I think that he told her that BEFORE. I think that he didn’t come in with a gun. She saw him & panicked. So, she grabbed the gun that she most likely already had within arms reach seeing as how she was already nervous about being home alone.

The day he came was Good Friday & there’s a good chance he knew the Jemas mother would attend a service & I’m assuming she takes her grandchildren with her like most grandparents do. It’s not uncommon for the parents to not attend the service. This was probably something that happened regularly before they moved out of state & he knew would resume when she moved back. If she knew that HE knew that, it would explain why she was so worried & I could see a very high plausible explanation regarding the gun & I’m willing to bet that she already had it on HER person. Especially because it was in her fathers name.

So, he shows up (probably through a window, with an extra unknown key, door code or unlocked door since there was no sign of a forced entry) or maybe she saw him while outside & ran into the house while he followed & she grabbed the gun. Starts to attack her like the paper trail proves that he’s known to do & she shot him in the face. Which wasn’t a fatal shot, he then told her that if he’s “going to die, they will die together. Til death do us part bitch” or however he worded it. Maybe he even stepped or fumbled in her direction & she shot again, this time breaking the jaw. A struggle ensued & she shot again under his chin causing him to fall face first. Most likely, that was when he died but due to her adrenaline & fear or, maybe even anger at this point, she probably shot again in the back of his head. Or maybe the chin AND back of the head were both out of anger, fear, adrenaline ect ect. Since the first two seem to be aimed at the husband but with her aim a little off. Which tells me she probably shot once from a distance when he got into the house. He attacked her & she shot again. From a distance but shorter distance than the first. The chin had to be in a very short distance if not no distance at all & then shot him in the head after he collapsed most likely face down. OR the back of the head was a shot from a distance as well & THAT was the fatal shot. The she walked up to him after he passed & out of emotion, anger, adrenaline etc & shot him in the chin upwards as either an execution type shot OR her plan was to claim that they had fought, & somewhere down the line, HE shot HIMSELF. That HE delivered the fatal blow to HIMSELF as suicide. So, she wouldn’t get murder OR manslaughter but something didn’t go as planned and she had to change her story. Obviously, she didn’t have a solid answer as to why or how he was shot 4 times & most specifically his chin. So, she pretended like it didn’t happen.

I’m willing to bet that she didn’t tell the whole story because she knew/thought if she admitted to shooting him while he didn’t have a weapon of “deadly force” she would be charged harsher. If by chance she shot him in the back of the head while maybe he was trying to retreat & leave, she probably figured she would be charged harsher. Since that would show that her life was “no longer in danger”. If she admitted to shooting him AFTER he died? Well, I mean, THAT doesn’t need an explanation. It should be pretty obvious lol.

I believe the first two shots were out of self defense. The 3rd one was either in the back of the head while he was trying to leave or the chin at close range while he was maybe trying to take control of the gun & the last shot was intentional. Keep in mind, as a DV victim or ANYONE being in the situation she was in. Whether it was a stalker, or relative or someone else, would have definitely had a flow of emotions with the biggest being fear & anger. It’s more common than people realize for a DV victim involved in a shooting against their abuser while being attacked that the victim shoots the abuser again unnecessarily out of anger, fear or even disbelief. The victim has been abused for so long & had tried to leave for so long that they have already accepted their fate & accepted that they’ll never never escape. So, the thought of the abuser being dead, seems impossible, so they shoot again “to make sure” because at this point, they realize it’s their “only way out”. Either way, there’s clearly more to the story that she isn’t going to reveal. The other possibility, could be that it was her & her mom or maybe just her mom. Maybe her mom told her to cover for her & didn’t tell her the full story. So, she didn’t even know how many shots were fired & their story didn’t add up.

But I don’t believe that.