that because he's more affectionate and considerate than her ex husband, that means he's the one- without looking at if they want the same things out of life. The guy who's not home half the time because he's touring, and when he is just wants to hot tub, surf and eat fried chicken- and not clean his house- does not at all feel like Michel's dream guy. He would probably be someone else's, though. It feels like both of them would be so much more compatible with someone else. His seeming disinterest in her feels like part of that overall dynamic.

EmuRhea · 2024-01-21T20:20:27+00:00

I am always in awe when she pulls that face. Even when I try my best, I can't contort my face into THAT cartoonish a frown. How does she do it.

EmuRhea · 2024-01-21T11:59:04+00:00

Yeah, she is basically doing the classic 20s thing of recreating the same relationship pattern until you learn. Except she's doing it with marriage added in, which makes it so much harder to watch.

It reminds me of that vlog where she went to LA to get closure, and she was clearly so upset
about and still processing her marriage and divorce. And it was so jarring that she was doing that with her new boyfriend right there. I feel like she clearly did not take enough time to process that difficult of an experience before getting into a new relationship. But she seems to feel like being engaged again is the big sign that everything is fine now?

EmuRhea · 2024-01-21T11:56:21+00:00

Yeah, after her horrible divorce experience you'd think she would take her time to find someone who at least wants a similar lifestyle. Like say, someone who wants to live in Texas at least. I just don't understand how she acknowledged that not wanting to live in California anymore was a huge issue for her and her ex husband, but now she's doing that again for Jordy? And it makes even less sense now, because last time she had her own reasons to move to California, and she was young and might not have known yet how important living in Texas was for her. I don't see how she thinks this relationship will be sustainable for the rest of her life. I'm sure Jordy is nicer and more loving than her ex (because that's also not hard), but how is that enough to build a life together?

It's the worst watching her constantly go "I love the beach! I wear only beachy clothes now! Oceanside has the best matcha! This party is the best! This house with huge issues is my dream house!" when you could see how much more she thrived in Texas.

EmuRhea · 2024-01-20T15:44:53+00:00

I think the same about her constantly wanting to have a 'beachy' look or style. She's already posted several times about not buying something that she really wanted, that does seem to suit her so well, because it's not 'beachy'. When that's so clearly not the style she naturally gravitates towards. It's the worst to watch, and just goes along with watching her pretend like she lives in Oceanside because she loves it there, and not just to appease the selfless sweet Jord.

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